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Mar 21, 2021 11:18 PM CST Security or spying?
Friskyone
FriskyoneFriskyoneSanta Fe, New Mexico USA271 Threads 26 Polls 4,631 Posts
When going out on their first date, is running a background check before the date?

Is that being nosey/spying or does it make you feel safer for yourself.

Do you admit to doing it or keep that to yourself?

dunno
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Mar 21, 2021 11:23 PM CST Security or spying?
secretagent09
secretagent09secretagent09New Jersey Girl in, North Carolina USA198 Threads 4 Polls 7,223 Posts
Friskyone: When going out on their first date, is running a background check before the date?

Is that being nosey/spying or does it make you feel safer for yourself.

Do you admit to doing it or keep that to yourself?
I have never done it before the first date because I made sure to meet someone in public.
If he said something during that first date that made me uncomfortable I would then do a background check.
You have to assume that they are checking you out.
I wish I had done a checkup on several guys but that's over and done with a long time ago.

It's definitely not spying.
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Mar 21, 2021 11:26 PM CST Security or spying?
Friskyone
FriskyoneFriskyoneSanta Fe, New Mexico USA271 Threads 26 Polls 4,631 Posts
secretagent09: I have never done it before the first date because I made sure to meet someone in public.
If he said something during that first date that made me uncomfortable I would then do a background check.
You have to assume that they are checking you out.
I wish I had done a checkup on several guys but that's over and done with a long time ago.

It's definitely not spying.
I've personally not done that. The person may feel violated. But these days, you never know.

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Mar 21, 2021 11:36 PM CST Security or spying?
Lunabeam
LunabeamLunabeamSpencer, Massachusetts USA17 Threads 1 Polls 239 Posts
Friskyone: I've personally not done that. The person may feel violated. But these days, you never know.
i haven't done it, but looking back it would have been good if i knew about their background more. it's all fun and games until you're the one seen with your pants down. rolling on the floor laughing
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Mar 21, 2021 11:41 PM CST Security or spying?
Friskyone
FriskyoneFriskyoneSanta Fe, New Mexico USA271 Threads 26 Polls 4,631 Posts
Lunabeam: i haven't done it, but looking back it would have been good if i knew about their background more. it's all fun and games until you're the one seen with your pants down.
I agree, but my dating days are over now anyway. If I did do it, I definitely wouldn't tell them.
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Mar 22, 2021 12:26 AM CST Security or spying?
Lunabeam
LunabeamLunabeamSpencer, Massachusetts USA17 Threads 1 Polls 239 Posts
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Mar 22, 2021 3:05 AM CST Security or spying?
ChesneyChrist
ChesneyChristChesneyChristManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK7,144 Posts
Friskyone: When going out on their first date, is running a background check before the date?

Is that being nosey/spying or does it make you feel safer for yourself.

Do you admit to doing it or keep that to yourself?
Probably not. In the Soviet Union a man was shot and killed for collecting stamps and white men in the west will be criminalised in a similar way. But if it was a Lebanese taxi driver with proven dirty hands, they will throw the evidence away amidst calls for all white men to be placed on a 6pm curfew.
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Mar 22, 2021 3:07 AM CST Security or spying?
Mercedes_00
Mercedes_00Mercedes_00Greater Sydney, New South Wales Australia18 Threads 20,301 Posts
I would never do a background check..I couldn't be bothered..Red flags will pop up down the track anyway.
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Mar 22, 2021 3:10 AM CST Security or spying?
irish78eyes
irish78eyesirish78eyesMeath/Louth, Louth Ireland22 Threads 6,274 Posts
I wonder what they would find on me wink laugh
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Mar 22, 2021 3:11 AM CST Security or spying?
Mercedes_00
Mercedes_00Mercedes_00Greater Sydney, New South Wales Australia18 Threads 20,301 Posts
irish78eyes: I wonder what they would find on me
Thief laugh
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Mar 22, 2021 3:13 AM CST Security or spying?
irish78eyes
irish78eyesirish78eyesMeath/Louth, Louth Ireland22 Threads 6,274 Posts
Mercedes_00: Thief
I told ya not to be bringing that up, I only done 6 months, it was an orange. I was 8 laugh
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Mar 22, 2021 3:15 AM CST Security or spying?
Mercedes_00
Mercedes_00Mercedes_00Greater Sydney, New South Wales Australia18 Threads 20,301 Posts
irish78eyes: I told ya not to be bringing that up, I only done 6 months, it was an orange. I was 8
I'm so sorry for spilling my guts..I have tears from laughing rolling on the floor laughing
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Mar 22, 2021 3:17 AM CST Security or spying?
irish78eyes
irish78eyesirish78eyesMeath/Louth, Louth Ireland22 Threads 6,274 Posts
Mercedes_00: I'm so sorry for spilling my guts..I have tears from laughing
I better go to work or I'll be sacked
innocent wave
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Mar 22, 2021 3:18 AM CST Security or spying?
Mercedes_00
Mercedes_00Mercedes_00Greater Sydney, New South Wales Australia18 Threads 20,301 Posts
irish78eyes: I better go to work or I'll be sacked
Can't have that happen wave
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Mar 22, 2021 3:33 AM CST Security or spying?
tomcatty
tomcattytomcattyCoral Bay, Paphos, Paphos Cyprus368 Threads 6 Polls 6,885 Posts
Mercedes_00: I would never do a background check..I couldn't be bothered..Red flags will pop up down the track anyway.
Why bother as most guys, myself especially, will tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth, you can believe everything I saylaugh laugh
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Mar 22, 2021 4:06 AM CST Security or spying?
Mercedes_00
Mercedes_00Mercedes_00Greater Sydney, New South Wales Australia18 Threads 20,301 Posts
tomcatty: Why bother as most guys, myself especially, will tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth, you can believe everything I say
In regard to the net I gave up because I was stupid to believe everyone was honest..Won't be able to get a lie past me face to face..I'm exceptionally talented reading people when it's face to face
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Mar 22, 2021 4:08 AM CST Security or spying?
Mercedes_00
Mercedes_00Mercedes_00Greater Sydney, New South Wales Australia18 Threads 20,301 Posts
Mercedes_00: In regard to the net I gave up because I was stupid to believe everyone was honest..Won't be able to get a lie past me face to face..I'm exceptionally talented reading people when it's face to face
That's why I've left the men to all the woman on the net to deal with..I'm useless when it comes to men on the internet laugh
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Mar 22, 2021 4:30 AM CST Security or spying?
ChesneyChrist
ChesneyChristChesneyChristManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK7,144 Posts
It's one of them really. The spying says here's a relationship that should have been over before it started. And maybe they should be. When a criminal background check stops saying more about you than it does about them. Like London you reach a critical mass where people really are that awful, valid to be a loveless husk.
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Mar 22, 2021 4:48 AM CST Security or spying?
PeKaatje
PeKaatjePeKaatjeAnkeveen, North Holland Netherlands59 Threads 3 Polls 6,334 Posts
I expect meeting a nice girl that has been nosing around about me don't trust me. When she don't trust me now, who will say she will trust me in the future. She's just jealous without any reason, have had such a relationship in the past, never again.
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Mar 22, 2021 5:02 AM CST Security or spying?
tomcatty
tomcattytomcattyCoral Bay, Paphos, Paphos Cyprus368 Threads 6 Polls 6,885 Posts
Mercedes_00: In regard to the net I gave up because I was stupid to believe everyone was honest..Won't be able to get a lie past me face to face..I'm exceptionally talented reading people when it's face to face
How close?laugh
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