Advice for a 25 year old ( Archived) (33)

Aug 11, 2022 10:45 AM CST Advice for a 25 year old
sorry about the spelloes.. I'll blame it on my laidback positure here in the sofa lol
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Aug 11, 2022 12:07 PM CST Advice for a 25 year old
Youcannow
YoucannowYoucannowLondon, Essex, England UK96 Threads 3,523 Posts
secretagent09: There is no "sorting things out" when you have a controlling psycho on your hands.

Dollars to donuts, if Dee takes your advice Dee will find her dead.

The woman should get a Restraining Order immediately and she should take witnesses with her when she goes before the judge to prove that others have seen how dangerous he is.
I agree . So it’s not our business & any advice could be fatal .
Outsiders shouldn’t get involved in a domestic, especially as we only know one side of the story .
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Aug 11, 2022 2:02 PM CST Advice for a 25 year old
Youcannow: I agree . So it’s not our business & any advice could be fatal .
Outsiders shouldn’t get involved in a domestic, especially as we only know one side of the story .
It is our business to advice here.

Me I'm resting assured Dee is smart enough to not listen to you here.
You're totally wrong here. Like your judgement is clouded.
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Aug 11, 2022 2:15 PM CST Advice for a 25 year old
Grandsiozzie: No, that makes it worse.

..unless they do what Track16 suggested... bring in the biggest boys
in the family + friends, put him in the middle this pshyco and then hear what he has to say!
In that setting. Important those guys are pretty intimidating!
Then... grill him deeper and deeper...harder and harder. Make him sweat.

His version is fake news bro. They just has to make her see it!
Listen, here are the facts:
a) he cheated on her
b) he claimes she sheated on him

Get it?
Normally I frown on violence but in the case of people like him, its what they understand and a group of big guys can be far more effective than a piece of paper from a judge. First visit, just rough him up moderately, make it hurt but don't break anything. If he needs a second visit, there would be no need for a 3rd visit because he would never walk again.
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Aug 11, 2022 2:18 PM CST Advice for a 25 year old
Most clear cut psycho case I've heard about.

"The cheater who is so sad he might kill himself... but admit to the cheating- no way!
In fact let's accuse her of it!"
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Aug 11, 2022 2:25 PM CST Advice for a 25 year old
I know you are a really peacful man Track, and so am I.
But unfortunately some 'people'
have no respect for anything less
than the threat of actual
raw power.
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Aug 11, 2022 2:27 PM CST Advice for a 25 year old
Youcannow
YoucannowYoucannowLondon, Essex, England UK96 Threads 3,523 Posts
Grandsiozzie: It is our business to advice here.

Me I'm resting assured Dee is smart enough to not listen to you here.
You're totally wrong here. Like your judgement is clouded.
No it’s not !
For all we know , she could just as well be as crazy as him.
Can’t you see that this is a manipulative thread to discredit a fellow male .
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Aug 11, 2022 2:35 PM CST Advice for a 25 year old
Youcannow: No it’s not !
For all we know , she could just as well be as crazy as him.
Can’t you see that this is a manipulative thread to discredit a fellow male .
No can't see that.

Anyways, we'll have to agree to disagree. Not difficult.
I'm happy both our views is out, showing cs democracy works better than many others
we heard of hehe.

beer
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Aug 11, 2022 2:47 PM CST Advice for a 25 year old
Youcannow
YoucannowYoucannowLondon, Essex, England UK96 Threads 3,523 Posts
Grandsiozzie: No can't see that.

Anyways, we'll have to agree to disagree. Not difficult.
I'm happy both our views is out, showing cs democracy works better than many others
we heard of hehe.
As I said . Women can create so much drama just to make their lives seem interesting & worthwhile.
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Aug 11, 2022 5:16 PM CST Advice for a 25 year old
secretagent09
secretagent09secretagent09New Jersey Girl in, North Carolina USA198 Threads 4 Polls 7,223 Posts
Track16: Normally I frown on violence but in the case of people like him, its what they understand and a group of big guys can be far more effective than a piece of paper from a judge. First visit, just rough him up moderately, make it hurt but don't break anything. If he needs a second visit, there would be no need for a 3rd visit because he would never walk again.
Roughing him up will not change his brain waves which is how he controls her. It's how he thinks about life.....his, his wife's and anybody else.

If they break his legs he will still be the same person.
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Aug 11, 2022 5:20 PM CST Advice for a 25 year old
She needs to get the hell away from him ASAP. Get to a judge in family court to get him out of the house so he is evicted not her
Nothing she can do will change him. She just has to know that.
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Aug 12, 2022 1:20 AM CST Advice for a 25 year old
Tiger_Moth
Tiger_MothTiger_MothYeovil, Somerset, England UK23 Threads 2,833 Posts
Morning DeeDee wave

From your last post I would hesitate to say that she may well be afraid of him, but she also may still have feelings for him. You cannot switch your emotions on and off like a tap hence her desire not to break completely.

As a parent she must consider the safety and mental health of her 2 young boys which sadly will be affecting them. Trying to cope with all this and also her own personal feelings must be extremely difficult and stressful and she really does need to seek professional help.

Friends support is fine and admirable but this needs to be dealt with by professionals for both people involved as he appears to have some serious issues also.

hug
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Aug 15, 2022 9:44 AM CST Advice for a 25 year old
Deedee123x
Deedee123xDeedee123xLimerick, Ireland69 Threads 4,795 Posts
Once again thank you for the advice.
I wish it was as easy as giving her advice and she running with it but she seems to have her own ideas which is what she has too live with....she gets very mixed messages of advice from family members...some even wanting her to stick out the marriage for the well being of the children ( because that same.person did the same thing)...so I think she's at a stage where she wants a break from all the words in her ear and take a break to think things over....I think his suicide threat has really shifted things for her as she doesn't want it on her conscience that she would drive him to it...but knowing full well it would bee his decision if that makes sense.

Am going to leave her be for a while, visit but not bring it up for her own sake
..she says she won't go back but is struggling with thee idea of being a 25 year old divorcee...silly but it's how she's thinking...Will hope that a breather will help her see sense.
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