secretagent09New Jersey Girl in, North Carolina USA7,229 posts
Decent_Love: Advantages and disadvantages of lonely life?
Are you confusing "lonely life" with being alone?
Living alone is not necessarily a lonely life. I live alone. I enjoy my independence in not having to adhere to someone else's rules. I am not lonely.
A lonely life is when family and friends have abandoned you. You don't necessarily live in a cardboard box but you are destitute from the normal needs of life......food, medical care, interaction with people.
Lonely life: it doesn't mean, living in a forest alone. It means, you have no partner with whom you can share your deepest feelings. You can feel alone even in the crowd, if you don't have an appropriate partner.
Decent_Love: Advantages and disadvantages of lonely life?
Advantage: the sincere desire to spend time with someone. Plus it's owning up to a negative, at least you're not a narcissist saying that you're definitely not lonely, you're just alone. You could become less lonely through good company. Which is something. You could be lonely and insisting that you're not lonely because you trust no one, and will therefore always be lonely because you trust no one.
If I didn't have a lonely life I probably would not have my motorcycle transmission half apart on my kitchen table. It will be completely apart when I take it apart and nobody can stop me. The lonely life.
secretagent09: Are you confusing "lonely life" with being alone?
Living alone is not necessarily a lonely life. I live alone. I enjoy my independence in not having to adhere to someone else's rules. I am not lonely.
A lonely life is when family and friends have abandoned you. You don't necessarily live in a cardboard box but you are destitute from the normal needs of life......food, medical care, interaction with people.
Sometimes family and friends may not have abandoned someone who feels lonely. It could be that the family and friends don't "match" the life philosophy of the person and so they feel alone until they find a new "tribe" who does match their life philosophy...
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