How important is communication to you? ( Archived) (38)

Communication is just as important as love, its vital if its going to be a good relationship.

The silent communication, the unwritten understanding. The truth is that I don't talk that much, and most of the things a woman says mean something different to the line as written. The best communication is to be very perceptive.

I’ve wanted to comment on this thread, but wasn’t sure how to proceed without stepping on toes or being in opposition to anyone’s cherished beliefs. I “get” frame #2– however, I have a bit different overall belief: even in the most solid marriage/similar, I think that there needs to be a certain level of respect for privacy-of-thought, and therefore, not “everything” is fair game. Not singling women out; I have never known a woman to not say to her loved one/mate, “I don’t want to talk about it. It has nothing to do with you...”, or similar. An example of what I’m saying is illustrated in the following, concerning a married couple I know well. The wife is extremely headstrong, yet frequently says things like “My husband is the family leader—he’s my “head”, like The Bible teaches”. (They’re very churchy) but nags him like there’s no tomorrow. When I’ve sat with them in church, and the minister tells the congregation to close their eyes and bow in a few minutes of personal, private prayer, she stares at him the whole time, and then needles him later about what he was thinking/praying. She then announces all of his emotions to her churchy girlfriends, reveling in airing his most sacred part of his personality. First, his private prayer/meditation is really none of her business, married or not ( she doesn’t tell him HERS..) second, she is severely compromising his personal inner privacy by betraying him to her gaggle. Communication is great, but I adhere to Khalil Gibran: “Let there be spaces in your togetherness”.

Which is actually one of the things I welcome about society becoming more Orwellian. The world can only get better at communicating silently under that level of threat. We can safely that the end of free speech will act against autism as optimistic as it sounds to say that the end of free speech will lead to things worth hearing. The tree of liberty must be nourished by the blood of patriots and tyrants. Black people in prison are much cooler than whites because they can't say things. George Floyd is supported because blacks are cooler than whites and it is because they stopped talking knowing that the cops are as cool as AIDS and twice as dangerous.