We live in the patriarchy society, still - some like it, some don't. Nonetheless, the man is supposed the make the first move. Is it right? Is it wrong?
- Do you want a man to make the first move? Why? - Do you want a woman to make the first move? Why? - Does it matter to you who does the first move?
Marmalade55: In my experience, it's something that you wait for, but never comes.
As you may have guessed, I am not a first mover, myself.
I haven't guessed therefore I ask: why are you not "the first mover"? Is it wrong to expect a man to be the "first mover" in initiating a contact btw a man and a woman? Why? And why so? And why not?
Then, per se, you'd like a woman to make the first move (whatever it means). Does it work? (The OP covers the subject, s'il vous plait).
The main question is: what would you prefer in terms of movement?
Marmalade55Rothercastersly, South Yorkshire, England UK4 Threads138 Posts
Marmalade55Rothercastersly, South Yorkshire, England UK138 posts
Tulefell: I haven't guessed therefore I ask: why are you not "the first mover"?
Because if I get myself into something that I later wish I hadn't, it makes it more difficult to get out of. And, believe it or not, out of a concern that anyone who gets involved with me will end up wishing they hadn't. I just sort of hang about on the edge, but never step in. It confuses people and leaves me feeling bad. If complete honesty isn't what you were expecting, I hope there wasn't too much of it.
If I weren't so screwed up, I recon I wouldn't be a bad catch, depending on your standards.
I found a whole new routine after some medical issues popped up. Long story short, because of the new routine, I feel light years better than this time last year.
Track16: I found a whole new routine after some medical issues popped up. Long story short, because of the new routine, I feel light years better than this time last year.
I'm glad for you :)
If you ever would like to improve your state, I'd recommend Qigong. Worked wonders for me. I started with Rainbow Sun Qigong (easy to find on youtube if you want).
If you ever would like to improve your state, I'd recommend Qigong. Worked wonders for me. I started with Rainbow Sun Qigong (easy to find on youtube if you want).
Marmalade55: To be honest, it is all a world outside of my experience, I was married at 20 and remained so up until about 6 or 7 years ago, since when I haven't been involved with anyone. What I said earlier was accurate as far as my feelings and senses are concerned, but there is no basis of experience there. If I ever did try to get involved with the "dating" thing, I would be quite clueless. As soon as the potential for doing the wrong thing came up, I would do it; I'm sure I would.
You might just click with your date and it be all natural and relaxed
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- Do you want a man to make the first move? Why?
- Do you want a woman to make the first move? Why?
- Does it matter to you who does the first move?
PS What is "the first move"?