secretagent09: So you're saying that before you will show compassion to someone you need to know their history. There are 14 people on this thread who know me and have been around as long as I have.
I just looked back at the OPs opening post and I will be honest in saying that I didn't realize the thread was meant to be ONLY about Covid and how it is affecting people mentally. The last sentence says "get it off your chest". My family crisis is weighing heavily on my chest. I was just crying for compassion. I got it from a few people and I appreciate that. You are right Lee. A social website is not the place to think that people care about you.
I don't know anything about you...your life...your history...your family etc and others won't either...so I'm not being unkind and just sharing some advise
LeeCharming: I don't know anything about you...your life...your history...your family etc and others won't either...so I'm not being unkind and just sharing some advise
My question is..........why do you or anyone else have to know anything about me. Why can't you just say "sorry to hear that"?
BTW.....the word is advice in the context that you used.
secretagent09: My question is..........why do you or anyone else have to know anything about me. Why can't you just say "sorry to hear that"?
BTW.....the word is advice in the context that you used.
Even in the real world most only care about themselves , sadly. Even more so on the internet. Your going through a rough time, dont let faceless people here worry you...
secretagent09: I am suffering from immense fear that my son in law will die from the cancer that he is now being treated for. He is getting chemo treatments but if the chemo doesn't shrink the cancer enough away from the bone they will not be able to perform the second surgery. If they can do the surgery they will cut away any cancer cells that are left but he might lose an eye, part of his pallet and his front teeth. My daughter, his family and I live in fear that we will lose the man in our family who we all love very much.
I am sorry to hear that you, your daughter, and son-in-law are going through this right now. Sending you good thoughts and prayers...and virtual hugs..
gonelikethewimd: I am sorry to hear that you, your daughter, and son-in-law are going through this right now. Sending you good thoughts and prayers...and virtual hugs..
tomcatty: Dear Merc, you turned out to be a surprise to me in your approach to other people, you are a kind person and sometimes give tough love. It was difficult showing my soft underbelly, and some old enemies took the chance to have a nip. But I feel so much better talking to people and sometimes helping them too.
Stay sweet
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Back then you had no intention of trying to see the real me..You were influenced by how another wanted you to see me and I'm sure you will agree..But yep sometimes tough love and I truly am a kind lady..Sure you've seen patches of me not so nice but when an environment becomes toxic unfortunately any of us did get caught up with toxicity which isn't me and isn't healthy for anyone.
Don't ever feel ashamed to be yourself..Stay true to you no matter what others on here think
I've been on and off CS since 2005 and talked many times about having bipolar disorder. Sometimes people were kind about it, others were not. Talking about something very personal is a difficult decision for one to make and put out there. I admire Tomcatty for sharing his struggles but unfortunately others saw a chance for demeaning comments.
But that is to be expected in the world of social media. I hope others will talk about their mental health issues. It can help a lot if you are going through a tough time. Just take the good and ignore the bad.
mbken: I've been on and off CS since 2005 and talked many times about having bipolar disorder. Sometimes people were kind about it, others were not. Talking about something very personal is a difficult decision for one to make and put out there. I admire Tomcatty for sharing his struggles but unfortunately others saw a chance for demeaning comments.
But that is to be expected in the world of social me.dia. I hope others will talk about their mental health issues. It can help a lot if you are going through a tough time. Just take the good and ignore the bad.
That is true, I used to think people who have mental health problems were weak, I now know those who face up to them are strong, don't ever be afraid to talk about them.
tomcatty: I am eating well and getting exercise, that is a good step to start..
Very true but it's very healthy to reach out to people rather than bottling things up..None of us are perfect..We all have down times..I don't suffer from mental health issues but I have had traumatic experiences in my life.and it can be a lonely and scary road when you don't reach out to those who are reaching out..You don't do yourself any favours by pretending all is well
Miss_Cellaneous: Not sure why anyone would even contemplate talking about their problems on this site. People remember things you've said from way back. I learned my lesson a long time ago on this site.
I guess that’s essentially true. This kind of forum can become a sort of “ safe canvas” for many; allowing people to get their stories and experiences off their chests while largely staying anonymous. Yes, people remember things that were said, and sometimes try to use it in future arguments. Kind of lame, actually, as educated, thoughtful people know that it’s all a process, and we all ebb and flow, as the tide.
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There are 14 people on this thread who know me and have been around as long as I have.
I just looked back at the OPs opening post and I will be honest in saying that I didn't realize the thread was meant to be ONLY about Covid and how it is affecting people mentally. The last sentence says "get it off your chest". My family crisis is weighing heavily on my chest. I was just crying for compassion. I got it from a few people and I appreciate that. You are right Lee. A social website is not the place to think that people care about you.