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Jun 16, 2021 10:26 PM CST Something I’ve wondered about for years....
This is regarding a situation from my work past. So, I had made friends with a registered nurse who was a co-worker. We had the same day off in one week, and she invited me over to her house for lunch. I accepted. When I entered the house, I noticed that there were tears in both sofa and chairs, stuffing missing/falling out, ripped wallpaper, dust and dirt everywhere, dirty dishes piled all over the kitchen, even moldy, two unkempt parrots with droppings covering the cage and floor, and dog/cat crap here and there. The house smelled, as well. You are not going to believe this woman’s job title:

Executive Director of Infection Control.

Is this one of those Freud stories of someone being so stressed from life’s requirements that they ‘ rebel’ at home, or something along those lines? Just wanting feedback—- where’s Jac? She’s smart about this kind of question...laugh laugh

I may have mentioned this before, so sorry if it’s redundant.
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Jun 17, 2021 12:20 AM CST Something I’ve wondered about for years....
DeTempsEnTemps
DeTempsEnTempsDeTempsEnTempsGlendale, California USA1 Threads 25 Posts
lol....."executive director of infection control "
it's really hilarious!
They say those who make great jokes and make people laugh are the saddest ones in reality .
Same with this woman, het title, position and paycheck is nothing but a business affair. What she preaches at work as executive infection controlist is exact opposite in her private boundaries.
Higher position people all have two faces .
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Jun 17, 2021 1:07 AM CST Something I’ve wondered about for years....
Jaavisst
JaavisstJaavisstLjusdal, Gavleborg Sweden96 Threads 22 Polls 707 Posts
It is important to never work with what you love doing. You will loose that love. Keep it a hobby. Ask any professional.
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Jun 17, 2021 1:11 AM CST Something I’ve wondered about for years....
rohaan: This is regarding a situation from my work past. So, I had made friends with a registered nurse who was a co-worker. We had the same day off in one week, and she invited me over to her house for lunch. I accepted. When I entered the house, I noticed that there were tears in both sofa and chairs, stuffing missing/falling out, ripped wallpaper, dust and dirt everywhere, dirty dishes piled all over the kitchen, even moldy, two unkempt parrots with droppings covering the cage and floor, and dog/cat crap here and there. The house smelled, as well. You are not going to believe this woman’s job title:

Executive Director of Infection Control.

Is this one of those Freud stories of someone being so stressed from life’s requirements that they ‘ rebel’ at home, or something along those lines? Just wanting feedback—- where’s Jac? She’s smart about this kind of question...

I may have mentioned this before, so sorry if it’s redundant.
I also know a lady who is a cleaner in a care home and her home is filthy,,,, weird that.
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Jun 17, 2021 1:29 AM CST Something I’ve wondered about for years....
ChesneyChrist
ChesneyChristChesneyChristManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK7,144 Posts
rohaan: This is regarding a situation from my work past. So, I had made friends with a registered nurse who was a co-worker. We had the same day off in one week, and she invited me over to her house for lunch. I accepted. When I entered the house, I noticed that there were tears in both sofa and chairs, stuffing missing/falling out, ripped wallpaper, dust and dirt everywhere, dirty dishes piled all over the kitchen, even moldy, two unkempt parrots with droppings covering the cage and floor, and dog/cat crap here and there. The house smelled, as well. You are not going to believe this woman’s job title:

Executive Director of Infection Control.

Is this one of those Freud stories of someone being so stressed from life’s requirements that they ‘ rebel’ at home, or something along those lines? Just wanting feedback—- where’s Jac? She’s smart about this kind of question...

I may have mentioned this before, so sorry if it’s redundant.
Division of labour? Who is she going to delegate the dishes to? As time goes on more and more people can only function as part of the machine, never outside of the machine.
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Jun 17, 2021 1:51 AM CST Something I’ve wondered about for years....
ChesneyChrist
ChesneyChristChesneyChristManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK7,144 Posts
There will come a time when the ordinary gas fitter cannot fix their own boiler. Skilled people are replaced by the surveyors of automation, this management and technician class that are the natural enemy of self-reliance.
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Jun 17, 2021 8:30 AM CST Something I’ve wondered about for years....
jac_the_gripper
jac_the_gripperjac_the_gripperTonyrefail, South Glamorgan, Wales UK24 Threads 5,363 Posts
There's not enough information to make any realistic interpretation of this apparently incongruous behaviour, but it could be something like depression.

Work has a self-motivating schedule: you know that at a certain time you have to get up and do your thing to get paid.

Motivating herself to clean her home and take care of her support system (pets/guests) may have required more emotional and physical energy than she had.

I've known people to lose their children because not even the threat of losing them can overcome the de-motivating effect of inadequate dopamine levels.

There mght also be an addiction element where work activiity and the status/worthiness which it brought not only increased dopamine levels, but acted as an escape from from her own mind, her own emotional pain.

Are you aware of any history of abusive relationships? I'm just wondering if there is any connection with the her relatiionships you describe her as having - pets, and yourself as a gay man, none of whom are likely to be hitting her, or hitting on her.
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Jun 17, 2021 9:09 AM CST Something I’ve wondered about for years....
Jac's has excellent points but I wonder if the reason she invited you over to her place was a cry for help?
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Jun 17, 2021 8:30 PM CST Something I’ve wondered about for years....
RedHeadedTaurus
RedHeadedTaurusRedHeadedTaurusHere, Michigan USA17 Threads 1 Polls 8,455 Posts
Many times, it's a night and day difference between a person’s personal life and their professional life, for whatever reason.





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Jun 17, 2021 8:42 PM CST Something I’ve wondered about for years....
mikey4691
mikey4691mikey4691Knoxville, Tennessee USA8 Threads 6,868 Posts
I've heard since I was a kid, that the best, and most sought after mechanics, have the poorest running personal vehicles... thumbs up
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