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LunabeamSpencer, Massachusetts USA17 Threads 1 Polls 239 PostsIf you met a woman and fell in love with her, even though she had a traumatic past but had finished college, done a lot of healing, with therapy and self help groups and books, but was receiving SSI, and was doing a good job caring for her grandchildren whose mother was too irresponsible and impulsive to care for them, and was always in bad relationships with men, would you still marry her, or would her financial problems deter you?
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Lunabeam: If you met a woman and fell in love with her, even though she had a traumatic past but had finished college, done a lot of healing, with therapy and self help groups and books, but was receiving SSI, and was doing a good job caring for her grandchildren whose mother was too irresponsible and impulsive to care for them, and was always in bad relationships with men, would you still marry her, or would her financial problems deter you?
Probably not .Too much baggage for my liking .
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Lunabeam: If you met a woman and fell in love with her, even though she had a traumatic past but had finished college, done a lot of healing, with therapy and self help groups and books, but was receiving SSI, and was doing a good job caring for her grandchildren whose mother was too irresponsible and impulsive to care for them, and was always in bad relationships with men, would you still marry her, or would her financial problems deter you?
The operative words are: you fell in love with her..there must be a reason for that. 
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Shadow68: Probably not .
Too much baggage for my liking .
But you fell in love with her, probably best you walk away if you are going to judge her by your preconceived ideas.Too much baggage for my liking .
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Lunabeam: If you met a woman and fell in love with her, even though she had a traumatic past but had finished college, done a lot of healing, with therapy and self help groups and books, but was receiving SSI, and was doing a good job caring for her grandchildren whose mother was too irresponsible and impulsive to care for them, and was always in bad relationships with men, would you still marry her, or would her financial problems deter you?
The key phrase might be ' fell in love ...' plus we all have a past ..things we didn't handle well, or wished we'd taken a different path ...once you're in love ..you're in for good or bad ...:))------ This thread is Archived ------
Lunabeam: But you fell in love with her, probably best you walk away if you are going to judge her by your preconceived ideas.
I wouldn’t put myself in that position.People have to take responsibility for their past actions & I don’t give my heart away that easily.
Saying that , I wouldn’t disrespect, or talk down to that person .
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That really is down to the individual. There might be something that wouldn’t bother me in a man that may put you off. We all have past and some kind of baggage ( don’t like using that word but it’s late and can’t think of anything else) All we can do is keep working on our own life and hope that a person is understanding of our circumstances if not their not the person for you.
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Lunabeam: If you met a woman and fell in love with her, even though she had a traumatic past but had finished college, done a lot of healing, with therapy and self help groups and books, but was receiving SSI, and was doing a good job caring for her grandchildren whose mother was too irresponsible and impulsive to care for them, and was always in bad relationships with men, would you still marry her, or would her financial problems deter you?
You're asking the rational mind to speak for the emotional mind. But it can't because they're worlds apart and speak two totally different languages. So.... I'm willing to bet the answer would be yes in every case. Because, regardless of her past..if some fella (and women too) falls in love their rational mind is kicked to the kerb and their emotional brain (amygdala) takes over center-stage and is having a right ol' wild ride of a time...so who cares what the thinking rationale "oh so sensible" brain said last week....."I'm in love".."She's perfect"...and "I wanna marry her"...yada yada yada....we've all heard it a million times...I don't know if she's a real person or not, but she sounds like someone one probably would stay away from in the first place...
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Lunabeam: If you met a woman and fell in love with her, even though she had a traumatic past but had finished college, done a lot of healing, with therapy and self help groups and books, but was receiving SSI, and was doing a good job caring for her grandchildren whose mother was too irresponsible and impulsive to care for them, and was always in bad relationships with men, would you still marry her, or would her financial problems deter you?
The individual you describe seems like a wonderful person who overcame a tremendous obstacle. Taking on their daughter's children is another positive trait. What's not to love?------ This thread is Archived ------
I would try to help her where-ever I can, but marrying would be a bad option I think. First solve the financial problems, marrying isn't actually free. So after solving the probs, we need to save some money.
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mbken: The individual you describe seems like a wonderful person who overcame a tremendous obstacle. Taking on their daughter's children is another positive trait. What's not to love?
The question already acknowledged the guy's love for the described individual.The question is, are you prepared to live a life with a partner who will never have any controle on the quality of her everyday life because the mother of the children she has welcomed in her care has stability issues?
That means any plans made as a family can go out of the window in a milisecond because the mother of the children you will be caring for is 'having an episode'... If you're aware of that and 'take on the challenge' with eyes wide open then
But anyone not realising the implications will have a rude awakening
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Lunabeam: If you met a woman and fell in love with her, even though she had a traumatic past but had finished college, done a lot of healing, with therapy and self help groups and books, but was receiving SSI, and was doing a good job caring for her grandchildren whose mother was too irresponsible and impulsive to care for them, and was always in bad relationships with men, would you still marry her, or would her financial problems deter you?
I wouldn't marry a woman with kids(plural)unless she was a millionaire and they can be raised in a different wing of the house.------ This thread is Archived ------
Lunabeam: If you met a woman and fell in love with her, even though she had a traumatic past but had finished college, done a lot of healing, with therapy and self help groups and books, but was receiving SSI, and was doing a good job caring for her grandchildren whose mother was too irresponsible and impulsive to care for them, and was always in bad relationships with men, would you still marry her, or would her financial problems deter you?
You seem to have left out the 'financial problems' in your scenario. If a person loves the woman - he would help her.------ This thread is Archived ------
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