DOES THE AMOUNT OF CHILDREN YOU HAVE MAKE A DIFFERENCE? (19)

Well Lt, whoever told you that about "If you didn't have that many kids" what a waste of space...It's you they like initially am i right, your kids are just an extension of you and the real beauty is learning about all of you, which i am sad to say most men can't damned well be bothered..

I have problems with only one so i think stuff you, your missing out not me

Thanks Poppy, it did get me down but if someone can be so narrow-minded and not see beyond the number of children I have then it's their loss. I'm not looking for a dad for my kids at all, it'll be nice if they regarded whoever as a friend, someone that shares the good and bad times with mum and gives me love and shares in my laughter but in 6 years or so my children are all going to be independent and I don't want to face a future alone. If you understand what I mean, it's lonely at night sometimes, when something good happens I have nobody to share it with other than the kids and to be honest, it may not mean as much to them. I'm rambling so I'll stop there!

it doesnt matter how many kids you have, the right one for you will love you and love your kids to.

Thank you - does anyone know where I can get some cloning done - I wanna take a small bit of everyone nice on here and have someone created especially for me!!!

Your kids can't have a dad apart from the one that is their dad.You can gain a good friend to them,i learned that from my last mishap of a relationship.

I also think that's a mistake we make - being a good friend is often far better than trying to fit into another persons shoes.

if the person realy thinks any think about you then your a complete pacage not to be subdived and catorgarised but taken on as a family if they not prepaired to do this then why should ya bother ......i am not saying your new man should be a new dad .......but he should accept you and yours not just you ......iam far from the best dad in the world but i still try to be a good dad and although i know my ex as a new man i wouldnt want him to replace me as the kids dad but i know some women want this ..........i just glad mine doesnt ...so id say yes kids make a differance but not a deteriment and if the feelings are right the new partner shuold want you and your family not jus the best bits weve all got baggage n issues but hell kids shouldnt be one of em........

Well said Bulldog!!!



I had a day and a half yesterday and I began to think I'd jumped into the middle of a reality show called "Let's Put Her Down!!" - feeling a lot better today, especially with everyone's support which is brilliant and appreciated. I'm a romantic - I live in hope of finding someone to love unconditionally and receive the same in return especially since I've been on my own for so long. I have dreams where I'm living the happily ever after story then wake feeling unloved and alone - no wonder I can't wake up in the morning! I know this is why that womans words hurt me so much, I'd had a couple of other problems in the day including the washing machine deciding to keep turning itself on and off (all this electronic crap on washing machines just gives it a will of it's own! - got enough of that going on in the house with teenagers don't need a washing machine having a hormonal crisis!!) and the thought of waking up and facing everything on my own for always seemed a really bleak and sad future. So thanks everyone, I've taken my confused, depressed head of today and put the happy, life is good, head back on.

Yeah will catch you later hun, there's also a bonus to me having all my kids; just think of how many birthday and christmas presents they'd get!!!