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Why cant I find a gal? (66)

Nov 28, 2021 1:56 PM CST Why cant I find a gal?
Orzzz
OrzzzOrzzzPortage, Wisconsin USA100 Threads 8 Polls 806 Posts
I notice a common thing on here. Men who contact and then resort to grunts. Ask a question. No answer. Conversations end up one sided. I know men think women like the strong silent type, but!frustrated doh
I have never lacked for conv with my men. Not in all the years. Mom said she and dad never ran out of stuff to talk about.
The idea of companionship is sharing stuff. And that starts with getting to know each other. I used to bar-tend. Part of it is to be sociable. Customer comes in and chat as they wish. And then there were the lumps. Get their beer, and crawl into it. Make a remark about weather or some trivial thing and get a grunt. Try 3 or 4 times and then ..to heck with you. Go back to my stool and ignore til he wants a drink.
Men, if you want to meet a gal on here..talk to her via emails. Other wise you come off as a dud. She is not going to jump at you just for the photo. Or profile. And I bet those are basically grunts.
You have a job. You have hobbies. You have a home, garden, city..in other words unless you are a gamer living in the basement..you have a life. Talk about it. Or..maybe you are just a lump. In that case she can continue having that one sided conversation with her cat or dog. Or refrigerator. At least it hums.roll eyes
Nov 28, 2021 2:00 PM CST Why cant I find a gal?
fantaziya
fantaziyafantaziyawindsor, Nova Scotia Canada4 Threads 873 Posts
Orzzz: I notice a common thing on here. Men who contact and then resort to grunts. Ask a question. No answer. Conversations end up one sided. I know men think women like the strong silent type, but!
I have never lacked for conv with my men. Not in all the years. Mom said she and dad never ran out of stuff to talk about.
The idea of companionship is sharing stuff. And that starts with getting to know each other. I used to bar-tend. Part of it is to be sociable. Customer comes in and chat as they wish. And then there were the lumps. Get their beer, and crawl into it. Make a remark about weather or some trivial thing and get a grunt. Try 3 or 4 times and then ..to heck with you. Go back to my stool and ignore til he wants a drink.
Men, if you want to meet a gal on here..talk to her via emails. Other wise you come off as a dud. She is not going to jump at you just for the photo. Or profile. And I bet those are basically grunts.
You have a job. You have hobbies. You have a home, garden, city..in other words unless you are a gamer living in the basement..you have a life. Talk about it. Or..maybe you are just a lump. In that case she can continue having that one sided conversation with her cat or dog. Or refrigerator. At least it hums.
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Nov 28, 2021 2:05 PM CST Why cant I find a gal?
Name_Taken_Too
Name_Taken_TooName_Taken_TooBelfast, Down Ireland75 Threads 1 Polls 4,113 Posts
Orzzz: I notice a common thing on here. Men who contact and then resort to grunts. Ask a question. No answer. Conversations end up one sided. I know men think women like the strong silent type, but!
I have never lacked for conv with my men. Not in all the years. Mom said she and dad never ran out of stuff to talk about.
The idea of companionship is sharing stuff. And that starts with getting to know each other. I used to bar-tend. Part of it is to be sociable. Customer comes in and chat as they wish. And then there were the lumps. Get their beer, and crawl into it. Make a remark about weather or some trivial thing and get a grunt. Try 3 or 4 times and then ..to heck with you. Go back to my stool and ignore til he wants a drink.
Men, if you want to meet a gal on here..talk to her via emails. Other wise you come off as a dud. She is not going to jump at you just for the photo. Or profile. And I bet those are basically grunts.
You have a job. You have hobbies. You have a home, garden, city..in other words unless you are a gamer living in the basement..you have a life. Talk about it. Or..maybe you are just a lump. In that case she can continue having that one sided conversation with her cat or dog. Or refrigerator. At least it hums.
It cuts both ways, or else she wants to cram a full lifetime into the few messages, I get bored with the interrogation and just give up and move on to the next candidate.. sigh
Nov 28, 2021 3:32 PM CST Why cant I find a gal?
KNenagh
KNenaghKNenaghAachen, Kilkenny Ireland13 Threads 14,815 Posts
Communication is important. My parents worked all day together and I can still remember that when we came back from work, they would be listening to the news on the radio and discuss what was going on in the world.

Having something to say to my partner and not getting bored is important. If you don't have something to say to each other, what are you going to do? Who are you going to spend time with and discuss what is going on in your life?

Lots of reasons why people can't find their other half though.
Nov 28, 2021 3:35 PM CST Why cant I find a gal?
PeKaatje
PeKaatjePeKaatjeAnkeveen, North Holland Netherlands80 Threads 5 Polls 8,631 Posts
well, on a different datingsite I'm on, I have contact with girls regularly, but they always start asking questions, and then I answer and have a question for them too. They avoid to answer but come with new questions, and then after a couple of questions they ignore me.
Nov 28, 2021 3:36 PM CST Why cant I find a gal?
PeKaatje
PeKaatjePeKaatjeAnkeveen, North Holland Netherlands80 Threads 5 Polls 8,631 Posts
KNenagh: Communication is important. My parents worked all day together and I can still remember that when we came back from work, they would be listening to the news on the radio and discuss what was going on in the world.

Having something to say to my partner and not getting bored is important. If you don't have something to say to each other, what are you going to do? Who are you going to spend time with and discuss what is going on in your life?

Lots of reasons why people can't find their other half though.
I always wonder what Kenny did that they want to kill him. Also in Southpark, he's always murdered.
Nov 28, 2021 3:57 PM CST Why cant I find a gal?
In my defense I purposefully made my profile screwy to not attract random strangers in any country.
The funny thing is this my only online dating sitelaugh It's for the bestthumbs up motorcycle
Nov 28, 2021 5:14 PM CST Why cant I find a gal?
Nov 28, 2021 6:02 PM CST Why cant I find a gal?
fantaziya
fantaziyafantaziyawindsor, Nova Scotia Canada4 Threads 873 Posts
Name_Taken_Too: It cuts both ways, or else she wants to cram a full lifetime into the few messages, I get bored with the interrogation and just give up and move on to the next candidate..
But do men really want to know a full lifetime report. Is it so important?
All those stories can come up letter. If two people will get a voltage click (on a first date)
cheers
Nov 28, 2021 6:26 PM CST Why cant I find a gal?
Both genders do it, run out of interesting things to say, and just ask heaps of pointless questions.

After music/food/sport/etc. have been covered, the questioning usually crosses that line of what folks choose to share with strangers. There's not a nice way of saying- none of your business, and without being told the other person can't understand why their fascinating questions are not being answered.
Nov 28, 2021 6:34 PM CST Why cant I find a gal?
fantaziya
fantaziyafantaziyawindsor, Nova Scotia Canada4 Threads 873 Posts
pat8lanips: Both genders do it, run out of interesting things to say, and just ask heaps of pointless questions.

After music/food/sport/etc. have been covered, the questioning usually crosses that line of what folks choose to share with strangers. There's not a nice way of saying- none of your business, and without being told the other person can't understand why their fascinating questions are not being answered.
Nov 28, 2021 6:37 PM CST Why cant I find a gal?
fantaziya
fantaziyafantaziyawindsor, Nova Scotia Canada4 Threads 873 Posts
pat8lanips: Both genders do it, run out of interesting things to say, and just ask heaps of pointless questions.

After music/food/sport/etc. have been covered, the questioning usually crosses that line of what folks choose to share with strangers. There's not a nice way of saying- none of your business, and without being told the other person can't understand why their fascinating questions are not being answered.
lol I hit the wrong button Sorryblushing

That's true.
But when there is nothing to talk about, between to people, what the point to continue this date. Next!
Until you will find the right one.conversing
Nov 28, 2021 6:47 PM CST Why cant I find a gal?
It possibly involves being impatient too... Rather than leave it, and think up something interesting/relevant to say later, I'll ask if they like wholegrain bread now...
Nov 28, 2021 6:51 PM CST Why cant I find a gal?
fantaziya
fantaziyafantaziyawindsor, Nova Scotia Canada4 Threads 873 Posts
pat8lanips: It possibly involves being impatient too... Rather than leave it, and think up something interesting/relevant to say later, I'll ask if they like wholegrain bread now...
laugh
No it is not gonna work ether Just run away. cheers
Nov 28, 2021 6:56 PM CST Why cant I find a gal?
I'm a reasonable man, I'll give things a chance by simply grunting and ignoring inane questions.
Nov 28, 2021 8:10 PM CST Why cant I find a gal?
I have the same complaint with women here, perhaps it's catching.
Nov 28, 2021 8:13 PM CST Why cant I find a gal?
Name_Taken_Too
Name_Taken_TooName_Taken_TooBelfast, Down Ireland75 Threads 1 Polls 4,113 Posts
fantaziya: But do men really want to know a full lifetime report. Is it so important?
All those stories can come up letter. If two people will get a voltage click (on a first date)
No not at all, I like to get bits at a time, not the whole life story.. We got a leave some mystery..cheers
Nov 28, 2021 8:15 PM CST Why cant I find a gal?
fantaziya
fantaziyafantaziyawindsor, Nova Scotia Canada4 Threads 873 Posts
Caprikious: I have the same complaint with women here, perhaps it's catching.


everyone have the the same complaints.... so where is that golden middle? sigh
Nov 28, 2021 10:53 PM CST Why cant I find a gal?
Name_Taken_Too: It cuts both ways, or else she wants to cram a full lifetime into the few messages, I get bored with the interrogation and just give up and move on to the next candidate..
I think it’s good when partners have a common goal they do together, like backyard chickens, a garden, home improvement, decorating, etc…combined with individual personal interests such as fishing or just taking a trip alone once in awhile. That way, there is both togetherness, AND a healthy respect for each others’ solitary time. I think in most cases this works well.
Nov 28, 2021 11:01 PM CST Why cant I find a gal?
Mercedes_00online now!
Mercedes_00online now!Mercedes_00Greater Sydney, New South Wales Australia22 Threads 31,062 Posts
Having a verbal conversation sh all over emails..I can talk under water..In saying that maybe those of us who deal with the public are better at flapping our gums compared to those pencil pushers and so on.
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