The first move (45)

Jun 30, 2022 2:15 PM CST The first move
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden90 Threads 3 Polls 3,973 Posts
We live in the patriarchy society, still - some like it, some don't. Nonetheless, the man is supposed the make the first move. Is it right? Is it wrong?

- Do you want a man to make the first move? Why?
- Do you want a woman to make the first move? Why?
- Does it matter to you who does the first move?


PS What is "the first move"?
Jun 30, 2022 2:17 PM CST The first move
Youcannow
YoucannowYoucannowLondon, Essex, England UK103 Threads 4,391 Posts
It’s the woman who chooses the man who chooses her . ( if that makes sense)
Jun 30, 2022 2:20 PM CST The first move
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden90 Threads 3 Polls 3,973 Posts
Youcannow: It’s the woman who chooses the man who chooses her . ( if that makes sense)
It does. It indeed is.

A woman chooses from the men, who chose her.

Nonetheless the question was about what you want :)
Jun 30, 2022 2:26 PM CST The first move
Youcannow
YoucannowYoucannowLondon, Essex, England UK103 Threads 4,391 Posts
Tulefell: It does. It indeed is.

A woman chooses from the men, who chose her.

Nonetheless the question was about what you want :)
I wish I could answer that question.
I guess I don’t know until I find it .
Jun 30, 2022 2:26 PM CST The first move
Marmalade55
Marmalade55Marmalade55Rothercastersly, South Yorkshire, England UK5 Threads 206 Posts
Tulefell:
PS What is "the first move"?
In my experience, it's something that you wait for, but never comes. sad

As you may have guessed, I am not a first mover, myself.
Jun 30, 2022 2:28 PM CST The first move
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden90 Threads 3 Polls 3,973 Posts
Youcannow: I wish I could answer that question.
I guess I don’t know until I find it .
Well, fine... it's not like we are leaving or some such...

:)
Jun 30, 2022 2:32 PM CST The first move
Youcannow
YoucannowYoucannowLondon, Essex, England UK103 Threads 4,391 Posts
Tulefell: Well, fine... it's not like we are leaving or some such...

:)
Well , I pop in from time to time to keep an eye on the yanks cool laugh
Jun 30, 2022 2:51 PM CST The first move
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden90 Threads 3 Polls 3,973 Posts
Marmalade55: In my experience, it's something that you wait for, but never comes.

As you may have guessed, I am not a first mover, myself.
I haven't guessed therefore I ask: why are you not "the first mover"? Is it wrong to expect a man to be the "first mover" in initiating a contact btw a man and a woman? Why? And why so? And why not?

Then, per se, you'd like a woman to make the first move (whatever it means). Does it work? (The OP covers the subject, s'il vous plait).


The main question is: what would you prefer in terms of movement?

(not bowl movement, mind)
Jun 30, 2022 2:52 PM CST The first move
Track16online now!
Track16online now!Track16Little Hearts Ease, Newfoundland Canada1,109 Threads 1,110 Posts
My social anxiety makes making the first move hard for me.
Jun 30, 2022 2:55 PM CST The first move
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden90 Threads 3 Polls 3,973 Posts
Track16: My social anxiety makes making the first move hard for me.
Well... consider their level of social anxiety and regard yourself as normal :)

Then make a move.

THE MOVE!!!
Jun 30, 2022 3:00 PM CST The first move
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden90 Threads 3 Polls 3,973 Posts
Here it is:

Jun 30, 2022 3:02 PM CST The first move
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden90 Threads 3 Polls 3,973 Posts
Again to Track: I am delighted to see you participating in the fora. I hope you are well.

:)
Jun 30, 2022 3:15 PM CST The first move
Track16online now!
Track16online now!Track16Little Hearts Ease, Newfoundland Canada1,109 Threads 1,110 Posts
Tulefell: Again to Track: I am delighted to see you participating in the fora. I hope you are well.

:)
I'm pretty good, ty. I been mia for a while, but not anymore :)
Jun 30, 2022 3:19 PM CST The first move
Marmalade55
Marmalade55Marmalade55Rothercastersly, South Yorkshire, England UK5 Threads 206 Posts
Tulefell: I haven't guessed therefore I ask: why are you not "the first mover"?
Because if I get myself into something that I later wish I hadn't, it makes it more difficult to get out of. And, believe it or not, out of a concern that anyone who gets involved with me will end up wishing they hadn't. I just sort of hang about on the edge, but never step in. It confuses people and leaves me feeling bad. If complete honesty isn't what you were expecting, I hope there wasn't too much of it. sad flower

If I weren't so screwed up, I recon I wouldn't be a bad catch, depending on your standards. smile
Jun 30, 2022 3:20 PM CST The first move
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden90 Threads 3 Polls 3,973 Posts
Track16: I'm pretty good, ty. I been mia for a while, but not anymore :)
Well... I hoped...

but I'm glad that you are well :)
Jun 30, 2022 3:25 PM CST The first move
Track16online now!
Track16online now!Track16Little Hearts Ease, Newfoundland Canada1,109 Threads 1,110 Posts
Tulefell: Well... I hoped...

but I'm glad that you are well :)
I found a whole new routine after some medical issues popped up. Long story short, because of the new routine, I feel light years better than this time last year.
Jun 30, 2022 3:43 PM CST The first move
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden90 Threads 3 Polls 3,973 Posts
Track16: I found a whole new routine after some medical issues popped up. Long story short, because of the new routine, I feel light years better than this time last year.
I'm glad for you :)

If you ever would like to improve your state, I'd recommend Qigong. Worked wonders for me. I started with Rainbow Sun Qigong (easy to find on youtube if you want).
Jun 30, 2022 4:11 PM CST The first move
Track16online now!
Track16online now!Track16Little Hearts Ease, Newfoundland Canada1,109 Threads 1,110 Posts
Tulefell: I'm glad for you :)

If you ever would like to improve your state, I'd recommend Qigong. Worked wonders for me. I started with Rainbow Sun Qigong (easy to find on youtube if you want).
Looks interesting, and not hard to do. ty :)
Jun 30, 2022 4:31 PM CST The first move
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden90 Threads 3 Polls 3,973 Posts
Marmalade55: Because if I get myself into something that I later wish I hadn't, it makes it more difficult to get out of. And, believe it or not, out of a concern that anyone who gets involved with me will end up wishing they hadn't. I just sort of hang about on the edge, but never step in. It confuses people and leaves me feeling bad. If complete honesty isn't what you were expecting, I hope there wasn't too much of it.

If I weren't so screwed up, I recon I wouldn't be a bad catch, depending on your standards.
A lot of you described could be quite familiar for a woman, who doesn't want to sit and wait for something or other to happen. If you, as a woman, make the first move, the other side... and here I talk from my experience, not science So, as a woman you don't want to sit and wait till a suitable man would approach you. Instead, when seeing a suitable man, you approach him yourself. And in my experience it was seen as invitation for sex here and now. While in my understanding it was an attempt to make acquaintance. It could go well and it coould got go whatever, you never know.

But my experience made me not to make any advances. My experience...

Well... the tread is not about my experience :)
Jun 30, 2022 5:06 PM CST The first move
irish78eyes
irish78eyesirish78eyesMeath/Louth, Louth Ireland32 Threads 8,308 Posts
I used to give the eyes if I liked a guy, hold the gaze lol then left it to him

Now I'm still the same way but my wants in a guy has changed laugh

I don't chase a guy, I put in what I get back...as it should be
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