Do you wait? (13)

Jun 4, 2022 1:53 AM CST Do you wait?
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Decent_Loveonline today!Decent_LovePrayagraj, Uttar Pradesh India58 Threads 1 Polls 447 Posts
If a good or bad feeling overwhelms you because of a pleasant or unpleasant insident, do you react immediately according to that feeling?, do you take your frustration out immediately upon someone? or do you wait for that feeling to subside?, so that you can give response with cool mind in the right way.
Jun 4, 2022 5:00 AM CST Do you wait?
Happygolucky4u
Happygolucky4uHappygolucky4uTreasure Coast, Florida USA27 Threads 3 Polls 7,960 Posts
Decent_Love: If a good or bad feeling overwhelms you because of a pleasant or unpleasant insident, do you react immediately according to that feeling?, do you take your frustration out immediately upon someone? or do you wait for that feeling to subside?, so that you can give response with cool mind in the right way.
I do both. I would love to wait everytime something bad happens to respond. And I really try, it does not happen always. blues I can be quite harsh at times. Usually that behavior comes from someone trying to push or manipulate me into something I am not going to do. So I roar dunno I do have a thirty day rule on decisions I know will affect my whole course of life. I wait thirty days and if I still feel that way I take whatever action needs to be done. Usually by thirty days I have a reasonable level headed plan. wine
Jun 4, 2022 9:53 AM CST Do you wait?
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Decent_Loveonline today!Decent_LovePrayagraj, Uttar Pradesh India58 Threads 1 Polls 447 Posts
Happygolucky4u: I do both. I would love to wait everytime something bad happens to respond. And I really try, it does not happen always. I can be quite harsh at times. Usually that behavior comes from someone trying to push or manipulate me into something I am not going to do. So I roar I do have a thirty day rule on decisions I know will affect my whole course of life. I wait thirty days and if I still feel that way I take whatever action needs to be done. Usually by thirty days I have a reasonable level headed plan.
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If someone bothers you again and again, then it is necessary to take action.
Jun 4, 2022 3:44 PM CST Do you wait?
Decent_Love: If someone bothers you again and again, then it is necessary to take action.
What are you talking about ?
Jun 5, 2022 12:55 PM CST Do you wait?
A discussion is needed, to get to the bottom
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Jun 5, 2022 1:10 PM CST Do you wait?
Decent_Love: If a good or bad feeling overwhelms you because of a pleasant or unpleasant insident, do you react immediately according to that feeling?, do you take your frustration out immediately upon someone? or do you wait for that feeling to subside?, so that you can give response with cool mind in the right way.
If an unpleasant incident happens I don't respond because I'm not a confrontational person. I'd rather hold it in and let them continue to show their true colors.

Later on if I want answers I might ask them when they are least expecting me to ask them about it.
Jun 5, 2022 1:37 PM CST Do you wait?
Didi7
Didi7Didi7Central, Chaguanas Trinidad and Tobago49 Threads 23 Polls 820 Posts
Decent_Love: If a good or bad feeling overwhelms you because of a pleasant or unpleasant insident, do you react immediately according to that feeling?, do you take your frustration out immediately upon someone? or do you wait for that feeling to subside?, so that you can give response with cool mind in the right way.
In the past I would react hastily, but now, as I'm older and a bit wiser, hardly ever do I react immediately, nor do I normally take out my frustration on others. I usually try to avoid the person or situation so that I don't do/say anything to make matters worse, but sometimes I'm not successful with that.
Jun 5, 2022 1:58 PM CST Do you wait?
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bodleing2online now!bodleing2Manchester, Greater Manchester, England UK81 Threads 6,717 Posts
Learning how to process our feelings is one of the greatest lessons we can have. Look towards the animal world to see how many creatures process any form of trauma. If feelings are allowed to sink into the subconscious, if they are not dealt with straight away they become a collective source for later trauma.
The feeling sense in the main goes unrecognised and ignored, the folly of which will haunt us at a later date. Even PTSD can be traced back to unprocessed traumas, and they dont have to be particularly serious traumas to collectively result in the harrowing state of PTSD.
Next time you see two ducks squabbling, watch how they deal with it after the event. That negative energy is dispersed and dispensed with by vigorous shaking of the body and tail in particular. This kind of behaviour after any kind of trauma is to be found throughout the animal world, but we seemed to have forgotten it's importance.
We like to say things like, it doesn't bother me or I dont let things get to me. We even say, I just shake it off and get on with things, without even the slightest attempt to shake it off either physically or metaphorically.
So when we are faced with more serious events that we allow to go unprocessed the trauma just builds even more. The feeling sense is ignored and we divert the feelings by distraction....drink, and othe various drugs, or tv, shopping, go online, even reading a book. Anything to avoid dealing with the occasional trauma that life throws at us all to often, instead of dealing with it immediately as our ancestors probably would have done before we all got smart....laugh
Jun 5, 2022 3:12 PM CST Do you wait?
irish78eyes
irish78eyesirish78eyesMeath/Louth, Louth Ireland32 Threads 8,308 Posts
secretagent09: If an unpleasant incident happens I don't respond because I'm not a confrontational person. I'd rather hold it in and let them continue to show their true colors.

Later on if I want answers I might ask them when they are least expecting me to ask them about it.
I think I was very laid back as regards being assertive to people who insult or being passive aggressive or down right bitchy. I'd feel sick inside being assertive in the end, as it would build up inside me for sometimes months and I'd explode probably after four or five dif things with that person. I'm not great in a verbal row even after I'd get an apology or give one I'd feel sick ...could never handle a row/confrontation.


But...lately I'm better at saying it straight up to whoever, definitely more assertive. I think I am getting to the stage in life I take no shit. I say my piece and leave it at that .let it go...let them ramble to themselves if need be lol
I don't bother trying to prove my point either just say what I have to say and carry on..
Jun 5, 2022 3:29 PM CST Do you wait?
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Track16online today!Track16Little Hearts Ease, Newfoundland Canada1,109 Threads 16,288 Posts
One time I responded immediately but these days I wait and analyze before responding.
Jun 5, 2022 3:32 PM CST Do you wait?
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Track16online today!Track16Little Hearts Ease, Newfoundland Canada1,109 Threads 16,288 Posts
irish78eyes: I think I was very laid back as regards being assertive to people who insult or being passive aggressive or down right bitchy. I'd feel sick inside being assertive in the end, as it would build up inside me for sometimes months and I'd explode probably after four or five dif things with that person. I'm not great in a verbal row even after I'd get an apology or give one I'd feel sick ...could never handle a row/confrontation.


But...lately I'm better at saying it straight up to whoever, definitely more assertive. I think I am getting to the stage in life I take no shit. I say my piece and leave it at that .let it go...let them ramble to themselves if need be lol
I don't bother trying to prove my point either just say what I have to say and carry on..
This is the stage of your life where you are comfortably you and no longer interested in pretending. Welcome to the good times wine
Jun 5, 2022 3:47 PM CST Do you wait?
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ChesneyChristonline now!ChesneyChristManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK11,226 Posts
Decent_Love: If a good or bad feeling overwhelms you because of a pleasant or unpleasant insident, do you react immediately according to that feeling?, do you take your frustration out immediately upon someone? or do you wait for that feeling to subside?, so that you can give response with cool mind in the right way.
I've calmed down now but you've not lived unless you've grabbed someone by the pu**y. You know how it gets you, the scent of a woman
Jun 5, 2022 4:59 PM CST Do you wait?
irish78eyes
irish78eyesirish78eyesMeath/Louth, Louth Ireland32 Threads 8,308 Posts
Track16: This is the stage of your life where you are comfortably you and no longer interested in pretending. Welcome to the good times
cheers the pics of where you live are very peaceful looking, I envy you just stunning
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