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The cowards way out. (33)

Jul 21, 2021 11:07 PM CST The cowards way out.
Ghosting, blocking..both are used by cowards. I was writing to some people. One had mentioned deleting their account. Finally did. And sent me a nice email to explain. Warnings had been made and it finally was done. Nice manners to tell me why the account was closed. Sent an email, then closed account.
I appreciated that. Now I know why the person vanished from here.
Another person, seemed we got along and suddenly blocked. HUH?confused dunno Oh well..their problem not mine.
Why are people so rude or cowardly..or scared? How many stalkers are truly out there? Is it so hard to tell someone, hey..I am too busy to continue. Oh, sorry, we just have to many differences and I think we should quit while we are ahead. Sorry, I want to pursue a different path than you. Goodbye. It was nice while it lasted.
I hear of ghosting often. It hurts people. and they wonder why. Or if something bad happened like death. I remember long ago, the leach gal of a friend said I should stop over and visit more. I told her, I just had too much going on and no time for visiting, sorry. I felt slightly guilty later because I know she was dying of cancer. But, I just told her I couldnt visit. I didnt have to tell her because I had little in common with her. Or that we saw how she had used and was using our friend and didnt think she was very nice.
I couldnt be a hypocrite and visit while loathing her. Only reason we accepted her in the first place was for him.
Bottom line, grow a set and bow out gracefully. Make an excuse if you have to. But, dont let them hanging wondering why.roll eyes
Jul 22, 2021 3:24 AM CST The cowards way out.
Orzzz: Ghosting, blocking..both are used by cowards. I was writing to some people. One had mentioned deleting their account. Finally did. And sent me a nice email to explain. Warnings had been made and it finally was done. Nice manners to tell me why the account was closed. Sent an email, then closed account.
I appreciated that. Now I know why the person vanished from here.
Another person, seemed we got along and suddenly blocked. HUH? Oh well..their problem not mine.
Why are people so rude or cowardly..or scared? How many stalkers are truly out there? Is it so hard to tell someone, hey..I am too busy to continue. Oh, sorry, we just have to many differences and I think we should quit while we are ahead. Sorry, I want to pursue a different path than you. Goodbye. It was nice while it lasted.
I hear of ghosting often. It hurts people. and they wonder why. Or if something bad happened like death. I remember long ago, the leach gal of a friend said I should stop over and visit more. I told her, I just had too much going on and no time for visiting, sorry. I felt slightly guilty later because I know she was dying of cancer. But, I just told her I couldnt visit. I didnt have to tell her because I had little in common with her. Or that we saw how she had used and was using our friend and didnt think she was very nice.
I couldnt be a hypocrite and visit while loathing her. Only reason we accepted her in the first place was for him.
Bottom line, grow a set and bow out gracefully. Make an excuse if you have to. But, dont let them hanging wondering why.
You want the whole world act to your convenience. Not going to happen.

I have disappeared from other people's life without telling them the reason. Other people have disappeared from my life without telling me the reason. No big deal from standpoint of no one is owning anything to anyone here. If you think that someone owns you something, then you are better get prepared for disappointment.
Jul 22, 2021 3:36 AM CST The cowards way out.
I don't think it's the cowardly way out if it's easier for them to not see or speak or just want a peaceful life, maybe not the easy option but best option for them at that time

I think you get to a stage in life where peace is paramount
Jul 22, 2021 3:40 AM CST The cowards way out.
ChesneyChristonline today!
ChesneyChristonline today!ChesneyChristManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK9,067 Posts
Orzzz: Ghosting, blocking..both are used by cowards. I was writing to some people. One had mentioned deleting their account. Finally did. And sent me a nice email to explain. Warnings had been made and it finally was done. Nice manners to tell me why the account was closed. Sent an email, then closed account.
I appreciated that. Now I know why the person vanished from here.
Another person, seemed we got along and suddenly blocked. HUH? Oh well..their problem not mine.
Why are people so rude or cowardly..or scared? How many stalkers are truly out there? Is it so hard to tell someone, hey..I am too busy to continue. Oh, sorry, we just have to many differences and I think we should quit while we are ahead. Sorry, I want to pursue a different path than you. Goodbye. It was nice while it lasted.
I hear of ghosting often. It hurts people. and they wonder why. Or if something bad happened like death. I remember long ago, the leach gal of a friend said I should stop over and visit more. I told her, I just had too much going on and no time for visiting, sorry. I felt slightly guilty later because I know she was dying of cancer. But, I just told her I couldnt visit. I didnt have to tell her because I had little in common with her. Or that we saw how she had used and was using our friend and didnt think she was very nice.
I couldnt be a hypocrite and visit while loathing her. Only reason we accepted her in the first place was for him.
Bottom line, grow a set and bow out gracefully. Make an excuse if you have to. But, dont let them hanging wondering why.
My theory is that vulgarity comes as substitute for a hard life. Vulgarity, uncertainty and stress. Alpha in the modern world is a certain comfort with not knowing where the f*ck you are. Fashionably late became not showing up at all. We can all be more like the woman until nobody meets anybody. It's not logical for it to be hard work, but it is.
Jul 22, 2021 3:42 AM CST The cowards way out.
Track16
Track16Track16Little Hearts Ease, Newfoundland Canada1,084 Threads 14,795 Posts
irish78eyes: I don't think it's the cowardly way out if it's easier for them to not see or speak or just want a peaceful life, maybe not the easy option but best option for them at that time

I think you get to a stage in life where peace is paramount
Peace is the order of the day for me.
Jul 22, 2021 3:53 AM CST The cowards way out.
Track16
Track16Track16Little Hearts Ease, Newfoundland Canada1,084 Threads 14,795 Posts
Orzzz: Ghosting, blocking..both are used by cowards. I was writing to some people. One had mentioned deleting their account. Finally did. And sent me a nice email to explain. Warnings had been made and it finally was done. Nice manners to tell me why the account was closed. Sent an email, then closed account.
I appreciated that. Now I know why the person vanished from here.
Another person, seemed we got along and suddenly blocked. HUH? Oh well..their problem not mine.
Why are people so rude or cowardly..or scared? How many stalkers are truly out there? Is it so hard to tell someone, hey..I am too busy to continue. Oh, sorry, we just have to many differences and I think we should quit while we are ahead. Sorry, I want to pursue a different path than you. Goodbye. It was nice while it lasted.
I hear of ghosting often. It hurts people. and they wonder why. Or if something bad happened like death. I remember long ago, the leach gal of a friend said I should stop over and visit more. I told her, I just had too much going on and no time for visiting, sorry. I felt slightly guilty later because I know she was dying of cancer. But, I just told her I couldnt visit. I didnt have to tell her because I had little in common with her. Or that we saw how she had used and was using our friend and didnt think she was very nice.
I couldnt be a hypocrite and visit while loathing her. Only reason we accepted her in the first place was for him.
Bottom line, grow a set and bow out gracefully. Make an excuse if you have to. But, dont let them hanging wondering why.
Friendships online are very fleeting. People tend to be quick to judge, quick to block, slow to change. My advice to you would be not to put much stock into friendships online as they have a way of fizzling out more often than not.
Jul 22, 2021 4:10 AM CST The cowards way out.
ChesneyChristonline today!
ChesneyChristonline today!ChesneyChristManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK9,067 Posts
Moves like Jagger are second to being a rolling stone. A feminine icon with hair you absolutely cannot set your watch by. Or like Bowie you wouldn't rely on him to be consistent. What has status is mostly if not entirely defined by women from rock n roll onwards. One reason for less respect is that it's less likely to come to blows.
Jul 22, 2021 4:32 AM CST The cowards way out.
ChesneyChristonline today!
ChesneyChristonline today!ChesneyChristManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK9,067 Posts
The common theme is to be rebellious without cause because you can expect people to be unexpected in the modern world. It's a sort of counterbalance to getting all the food delivered to your door.
Jul 22, 2021 4:37 AM CST The cowards way out.
Maybe, as they say, they're just not that into you. Was it something you said or did?

It would be nice if relationships were as firm online as they can be in the real world, but generally, they are not. For my own part, I would love to find a local friend for a RW relationship, but the local pool is slim pickins.

Be content with a positive relationship with fellow CS members, but it might be better to adjust expectations to the limits imposed by distance.

vobiscum.
Jul 22, 2021 5:09 AM CST The cowards way out.
ChesneyChristonline today!
ChesneyChristonline today!ChesneyChristManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK9,067 Posts
On a dating website it's a counterbalance to being inundated with offers both real and imaginary. But exactly how unreliable depends upon how long your society has been online. If it's earthlings you want you could try using a foreign language. Probably screen out the worst of modern man if you don't use English.
Jul 22, 2021 5:22 AM CST The cowards way out.
ChesneyChristonline today!
ChesneyChristonline today!ChesneyChristManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK9,067 Posts
I would suggest Arabic if you're thinking 100 years ago and French if you would like to re-experience life in 2001.
Jul 22, 2021 6:11 AM CST The cowards way out.
Mercedes_00online now!
Mercedes_00online now!Mercedes_00Greater Sydney, New South Wales Australia20 Threads 28,764 Posts
A coward to me is someone who runs away or someone who hides behind others to defend them
Jul 22, 2021 6:12 AM CST The cowards way out.
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Mercedes_00online now!Mercedes_00Greater Sydney, New South Wales Australia20 Threads 28,764 Posts
Mercedes_00: A coward to me is someone who runs away or someone who hides behind others to defend them
I forgot to add that ghosting or whatever on the internt has nothing to do with being a coward..All part and parcel of the internet..You have players and so on.
Jul 22, 2021 3:09 PM CST The cowards way out.
deedee123xo
deedee123xodeedee123xoLimerick, Ireland18 Threads 4,716 Posts
irish78eyes: I don't think it's the cowardly way out if it's easier for them to not see or speak or just want a peaceful life, maybe not the easy option but best option for them at that time

I think you get to a stage in life where peace is paramount
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Jul 22, 2021 4:09 PM CST The cowards way out.
It used to upset me when this happened but not anymore, you don’t know what’s going on in peoples lives in the real world. teddybear
Jul 22, 2021 4:16 PM CST The cowards way out.
blathin
blathinblathinGlasgow, Central, Scotland UK3,329 Posts
Friendships online are very fleeting. People tend to be quick to judge, quick to block, slow to change. My advice to you would be not to put much stock into friendships online as they have a way of fizzling out more often than not.[/quote

Well said Track thumbs up
Jul 22, 2021 4:37 PM CST The cowards way out.
deedee123xo
deedee123xodeedee123xoLimerick, Ireland18 Threads 4,716 Posts
Track16: Friendships online are very fleeting. People tend to be quick to judge, quick to block, slow to change. My advice to you would be not to put much stock into friendships online as they have a way of fizzling out more often than not.
Not really Track.
I think most sane minded people will have taken those friendships off line and done video calls...have email conversations and phone conversations.
Have in mind setting up and meeting with some girls and one man lol on here for a catch up...I think it's about the mindset of the individuals ....maybe some are the big I am on here and in real life they are the most boring isolated crater ever....
If you find your bunch then get going and meet up....most of us realise life starts outside of here.
Jul 22, 2021 5:15 PM CST The cowards way out.
Track16
Track16Track16Little Hearts Ease, Newfoundland Canada1,084 Threads 14,795 Posts
deedee123xo: Not really Track.
I think most sane minded people will have taken those friendships off line and done video calls...have email conversations and phone conversations.
Have in mind setting up and meeting with some girls and one man lol on here for a catch up...I think it's about the mindset of the individuals ....maybe some are the big I am on here and in real life they are the most boring isolated crater ever....
If you find your bunch then get going and meet up....most of us realise life starts outside of here.
I used to meet people from online all the time. Went to parties, coffee, encounters, you name it. Deedee, I wasn't always just lurking online like I do these days, I lived enough life for 2 lifetimes. I lurk online these days because since quitting the booze, I just don't have any social battery anymore.

I keep people at a distance until I really get to know them because of what I learned from the days of partying, encounters, and what not. When you go online, you can put on any face you want, make people believe you are completely different from what you are in rl. I met one too many who done that and lets just say it was awkward as fk. I don't put a face on, if I'm happy, I'm happy, if I'm pissy, I'm pissy. Same in rl.
Jul 22, 2021 5:27 PM CST The cowards way out.
deedee123xo
deedee123xodeedee123xoLimerick, Ireland18 Threads 4,716 Posts
Track16: I used to meet people from online all the time. Went to parties, coffee, encounters, you name it. Deedee, I wasn't always just lurking online like I do these days, I lived enough life for 2 lifetimes. I lurk online these days because since quitting the booze, I just don't have any social battery anymore.

I keep people at a distance until I really get to know them because of what I learned from the days of partying, encounters, and what not. When you go online, you can put on any face you want, make people believe you are completely different from what you are in rl. I met one too many who done that and lets just say it was awkward as fk. I don't put a face on, if I'm happy, I'm happy, if I'm pissy, I'm pissy. Same in rl.
Same here Track..I don't hold back either.
But it's a matter of weeding out those who have hidden agendas...ask as many questions as you want...
If your life has changed now for the better then I'm really happy for you....you just can't give up on people....yes you will meet right horrible ones but they are there to teach you to see it quicker in others...and ignore them.
Your one of the nicest and quirkiest on here and would be a shame if you've given up building a social circle for yourself..
hug
Jul 22, 2021 6:46 PM CST The cowards way out.
Packersbabe1
Packersbabe1Packersbabe1Green Bay, Wisconsin USA2 Threads 9,657 Posts
I don’t really put much into it, if they stop sending
messages, I’m ok with it cause that’s let me know
they no longer want to chat
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