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Do some posters...have selective memory or just forgetful? (14)

Oct 4, 2020 11:21 AM CST Do some posters...have selective memory or just forgetful?
LeeCharming
LeeCharmingLeeCharmingCardiff, South Glamorgan, Wales UK489 Threads 203 Polls 7,298 Posts
conversing
Oct 4, 2020 11:25 AM CST Do some posters...have selective memory or just forgetful?
germanspitzonline today!
germanspitzonline today!germanspitzingoldmells, Lincolnshire, England UK20 Threads 2,835 Posts
My memory is extremely selective when it comes to certain people ,so nothing to do with forgetfulness.grin
Oct 4, 2020 1:42 PM CST Do some posters...have selective memory or just forgetful?
AI_1984
AI_1984AI_1984Pueblo del Mar, Murcia Spain17 Threads 1,010 Posts
It depends?

I do tend to forget things sometimes...

Could be to do with age,
Or...because certain things are not that important to remember..
In which case I have a "selective " memory but not consciously.

The brain will only store certain things in the conscious mind...
While unimportant things will be stored in the subconscious.
Oct 4, 2020 1:44 PM CST Do some posters...have selective memory or just forgetful?
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden62 Threads 3 Polls 3,115 Posts
Who cares about some posters? Like, really?
Oct 4, 2020 2:04 PM CST Do some posters...have selective memory or just forgetful?
What were you talking about????

doh
Oct 4, 2020 2:06 PM CST Do some posters...have selective memory or just forgetful?
germanspitz: My memory is extremely selective when it comes to certain people ,so nothing to do with forgetfulness.
Just say it... you love me. rolling on the floor laughing
Oct 4, 2020 5:40 PM CST Do some posters...have selective memory or just forgetful?
Sawdust_Molly
Sawdust_MollySawdust_MollyKuurne, West Vlaanderen Belgium33 Threads 979 Posts
I repeat myself all the time! Love to hear myself debating with my alter ego about the same issues
rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing
Oct 5, 2020 2:15 PM CST Do some posters...have selective memory or just forgetful?
LeeCharming
LeeCharmingLeeCharmingCardiff, South Glamorgan, Wales UK489 Threads 203 Polls 7,298 Posts
Perhaps some like to makeout...they have forgotten...cause they want to get the upper hand on someone...but when it is me...they had better bring their A gamegrin flex
Oct 5, 2020 4:26 PM CST Do some posters...have selective memory or just forgetful?
nerd Selective Memory

Simply put, selective memory is a person’s ability to remember certain information and not remember other information. It can be the punch line of many jokes like when a spouse gets upset with their partner about forgetting to take out the trash. They might indignantly say something like, “I always take out the trash” which is not true. In reality, they had forgotten to take out the trash 2 weeks ago. In this case, a person is selecting information they want to remember, forgetting the rest.

Selective memory is NOT simply just remembering some information while forgetting other information. This type of memory implies a certain amount of intentionality behind it. Selective memory often involves the CHOICE to only remember CERTAIN FACTS or events. The brain is powerful and can even incite the selective memory process. It can happen in instances of TRAUMA. Someone who experienced abuse when they were young might not remember what happened in full detail. The brain helps them to forget traumatic moments that would bring tremendous pain. Sometimes selective memory is more directed by a person. If they get dumped, they might delete photos and block numbers in an attempt to move forward. Some of that can be OUT OF SIGHT, OUT OF MIND. However, it can be a person’s way of attempting to NOT REMEMBER the PAINFUL EMOTIONS felt when the relationship ended.

In the examples provided, selective memory can bring a PROTECTIVE LAYER to a person. There are some experiences in life that your brain, along with time, allows you to not remember. Have you ever been talking to someone and they bring up something that happened years ago? Suddenly, you are thrown back into that memory when you had not thought of it in years. It can be a strange experience when that happens. Some memories are so painful it can help to FORGET some of the DETAILS in order to MOVE FORWARD. Selective memory is not all bad, but it might not serve as a helpful long-term solution.
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Oct 5, 2020 4:56 PM CST Do some posters...have selective memory or just forgetful?
Chances are we all know someone with "Selective Memory", and we are probably related to them. (It may take years to see it in a person). I have a relative with it. She had a death trauma. Talking to her can be frustrating sometimes, because my good memory or pleasant memory, she may ASSOCIATE with one of her bad ones. doh
It took a long time for me to accept it and have patience with it. As she looks at me as if I have 3 heads.
Now.. I say okay and change the subject and tell myself "This is how she deals with it".
Oct 5, 2020 4:56 PM CST Do some posters...have selective memory or just forgetful?
LeeCharming
LeeCharmingLeeCharmingCardiff, South Glamorgan, Wales UK489 Threads 203 Polls 7,298 Posts
CossackCat: Selective Memory

Simply put, selective memory is a person’s ability to remember certain information and not remember other information. It can be the punch line of many jokes like when a spouse gets upset with their partner about forgetting to take out the trash. They might indignantly say something like, “I always take out the trash” which is not true. In reality, they had forgotten to take out the trash 2 weeks ago. In this case, a person is selecting information they want to remember, forgetting the rest.

Selective memory is NOT simply just remembering some information while forgetting other information. This type of memory implies a certain amount of intentionality behind it. Selective memory often involves the CHOICE to only remember CERTAIN FACTS or events. The brain is powerful and can even incite the selective memory process. It can happen in instances of TRAUMA. Someone who experienced abuse when they were young might not remember what happened in full detail. The brain helps them to forget traumatic moments that would bring tremendous pain. Sometimes selective memory is more directed by a person. If they get dumped, they might delete photos and block numbers in an attempt to move forward. Some of that can be OUT OF SIGHT, OUT OF MIND. However, it can be a person’s way of attempting to NOT REMEMBER the PAINFUL EMOTIONS felt when the relationship ended.

In the examples provided, selective memory can bring a PROTECTIVE LAYER to a person. There are some experiences in life that your brain, along with time, allows you to not remember. Have you ever been talking to someone and they bring up something that happened years ago? Suddenly, you are thrown back into that memory when you had not thought of it in years. It can be a strange experience when that happens. Some memories are so painful it can help to FORGET some of the DETAILS in order to MOVE FORWARD. Selective memory is not all bad, but it might not serve as a helpful long-term solution.
you did your homeworkwow
Oct 5, 2020 4:57 PM CST Do some posters...have selective memory or just forgetful?
Coldheaven
ColdheavenColdheavenLondon, Greater London, England UK2 Threads 984 Posts
I refuse to remember shit I don’t like laugh
Oct 5, 2020 5:00 PM CST Do some posters...have selective memory or just forgetful?
LeeCharming: you did your homework
nerd Yes.. Your thread forced me to remember what it means laugh and why I say "Okay" to her
Oct 5, 2020 5:11 PM CST Do some posters...have selective memory or just forgetful?
CossackCat: Chances are we all know someone with "Selective Memory", and we are probably related to them. (It may take years to see it in a person). I have a relative with it. She had a death trauma. Talking to her can be frustrating sometimes, because my good memory or pleasant memory, she may ASSOCIATE with one of her bad ones.
It took a long time for me to accept it and have patience with it. As she looks at me as if I have 3 heads.
Now.. I say okay and change the subject and tell myself "This is how she deals with it".
Selective memory is mostly a misnomer. Sometimes it does involve purposely overlooking certain facts, but mostly it's because different people put accent on different memories. The lesser memories have much less impact on their actions. The problem is to get them to realize how important certain things should be. And that sounds a bit too much like the traditional view--I intend to mean it's unlikely you can do that.
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