I would say that person will die alone. They have spent their life their way and no one ever met their impossible list. It is silly to think things are different now. Long ago I had a talk with one of my tenants. He had the knack for bar floozies. After we got rid of the last one he said to me that he figured he had to change and that he would be different for another gal. I told him..bull..you are 43 years old. You are set in your ways and not going to change. You either find someone who wants you as you are or give it up. We change some with the right mate. But, those changes are minor. Our true nature stays the same. I guess I have been lucky. Each time I lost a mate, I found the next one that fit my time in life. Perhaps there has been a common thread, but yet each has been unique. Just what I need at that age and place in the world.
DeTempsEnTemps: Everytime I come across a profile that reads " never married and looking for the soul mate" , I check the age is above 80+ , so naturally I wonder what soul mate someone can hope to find that did not find in the first 80 years and hopes to find beyond 80?. Not only that, I also wonder about the physical section of the soul mate union , how is the feeling at that age , I try to imagine but it's not that easy. I thought my colleagues here at CS may have a clue?
Don't ya know this is the site where old fogies come to graze?
DeTempsEnTemps: Everytime I come across a profile that reads " never married and looking for the soul mate" , I check the age is above 80+ , so naturally I wonder what soul mate someone can hope to find that did not find in the first 80 years and hopes to find beyond 80?. Not only that, I also wonder about the physical section of the soul mate union , how is the feeling at that age , I try to imagine but it's not that easy. I thought my colleagues here at CS may have a clue?
DeTempsEnTemps: Everytime I come across a profile that reads " never married and looking for the soul mate" , I check the age is above 80+ , so naturally I wonder what soul mate someone can hope to find that did not find in the first 80 years and hopes to find beyond 80?. Not only that, I also wonder about the physical section of the soul mate union , how is the feeling at that age , I try to imagine but it's not that easy. I thought my colleagues here at CS may have a clue?
One doesn't stop being human, past a certain age you know.
You don't suddenly reach a certain age and lose the ability to fee feelings, enjoy someone's company, want to spend time with them and feel a deep connection with them.
In fact, after spending 80 years on this planet and seeing all the ups and downs of life, love and all that goes with it, they could probably teach the rest of us a few lessons.
So what if they've never been married. Past martial status is not indicative of one's ability to love either you know.
DeTempsEnTemps: Everytime I come across a profile that reads " never married and looking for the soul mate" , I check the age is above 80+ , so naturally I wonder what soul mate someone can hope to find that did not find in the first 80 years and hopes to find beyond 80?. Not only that, I also wonder about the physical section of the soul mate union , how is the feeling at that age , I try to imagine but it's not that easy. I thought my colleagues here at CS may have a clue?
fantaziya: low tolerance of what? Habits, attitude, hobbies, work ethics?
it may be anything. The main issue is how much we react and how much we tolerate. It is clear that everyone has both flaws and virtues. Instead of reacting to each other's flaws, remove them from your virtues and tolerate the flaws that remain.
Perfect man and perfect woman is a myth. Perfect match and perfect life is a myth. So it is better to increase our tolerance and decrease our reactivity. Our reactive nature can make us judgmental.
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Long ago I had a talk with one of my tenants. He had the knack for bar floozies. After we got rid of the last one he said to me that he figured he had to change and that he would be different for another gal. I told him..bull..you are 43 years old. You are set in your ways and not going to change. You either find someone who wants you as you are or give it up.
We change some with the right mate. But, those changes are minor. Our true nature stays the same.
I guess I have been lucky. Each time I lost a mate, I found the next one that fit my time in life. Perhaps there has been a common thread, but yet each has been unique. Just what I need at that age and place in the world.