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I'm starting to think to stay single. (23)

Nov 13, 2020 4:35 PM CST I'm starting to think to stay single.
Always the same story. I am on a dutch datingsite and had contact with a nice girl for several weeks now, she lives about 40 km's from where I lived but wanted to return to a city she lived before, about 15 miles from where I live.
When we were both online, we were chatting for hours. I tried to arrange a date on the water, but everytime she said the weather wasn't good enough.
And then suddenly this morning I got the message that she met someone else (from her work) and they felt something for each other, so she will go on with him.

It is not the first time I have had this experience.

Fack them all
Nov 13, 2020 4:43 PM CST I'm starting to think to stay single.
Aruena
AruenaAruenaNuuk, Sermersooq Greenland2 Threads 2 Polls 129 Posts
Maybe you should disregard dating sites and try meeting someone offline, in a classical way, via friends, shared interests, joining some club, gym or - simply being around and meeting various people.

I plan to do so (start living more active life) as soon as this coronavirus situation ends.

I'm also tired of insecurity and distrust meeting people online regularly brings. Meeting quality people on dating sites is really rare nowadays...
Nov 13, 2020 4:58 PM CST I'm starting to think to stay single.
well, I work on different schools as a chesstrainer, making good money. But all the women I meet there are way to young, and mostly married.
In my cheswsclub there are no women that are interesting enough, and in the pubs I don't meet the nice women either, the pubs are closed for most of this year, probably till december the 15th.
I go out eating alone regularly, don't meet the women their either. And I won't go to a disco, most women are much to young their anyway.
So I guess I have to meet someone on the street or in the store, but it didn't happen yet.

I give up.
Nov 13, 2020 5:12 PM CST I'm starting to think to stay single.
Aruena
AruenaAruenaNuuk, Sermersooq Greenland2 Threads 2 Polls 129 Posts
How about getting a dog? That's a good way to meet new people. Or start running somewhere where there are a lot of other people running?
I think that the best way to meet someone is via other people. You should try to meet as many people as you can (men and women of all ages) and once you start that - the circle of people you know becomes bigger and bigger, you meet your friends' and acquaintances' friends, relatives, neighbours, colleagues... There's always someone among them who might be suitable.
I made new acquaintances everywhere - while walking at the same place every day (people started to notice and recognize me, then started saying "hello" and then began to chat...), at the doctor's, in a shop, on a bus/train, on the town beach, on some event I went to alone...
It's just important to keep in mind that you are simply meeting new people - no expectations or anything - in order to be relaxed and make other people around you relaxed, too. smile
Nov 13, 2020 5:16 PM CST I'm starting to think to stay single.
single life has many advantages, just don't think too much about it, who knows!
Nov 13, 2020 5:17 PM CST I'm starting to think to stay single.
Aruena: How about getting a dog? That's a good way to meet new people. Or start running somewhere where there are a lot of other people running?
I think that the best way to meet someone is via other people. You should try to meet as many people as you can (men and women of all ages) and once you start that - the circle of people you know becomes bigger and bigger, you meet your friends' and acquaintances' friends, relatives, neighbours, colleagues... There's always someone among them who might be suitable.
I made new acquaintances everywhere - while walking at the same place every day (people started to notice and recognize me, then started saying "hello" and then began to chat...), at the doctor's, in a shop, on a bus/train, on the town beach, on some event I went to alone...
It's just important to keep in mind that you are simply meeting new people - no expectations or anything - in order to be relaxed and make other people around you relaxed, too.
Nov 13, 2020 5:19 PM CST I'm starting to think to stay single.
oops..

The first dog that enteres my house will end his life in the frying pan. And I'm not a sporty guy, I hate running.
I cycle about 5000 km a year and that's okay with me.
Nov 13, 2020 5:37 PM CST I'm starting to think to stay single.
PeKaatje: Always the same story. I am on a dutch datingsite and had contact with a nice girl for several weeks now, she lives about 40 km's from where I lived but wanted to return to a city she lived before, about 15 miles from where I live.
When we were both online, we were chatting for hours. I tried to arrange a date on the water, but everytime she said the weather wasn't good enough.
And then suddenly this morning I got the message that she met someone else (from her work) and they felt something for each other, so she will go on with him.

It is not the first time I have had this experience.

Fack them all
I don’t think younare serious. But anyways there are plenty of fish in the seas.
Nov 13, 2020 5:42 PM CST I'm starting to think to stay single.
PeKaatje: Always the same story. I am on a dutch datingsite and had contact with a nice girl for several weeks now, she lives about 40 km's from where I lived but wanted to return to a city she lived before, about 15 miles from where I live.
When we were both online, we were chatting for hours. I tried to arrange a date on the water, but everytime she said the weather wasn't good enough.
And then suddenly this morning I got the message that she met someone else (from her work) and they felt something for each other, so she will go on with him.

It is not the first time I have had this experience.

Fack them all
Sounds like she kept you on the backburner...just in case the other guys she was talking too...did not work out...

When it's online women get hundreds of messages from suitable men...reject and ignore so many...but still manage to choose wrong guys the majority of the timeroll eyes
Nov 13, 2020 5:49 PM CST I'm starting to think to stay single.
Taralyn
TaralynTaralynFunk Island, Newfoundland Canada4 Threads 1,219 Posts
PeKaatje: Always the same story. I am on a dutch datingsite and had contact with a nice girl for several weeks now, she lives about 40 km's from where I lived but wanted to return to a city she lived before, about 15 miles from where I live.
When we were both online, we were chatting for hours. I tried to arrange a date on the water, but everytime she said the weather wasn't good enough.
And then suddenly this morning I got the message that she met someone else (from her work) and they felt something for each other, so she will go on with him.

It is not the first time I have had this experience.

Fack them all
You have to check out where you think women are that you want to meet.......
- produce section at grocery stores
- book stores
- parks (walking trails)
- church
- gym
- cooking classes (kill 2 birds with 1 stone)
- Facebook as a dating thing.
- find groups that deal with what you like to do and then post there if the option is available

Maybe that will be some help......

dunno
Nov 13, 2020 6:00 PM CST I'm starting to think to stay single.
Moelle
MoelleMoelleBeirut, Beyrouth Lebanon1 Threads 29 Posts
Do not despair
Nov 13, 2020 6:05 PM CST I'm starting to think to stay single.
Aruena
AruenaAruenaNuuk, Sermersooq Greenland2 Threads 2 Polls 129 Posts
PeKaatje: oops..

The first dog that enteres my house will end his life in the frying pan. And I'm not a sporty guy, I hate running.
I cycle about 5000 km a year and that's okay with me.
Poor little doggy... crying

Maybe the right person appears when you stop actively and desperately searching. smile
Nov 13, 2020 6:07 PM CST I'm starting to think to stay single.
PeKaatje: I tried to arrange a date on the water, but everytime she said the weather wasn't good enough.
If she was interested/ready she would have offered an alternative.
Nov 13, 2020 6:15 PM CST I'm starting to think to stay single.
Taralyn
TaralynTaralynFunk Island, Newfoundland Canada4 Threads 1,219 Posts
You know what, Pekaatje?

After taking a bit of time to think of your post, you're probably on the right track.
No one wants anyone or anything that's readily available. They want what's rare, one of a kind, unique.
Play hard to get.....
Nothing to lose.....
Nov 13, 2020 6:20 PM CST I'm starting to think to stay single.
If a woman is really into a guy...it won't be hard to make plans to meet up with her.

I think the best approach is...Exchanged Messages online for a short period of time...then get the phone number...then talk on the phone...then make plans to meet up...if she is full of excuses and not wanting to meet up as soon as possible....you could be one of many on the backburner and may never get your turn
Nov 13, 2020 6:27 PM CST I'm starting to think to stay single.
Bogart_1960
Bogart_1960Bogart_1960Ask me !, Provence-Alpes-Cote d'Azur France44 Threads 1 Polls 13,349 Posts
the difference between charming and creepy is how social attractive you are.

most women do prefer interesting men.
Nov 13, 2020 6:42 PM CST I'm starting to think to stay single.
I tried her to phone me, but she first wanted to meet me.
Nov 13, 2020 6:55 PM CST I'm starting to think to stay single.
PeKaatje: well, I work on different schools as a chesstrainer, making good money. But all the women I meet there are way to young, and mostly married.
In my cheswsclub there are no women that are interesting enough, and in the pubs I don't meet the nice women either, the pubs are closed for most of this year, probably till december the 15th.
I go out eating alone regularly, don't meet the women their either. And I won't go to a disco, most women are much to young their anyway.
So I guess I have to meet someone on the street or in the store, but it didn't happen yet.

I give up.
Aren't there Singles' Events in your area?
Our Clubs that organize activities for singles?
This is a wonderful way to meet lots of people with shared interests, possibly meet someone interesting, and if not, at least your social circle has increased, you have fun plans on the weekends, and life just is more interesting.

I'm sorry it didn't work out with her PeKattje.
Nov 13, 2020 7:01 PM CST I'm starting to think to stay single.
PeKaatje: Always the same story. I am on a dutch datingsite and had contact with a nice girl for several weeks now, she lives about 40 km's from where I lived but wanted to return to a city she lived before, about 15 miles from where I live.
When we were both online, we were chatting for hours. I tried to arrange a date on the water, but everytime she said the weather wasn't good enough.
And then suddenly this morning I got the message that she met someone else (from her work) and they felt something for each other, so she will go on with him.

It is not the first time I have had this experience.

Fack them all
She probably read some of you're comments on here Pek, some women are like that.. I hope you find the one you are searching for though..cheers
Nov 13, 2020 7:16 PM CST I'm starting to think to stay single.
PeKaatje: Always the same story. I am on a dutch datingsite and had contact with a nice girl for several weeks now, she lives about 40 km's from where I lived but wanted to return to a city she lived before, about 15 miles from where I live.
When we were both online, we were chatting for hours. I tried to arrange a date on the water, but everytime she said the weather wasn't good enough.
And then suddenly this morning I got the message that she met someone else (from her work) and they felt something for each other, so she will go on with him.

It is not the first time I have had this experience.

Fack them all
Life is full of adventure and learning experiences. Some are “Good” and some maybe not so good. That true fact of the universe will never change no matter what the circumstances. You want to experience companionship at a deeper, more intense level if you are fortunate enough to meet someone with a mutual attraction for each other and with a good intellectual connection to start. Think of it as teaching yourself to swim with your endurance and passion part of your everyday life. Fortune will follow to many areas of life. True Love will come at the right time when you listen to your intuition and follow your dreams.
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