The first move ( Archived) (42)

Jun 30, 2022 1:15 PM CST The first move
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden104 Threads 5 Polls 3,306 Posts
We live in the patriarchy society, still - some like it, some don't. Nonetheless, the man is supposed the make the first move. Is it right? Is it wrong?

- Do you want a man to make the first move? Why?
- Do you want a woman to make the first move? Why?
- Does it matter to you who does the first move?


PS What is "the first move"?
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Jun 30, 2022 1:17 PM CST The first move
Youcannow
YoucannowYoucannowLondon, Essex, England UK96 Threads 3,523 Posts
It’s the woman who chooses the man who chooses her . ( if that makes sense)
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Jun 30, 2022 1:20 PM CST The first move
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden104 Threads 5 Polls 3,306 Posts
Youcannow: It’s the woman who chooses the man who chooses her . ( if that makes sense)
It does. It indeed is.

A woman chooses from the men, who chose her.

Nonetheless the question was about what you want :)
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Jun 30, 2022 1:26 PM CST The first move
Youcannow
YoucannowYoucannowLondon, Essex, England UK96 Threads 3,523 Posts
Tulefell: It does. It indeed is.

A woman chooses from the men, who chose her.

Nonetheless the question was about what you want :)
I wish I could answer that question.
I guess I don’t know until I find it .
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Jun 30, 2022 1:26 PM CST The first move
Marmalade55
Marmalade55Marmalade55Rothercastersly, South Yorkshire, England UK4 Threads 138 Posts
Tulefell:
PS What is "the first move"?
In my experience, it's something that you wait for, but never comes. sad

As you may have guessed, I am not a first mover, myself.
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Jun 30, 2022 1:28 PM CST The first move
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden104 Threads 5 Polls 3,306 Posts
Youcannow: I wish I could answer that question.
I guess I don’t know until I find it .
Well, fine... it's not like we are leaving or some such...

:)
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Jun 30, 2022 1:32 PM CST The first move
Youcannow
YoucannowYoucannowLondon, Essex, England UK96 Threads 3,523 Posts
Tulefell: Well, fine... it's not like we are leaving or some such...

:)
Well , I pop in from time to time to keep an eye on the yanks cool laugh
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Jun 30, 2022 1:51 PM CST The first move
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden104 Threads 5 Polls 3,306 Posts
Marmalade55: In my experience, it's something that you wait for, but never comes.

As you may have guessed, I am not a first mover, myself.
I haven't guessed therefore I ask: why are you not "the first mover"? Is it wrong to expect a man to be the "first mover" in initiating a contact btw a man and a woman? Why? And why so? And why not?

Then, per se, you'd like a woman to make the first move (whatever it means). Does it work? (The OP covers the subject, s'il vous plait).


The main question is: what would you prefer in terms of movement?

(not bowl movement, mind)
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Jun 30, 2022 1:52 PM CST The first move
My social anxiety makes making the first move hard for me.
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Jun 30, 2022 1:55 PM CST The first move
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden104 Threads 5 Polls 3,306 Posts
Track16: My social anxiety makes making the first move hard for me.
Well... consider their level of social anxiety and regard yourself as normal :)

Then make a move.

THE MOVE!!!
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Jun 30, 2022 2:00 PM CST The first move
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden104 Threads 5 Polls 3,306 Posts
Here it is:

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Jun 30, 2022 2:02 PM CST The first move
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden104 Threads 5 Polls 3,306 Posts
Again to Track: I am delighted to see you participating in the fora. I hope you are well.

:)
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Jun 30, 2022 2:15 PM CST The first move
Tulefell: Again to Track: I am delighted to see you participating in the fora. I hope you are well.

:)
I'm pretty good, ty. I been mia for a while, but not anymore :)
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Jun 30, 2022 2:19 PM CST The first move
Marmalade55
Marmalade55Marmalade55Rothercastersly, South Yorkshire, England UK4 Threads 138 Posts
Tulefell: I haven't guessed therefore I ask: why are you not "the first mover"?
Because if I get myself into something that I later wish I hadn't, it makes it more difficult to get out of. And, believe it or not, out of a concern that anyone who gets involved with me will end up wishing they hadn't. I just sort of hang about on the edge, but never step in. It confuses people and leaves me feeling bad. If complete honesty isn't what you were expecting, I hope there wasn't too much of it. sad flower

If I weren't so screwed up, I recon I wouldn't be a bad catch, depending on your standards. smile
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Jun 30, 2022 2:20 PM CST The first move
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden104 Threads 5 Polls 3,306 Posts
Track16: I'm pretty good, ty. I been mia for a while, but not anymore :)
Well... I hoped...

but I'm glad that you are well :)
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Jun 30, 2022 2:25 PM CST The first move
Tulefell: Well... I hoped...

but I'm glad that you are well :)
I found a whole new routine after some medical issues popped up. Long story short, because of the new routine, I feel light years better than this time last year.
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Jun 30, 2022 2:43 PM CST The first move
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden104 Threads 5 Polls 3,306 Posts
Track16: I found a whole new routine after some medical issues popped up. Long story short, because of the new routine, I feel light years better than this time last year.
I'm glad for you :)

If you ever would like to improve your state, I'd recommend Qigong. Worked wonders for me. I started with Rainbow Sun Qigong (easy to find on youtube if you want).
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Jun 30, 2022 3:11 PM CST The first move
Tulefell: I'm glad for you :)

If you ever would like to improve your state, I'd recommend Qigong. Worked wonders for me. I started with Rainbow Sun Qigong (easy to find on youtube if you want).
Looks interesting, and not hard to do. ty :)
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Jun 30, 2022 4:06 PM CST The first move
irish78eyes
irish78eyesirish78eyesMeath/Louth, Louth Ireland22 Threads 6,274 Posts
I used to give the eyes if I liked a guy, hold the gaze lol then left it to him

Now I'm still the same way but my wants in a guy has changed laugh

I don't chase a guy, I put in what I get back...as it should be
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Jun 30, 2022 4:24 PM CST The first move
irish78eyes
irish78eyesirish78eyesMeath/Louth, Louth Ireland22 Threads 6,274 Posts
Marmalade55: To be honest, it is all a world outside of my experience, I was married at 20 and remained so up until about 6 or 7 years ago, since when I haven't been involved with anyone. What I said earlier was accurate as far as my feelings and senses are concerned, but there is no basis of experience there. If I ever did try to get involved with the "dating" thing, I would be quite clueless. As soon as the potential for doing the wrong thing came up, I would do it; I'm sure I would.
You might just click with your date and it be all natural and relaxed
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