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Mar 1, 2021 10:45 AM CST How important is communication to you?
snowlynx
snowlynxsnowlynxgalway, Galway Ireland57 Threads 7,194 Posts
rohaan: I’ve wanted to comment on this thread, but wasn’t sure how to proceed without stepping on toes or being in opposition to anyone’s cherished beliefs. I “get” frame #2– however, I have a bit different overall belief: even in the most solid marriage/similar, I think that there needs to be a certain level of respect for privacy-of-thought, and therefore, not “everything” is fair game. Not singling women out; I have never known a woman to not say to her loved one/mate, “I don’t want to talk about it. It has nothing to do with you...”, or similar. An example of what I’m saying is illustrated in the following, concerning a married couple I know well. The wife is extremely headstrong, yet frequently says things like “My husband is the family leader—he’s my “head”, like The Bible teaches”. (They’re very churchy) but nags him like there’s no tomorrow. When I’ve sat with them in church, and the minister tells the congregation to close their eyes and bow in a few minutes of personal, private prayer, she stares at him the whole time, and then needles him later about what he was thinking/praying. She then announces all of his emotions to her churchy girlfriends, reveling in airing his most sacred part of his personality. First, his private prayer/meditation is really none of her business, married or not ( she doesn’t tell him HERS..) second, she is severely compromising his personal inner privacy by betraying him to her gaggle. Communication is great, but I adhere to Khalil Gibran: “Let there be spaces in your togetherness”.
I fully agree. Putting aside that awful woman and her lack of discretion I have always found that women don't share everything in their lives with their partner, as men often do. Every woman has her secrets and sometimes she will tell another woman things that she wouldn't tell her partner despite being with him for decades, and only just getting to know the woman she has just met.
Mar 1, 2021 10:47 AM CST How important is communication to you?
Lunabeam
LunabeamLunabeamSpencer, Massachusetts USA17 Threads 1 Polls 295 Posts
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Mar 1, 2021 10:49 AM CST How important is communication to you?
Lunabeam
LunabeamLunabeamSpencer, Massachusetts USA17 Threads 1 Polls 295 Posts
Poor, Poor, pitiful you.
Mar 1, 2021 10:51 AM CST How important is communication to you?
snowlynx
snowlynxsnowlynxgalway, Galway Ireland57 Threads 7,194 Posts
Lunabeam: Poor, Poor, pitiful you.
Are you referring to me Luna?
Mar 1, 2021 10:56 AM CST How important is communication to you?
Lunabeam
LunabeamLunabeamSpencer, Massachusetts USA17 Threads 1 Polls 295 Posts
snowlynx: Are you referring to me Luna?
Yes. I have had more lies spread by a man who claims to have discreation than you could ever imagine. He would claim it's all a matter of me not understanding, when in reality he was a coward who lacked communication skills and loved control.
Mar 1, 2021 11:04 AM CST How important is communication to you?
Lunabeam
LunabeamLunabeamSpencer, Massachusetts USA17 Threads 1 Polls 295 Posts
Lunabeam: Yes. I have had more lies spread by a man who claims to have discreation than you could ever imagine. He would claim it's all a matter of me not understanding, when in reality he was a coward who lacked communication skills and loved control.
And if he were in the military he would deserve a dishonarable discharge for his "leadership" skills, he lack of discipline, his treatment of subordinates and disrespect for everything and everyone.
Mar 1, 2021 11:05 AM CST How important is communication to you?
ChesneyChristonline today!
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Lunabeam: Can there be trust without it? Can there be equality without it? Can there be a relationship?
I would argue that the loss of free speech will spur our ability to communicate in other ways. Maybe even through the medium of dance or a new sound in music, Star Wars not being Star Wars but something new and different that is the equivalent of Star Wars. Not that I especially liked Star Wars the first time. Anybody with any personality gravitate away from the mainstream in the same way that the Alt-Right on Youtube are funnier than any comedian now allowed to take the stage. Oppression is something to overcome.
Mar 1, 2021 11:16 AM CST How important is communication to you?
Lunabeam
LunabeamLunabeamSpencer, Massachusetts USA17 Threads 1 Polls 295 Posts
ChesneyChrist: I would argue that the loss of free speech will spur our ability to communicate in other ways. Maybe even through the medium of dance or a new sound in music, Star Wars not being Star Wars but something new and different that is the equivalent of Star Wars. Not that I especially liked Star Wars the first time. Anybody with any personality gravitate away from the mainstream in the same way that the Alt-Right on Youtube are funnier than any comedian now allowed to take the stage. Oppression is something to overcome.
Too bad there's no cure for narcissism. And as we saw with trump traitors are not always brought to justice. He didn't care what was good for our country, he only cared what was good for him and his ego, no matter how much it hurt our country. There was only one way of seeing things, his way.
Mar 1, 2021 11:20 AM CST How important is communication to you?
snowlynx
snowlynxsnowlynxgalway, Galway Ireland57 Threads 7,194 Posts
Lunabeam: Yes. I have had more lies spread by a man who claims to have discreation than you could ever imagine. He would claim it's all a matter of me not understanding, when in reality he was a coward who lacked communication skills and loved control.
Don't see what that has to do with anything I said. There are always exceptions to the rule, I was speaking from my own experience just as I'm sure you were speaking from yours.
Mar 1, 2021 11:21 AM CST How important is communication to you?
snowlynx
snowlynxsnowlynxgalway, Galway Ireland57 Threads 7,194 Posts
Lunabeam: Too bad there's no cure for narcissism. And as we saw with trump traitors are not always brought to justice. He didn't care what was good for our country, he only cared what was good for him and his ego, no matter how much it hurt our country. There was only one way of seeing things, his way.
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Mar 1, 2021 11:30 AM CST How important is communication to you?
Lunabeam
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Mar 1, 2021 11:37 AM CST How important is communication to you?
Lunabeam
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Mar 1, 2021 11:45 AM CST How important is communication to you?
Lunabeam
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Just as Love is not complicated, it just is....ALL that is real.
Mar 1, 2021 12:04 PM CST How important is communication to you?
ChesneyChristonline today!
ChesneyChristonline today!ChesneyChristManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK8,481 Posts
Or maybe we could make our own clones and let them do the sex whilst we have an open and honest conversation in the background. Look over as their humping away with a sense of liberation and unity, a whole evening made out of the 10 minutes after you've c*m.
Mar 1, 2021 12:05 PM CST How important is communication to you?
For me personally it's nice to talk to people regulalrly, if I hadn't that, it would be really hard for me. But if I had to live on an isolated island, far from all the people, I hope I could make friends with some animals.
Bussinesslike, communication is a must, called a lot of schools today to see if there's a possibility to organise an online schoolchesstournament.
Still hope to find someone in my area who's good with the programm I want to use.
Mar 1, 2021 12:20 PM CST How important is communication to you?
Lunabeam: Yes. I have had more lies spread by a man who claims to have discreation than you could ever imagine. He would claim it's all a matter of me not understanding, when in reality he was a coward who lacked communication skills and loved control.
Ah, but one swallow does not a Summer make...have to agree with Snowlynx on her point of view. Not all men, nor women, display what you’re referring to, and although it’s unfortunate you experienced that, it’s not indicative of all of humanity. I refer back to my observations and the experience with my married couple/ friends. This thread appears to have been started regarding the importance of communication; early on it developed into some writers seeming to believe that there should be nothing hidden, “secrets”, as it were, in a relationship. I disagree that such beliefs are patent. It has nothing to do with the solitary misbehavior of SOME people, and that is why I quoted, “one swallow does not a Summer make”, because appearances are not always actualization. handshake
Mar 1, 2021 12:22 PM CST How important is communication to you?
Lunabeam: Too bad there's no cure for narcissism. And as we saw with trump traitors are not always brought to justice. He didn't care what was good for our country, he only cared what was good for him and his ego, no matter how much it hurt our country. There was only one way of seeing things, his way.
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Mar 1, 2021 12:23 PM CST How important is communication to you?
snowlynx: Don't see what that has to do with anything I said. There are always exceptions to the rule, I was speaking from my own experience just as I'm sure you were speaking from yours.
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Mar 1, 2021 12:25 PM CST How important is communication to you?
Selenite
SeleniteSeleniteMálaga, Andalusia Spain48 Threads 1 Polls 5,298 Posts
rohaan: I’ve wanted to comment on this thread, but wasn’t sure how to proceed without stepping on toes or being in opposition to anyone’s cherished beliefs. I “get” frame #2– however, I have a bit different overall belief: even in the most solid marriage/similar, I think that there needs to be a certain level of respect for privacy-of-thought, and therefore, not “everything” is fair game. Not singling women out; I have never known a woman to not say to her loved one/mate, “I don’t want to talk about it. It has nothing to do with you...”, or similar. An example of what I’m saying is illustrated in the following, concerning a married couple I know well. The wife is extremely headstrong, yet frequently says things like “My husband is the family leader—he’s my “head”, like The Bible teaches”. (They’re very churchy) but nags him like there’s no tomorrow. When I’ve sat with them in church, and the minister tells the congregation to close their eyes and bow in a few minutes of personal, private prayer, she stares at him the whole time, and then needles him later about what he was thinking/praying. She then announces all of his emotions to her churchy girlfriends, reveling in airing his most sacred part of his personality. First, his private prayer/meditation is really none of her business, married or not ( she doesn’t tell him HERS..) second, she is severely compromising his personal inner privacy by betraying him to her gaggle. Communication is great, but I adhere to Khalil Gibran: “Let there be spaces in your togetherness”.


I couldn't agree more on your last sentence!
If you don't trust your partner with his/her private thoughts and/or personal process I perceive it as "fear of something" which can't be healthy for the long term relationship. I like to be trusted through my process and be given the space including when I'm going through a creative phase. My partner deserves the same. Bo0th knowing all the while to be there for one another smitten


I know some women who "feed" on putting their husbands down when they get together. I can't understand and find it really confusing when the next day, one of them posts loving caring words on f/book for the birthday of the husband they were ridiculing to their friends the day before ... dunno
Ridiculing my partner to my friends would be like a betrayal for me.
Ro, that women's behaviour sounds abusive ...
Mar 1, 2021 12:28 PM CST How important is communication to you?
Selenite
SeleniteSeleniteMálaga, Andalusia Spain48 Threads 1 Polls 5,298 Posts
snowlynx: I fully agree. Putting aside that awful woman and her lack of discretion I have always found that women don't share everything in their lives with their partner, as men often do. Every woman has her secrets and sometimes she will tell another woman things that she wouldn't tell her partner despite being with him for decades, and only just getting to know the woman she has just met.
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