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Most men confuse courtesy with interest. (34)

Jun 22, 2021 12:12 PM CST Most men confuse courtesy with interest.
Many years ago I learned that a pretty smile towards you is not necessarily an invite.
A girl in the local food store was always smiling and chatting with me. I thought she might be interested in me until one day she stood up and turned out to be visibly pregnant. I felt stupid. Now a girl in the local post office, 25 years my junior is always chatting me up since I bought the equivalent of a thousand US dollars worth of stamps. She has one glas eye and might be because of that open to an age difference. Am I a typical male full of it or is she after my money or genuinely interested. What do you guys think?
Jun 22, 2021 12:24 PM CST Most men confuse courtesy with interest.
Car54
Car54Car54Noneya, Luxembourg Belgium6 Threads 565 Posts
Jaavisst: Many years ago I learned that a pretty smile towards you is not necessarily an invite.
A girl in the local food store was always smiling and chatting with me. I thought she might be interested in me until one day she stood up and turned out to be visibly pregnant. I felt stupid. Now a girl in the local post office, 25 years my junior is always chatting me up since I bought the equivalent of a thousand US dollars worth of stamps. She has one glas eye and might be because of that open to an age difference. Am I a typical male full of it or is she after my money or genuinely interested. What do you guys think?
I don't know. Why don't you ask her?
Jun 22, 2021 12:29 PM CST Most men confuse courtesy with interest.
deviantsIice
deviantsIicedeviantsIiceWhy aye yer bugger, Tyne and Wear, England UK8 Threads 611 Posts
Jaavisst: Am I a male full of it? What do you guys think?
Yes.
Jun 22, 2021 12:29 PM CST Most men confuse courtesy with interest.
Car54: I don't know. Why don't you ask her?
Because I se her almost every day. It's like asking a long time female friend on a date. It can make it awkward later. Also I might be seen as a dirty old man!
Jun 22, 2021 1:18 PM CST Most men confuse courtesy with interest.
Car54
Car54Car54Noneya, Luxembourg Belgium6 Threads 565 Posts
Jaavisst: Because I se her almost every day. It's like asking a long time female friend on a date. It can make it awkward later. Also I might be seen as a dirty old man!
Sounds like a personal problem to me.
Jun 22, 2021 1:32 PM CST Most men confuse courtesy with interest.
Jaavisst: Many years ago I learned that a pretty smile towards you is not necessarily an invite.
A girl in the local food store was always smiling and chatting with me. I thought she might be interested in me until one day she stood up and turned out to be visibly pregnant. I felt stupid. Now a girl in the local post office, 25 years my junior is always chatting me up since I bought the equivalent of a thousand US dollars worth of stamps. She has one glas eye and might be because of that open to an age difference. Am I a typical male full of it or is she after my money or genuinely interested. What do you guys think?
Yes you are a typical male grin Women who work with the public get hit on, all the time. Any pleasantness can be missinterperted. However, in this case. Go for it! The key is not to scare her and that she feels safe.
Offer to MEET her for breakfast or lunch. Nothing more. Good luck to you cheers
Jun 22, 2021 1:36 PM CST Most men confuse courtesy with interest.
Jaavisst: Many years ago I learned that a pretty smile towards you is not necessarily an invite.
A girl in the local food store was always smiling and chatting with me. I thought she might be interested in me until one day she stood up and turned out to be visibly pregnant. I felt stupid. Now a girl in the local post office, 25 years my junior is always chatting me up since I bought the equivalent of a thousand US dollars worth of stamps. She has one glas eye and might be because of that open to an age difference. Am I a typical male full of it or is she after my money or genuinely interested. What do you guys think?
Pregnancy doesn't close any holes, until it's that time... Look at it this way, you can't get her pregnant, even if the condom breaks... drinking
Jun 22, 2021 2:43 PM CST Most men confuse courtesy with interest.
"Most men confuse courtesy with interest."

This is so true.

I wish some Men would LISTEN and confirm what the woman is saying.

The hired help in our community would say hello to me. I would be polite and responded in kind.
One day he talked to me and then I knew that he is married, but his wife lives in another country. He told me how beautiful I am and I told him thank, but I respect all marriages. He then began to be at the gym the same time as me, or walking the trails the same time as me. He even tried to kiss me.

I got so mad and told him about covid. He said covid is gone because he got two shots. I told him never to speak to me again and I could report him to management.

I haven't seen him since. He got my message LOUD and CLEAR.

NOT BECAUSE A WOMAN SMILE OR TALK TO A MAN, IT MEANS SHE WANTS TO DATE HIM. frustrated
Jun 24, 2021 12:21 AM CST Most men confuse courtesy with interest.
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Mercedes_00online today!Mercedes_00Greater Sydney, New South Wales Australia20 Threads 26,862 Posts
We get paid to be welcoming & chatty..We get pad to smile..We want customers to come back DUH!~..That is my personality so my job is a breeze...We give the same service to woman as we do men..I'm sure when a man is trying to sell you a car at a car yard your given the exact same shit..Men seem to dream a lot these days.
Jun 24, 2021 12:47 AM CST Most men confuse courtesy with interest.
Cavalero
CavaleroCavaleroVerviers, Liege Belgium12 Threads 4 Polls 969 Posts
LaFonda: "Most men confuse courtesy with interest."

This is so true.

I wish some Men would LISTEN and confirm what the woman is saying.

The hired help in our community would say hello to me. I would be polite and responded in kind.
One day he talked to me and then I knew that he is married, but his wife lives in another country. He told me how beautiful I am and I told him thank, but I respect all marriages. He then began to be at the gym the same time as me, or walking the trails the same time as me. He even tried to kiss me.

I got so mad and told him about covid. He said covid is gone because he got two shots. I told him never to speak to me again and I could report him to management.

I haven't seen him since. He got my message LOUD and CLEAR.

NOT BECAUSE A WOMAN SMILE OR TALK TO A MAN, IT MEANS SHE WANTS TO DATE HIM.
Is this the Rant thread? confused
Jun 24, 2021 4:59 AM CST Most men confuse courtesy with interest.
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ChesneyChristonline now!ChesneyChristManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK8,832 Posts
Jaavisst: Many years ago I learned that a pretty smile towards you is not necessarily an invite.
A girl in the local food store was always smiling and chatting with me. I thought she might be interested in me until one day she stood up and turned out to be visibly pregnant. I felt stupid. Now a girl in the local post office, 25 years my junior is always chatting me up since I bought the equivalent of a thousand US dollars worth of stamps. She has one glas eye and might be because of that open to an age difference. Am I a typical male full of it or is she after my money or genuinely interested. What do you guys think?
It's a bit of a typical male. Tremendously excited because somebody has been kind to you. Yet the excitable boy is better than being a typical female. All cagey and suspicious because somebody's been nice to you. It's better than viewing kindness as a threat and everyone trying to plunder your goods as though you were the female. Ideally though it's Bond-like neutrality where you fend off the tremendous excitement of the desperate without the jaded and suspicious toxin of the most privileged people ever to have lived.
Jun 24, 2021 5:19 AM CST Most men confuse courtesy with interest.
Cavalero
CavaleroCavaleroVerviers, Liege Belgium12 Threads 4 Polls 969 Posts
ChesneyChrist: It's a bit of a typical male. Tremendously excited because somebody has been kind to you. Yet the excitable boy is better than being a typical female. All cagey and suspicious because somebody's been nice to you. It's better than viewing kindness as a threat and everyone trying to plunder your goods as though you were the female. Ideally though it's Bond-like neutrality where you fend off the tremendous excitement of the desperate without the jaded and suspicious toxin of the most privileged people ever to have lived.
thumbs up
Jun 24, 2021 5:45 AM CST Most men confuse courtesy with interest.
ChesneyChristonline now!
ChesneyChristonline now!ChesneyChristManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK8,832 Posts
Jaavisst: Many years ago I learned that a pretty smile towards you is not necessarily an invite.
A girl in the local food store was always smiling and chatting with me. I thought she might be interested in me until one day she stood up and turned out to be visibly pregnant. I felt stupid. Now a girl in the local post office, 25 years my junior is always chatting me up since I bought the equivalent of a thousand US dollars worth of stamps. She has one glas eye and might be because of that open to an age difference. Am I a typical male full of it or is she after my money or genuinely interested. What do you guys think?
You are to be taken at face value to a greater extent than she is. And no matter the money and power you're open and honest. A man has to revolt against what the rich world does as you both cannot be 80% centre of attention. All the mod cons and technology that treat you like a lady with a ladies attitude and a ladies mind must be forgotten on a date. You have to forget the rich world and become the giver of attention, the provider of labour and of time and of effort.
Jun 24, 2021 5:55 AM CST Most men confuse courtesy with interest.
paul_A1
paul_A1paul_A1Delaware, Ohio USA1 Threads 9 Posts
Dood .... your a very lonely man !! Women ONLY want you for your wallet. I assure you, the lump in your back pocket is more important then that the lump in the front. If your looking that hard for a women , and will settle for just any women who happens to pay attention to you , you may want to check your head and your heart ... are you even sure sure you know what love is !!??

dunno
Jun 24, 2021 5:58 AM CST Most men confuse courtesy with interest.
Mercedes_00online today!
Mercedes_00online today!Mercedes_00Greater Sydney, New South Wales Australia20 Threads 26,862 Posts
paul_A1: Dood .... your a very lonely man !! Women ONLY want you for your wallet. I assure you, the lump in your back pocket is more important then that the lump in the front. If your looking that hard for a women , and will settle for just any women who happens to pay attention to you , you may want to check your head and your heart ... are you even sure sure you know what love is !!??
This is about excellent customer service that is given to both genders DUH
Jun 24, 2021 6:22 AM CST Most men confuse courtesy with interest.
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ChesneyChristonline now!ChesneyChristManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK8,832 Posts
Jaavisst: Many years ago I learned that a pretty smile towards you is not necessarily an invite.
A girl in the local food store was always smiling and chatting with me. I thought she might be interested in me until one day she stood up and turned out to be visibly pregnant. I felt stupid. Now a girl in the local post office, 25 years my junior is always chatting me up since I bought the equivalent of a thousand US dollars worth of stamps. She has one glas eye and might be because of that open to an age difference. Am I a typical male full of it or is she after my money or genuinely interested. What do you guys think?
It's basically the case that more time man spends as paying customer the worse he gets with women. The customer is always right, but you're not the customer you are the service. Biology has selected woman to be the customer and she pays with sex for better company than her own. Particularly at the beginning, but up until a point. You fall short of being tremendously excited by the fact she makes all the rules. The danger with men is yes men and sycophancy. It's the way that you become better company than her. It's not being tremendously excited she makes all the rules, it's humouring her sense of entitlement is what it is.
Jun 24, 2021 6:41 AM CST Most men confuse courtesy with interest.
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ChesneyChristonline now!ChesneyChristManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK8,832 Posts
Be prepared to be disagreed with when you are right rather than agreed with when you are wrong. It's very often a bad sign when a woman can't or won't argue with you. Be prepared for missinformation intended to lower your confidence and test that you really meant what you said. Quite the opposite of a paying customer which is why consumer society is the end of manhood. Being rich is too much like having a pu**y of your own.
Jun 24, 2021 6:54 AM CST Most men confuse courtesy with interest.
Why worry about what may be with near strangers when there are plenty of fish in the sea? Next. Keep on truckin baby. cheering

hey cowboy, if you are really somewhat impatient or desperate, be seen with women to increase attraction. Ask your sister or mother to dinner, the beach or an art festival and see what happens. thumbs up laugh me I just want to be friends these days.

Jun 24, 2021 7:16 AM CST Most men confuse courtesy with interest.
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ChesneyChristonline now!ChesneyChristManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK8,832 Posts
And the songs on the radio are one thing, but persistence is something else. The fact that you didn't give in, that's the spirit that drives the masses of mankind into the achievements of the future. Persistence, manhood, the capacity to endure. Whatever you want to call it. Most of us will not fall in love the same way as the movies. Never give in.. exception to convictions of honour and good sense.
Jun 24, 2021 7:54 AM CST Most men confuse courtesy with interest.
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ChesneyChristonline now!ChesneyChristManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK8,832 Posts
And what's that other trait that goes with persistence? Patience. Patience and persistence are the most underrated alpha traits in today's fast-food culture of instant gratification. There's a confusion that thinks being cool is the same thing as not caring, and because you don't care it's cool to give in easily. But a man should fail and be rejected constantly, not a fear of rejection because rejection is normal, on the contrary you are lucky to score and it's our luck to try over and over. We might live in a society of instant gratification but it's not a society of instant rapport with women. You have to overcome what women are through persistence, many many attempts until one is accepted by her cautious and suspicious nature.
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