Would , or could you forgive your partner … (148)
Youcannow: People who cheat , I’m my opinion, are willing to risk all & that includes financial as well as the relationship.
Sounds like he didn’t care , so maybe you were better off in that respect.
Sounds like he didn’t care , so maybe you were better off in that respect.
Youcannow: People who cheat , I’m my opinion, are willing to risk all & that includes financial as well as the relationship.
Sounds like he didn’t care , so maybe you were better off in that respect.
It was complicated like I said. But in my divorce I asked for nothing from him. I just wanted rid of him forever. I got my wish.Sounds like he didn’t care , so maybe you were better off in that respect.
"Scarlett, I don't believe that a vase broken in a thousand pieces can be put back together as if new; as if nothing ever happened. Not really. No, not at all."-----Rhett Butler, in 'Gone With The Wind'
Youcannow: If they were unfaithful under any circumstances?
Easy peasy. We don't own anyone here. That's just ego trying to blame others for how we feel and we all know that the feeling of codependency and jealousy is ughhhh. I think when people are upfront and honest things are good. Unfortunately, most ego minds are hellbent on disbelief so they can point their ugly feelings at someone else. Mind you, if you contracted for that type of 'special' relationship then minding it's terms is expected. 
A relative of mine just finalized her divorce. He's a filthy, rotten, passive-aggressive narcissistic egotistical misogynist. He also has some bad points......
Coldheaven: It was complicated like I said. But in my divorce I asked for nothing from him. I just wanted rid of him forever. I got my wish.
I don’t really know how it feels to be cheated on , or the one cheating, but it’s fascinating to hear people’s experiences & how their lives plan out . Are they less trusting, or do they go to the next relationship with an open mind ?
BB_snickers: Easy peasy. We don't own anyone here. That's just ego trying to blame others for how we feel and we all know that the feeling of codependency and jealousy is ughhhh. I think when people are upfront and honest things are good. Unfortunately, most ego minds are hellbent on disbelief so they can point their ugly feelings at someone else. Mind you, if you contracted for that type of 'special' relationship then minding it's terms is expected.
That doesn’t make sense 
rohaan: A relative of mine just finalized her divorce. He's a filthy, rotten, passive-aggressive narcissistic egotistical misogynist. He also has some bad points......
Sounds lik she’s making a big mistake 
Youcannow: I don’t really know how it feels to be cheated on , or the one cheating, but it’s fascinating to hear people’s experiences & how their lives plan out .
Are they less trusting, or do they go to the next relationship with an open mind ?
In my case, (and I was in love with a lady years ago) what it did was close the door forever. Not interested in getting burned again. No one is worth giving up my peace of mind for. Absolutely NO ONE.Are they less trusting, or do they go to the next relationship with an open mind ?
Youcannow: I don’t really know how it feels to be cheated on , or the one cheating, but it’s fascinating to hear people’s experiences & how their lives plan out .
Are they less trusting, or do they go to the next relationship with an open mind ?
Well for me it was with an open mind that was just a little bit older and wiser. I’m still with him now 23 years later so it’s all good.Are they less trusting, or do they go to the next relationship with an open mind ?
Youcannow: Sounds lik she’s making a big mistake
Actually, I haven't spoken to her yet, but word's out that she did VERY WELL. Which she should have.....(they own rentals, which are like SOLID GOLD in Oregon ) I'm extremely pleased for her. Way. 
Coldheaven: Well for me it was with an open mind that was just a little bit older and wiser. I’m still with him now 23 years later so it’s all good.
I’m happy for you . 
Youcannow: I’m happy for you .
Aww thank you so muchrohaan: Actually, I haven't spoken to her yet, but word's out that she did VERY WELL. Which she should have.....(they own rentals, which are like SOLID GOLD in Oregon ) I'm extremely pleased for her. Way.
Technically, she owns half , so she’s only getting what she deserves out of it .Coldheaven: Aww thank you so much
Always glad to hear happy stories . It gives us all hope .Youcannow: Always glad to hear happy stories . It gives us all hope .
I hope you can find happiness as much as I have. Everyone here deserves to be happy.
Youcannow: If they were unfaithful under any circumstances?
I guess you've gotta find a partner first
Youcannow: That doesn’t make sense
No worries, it is just a sense that you're not aware of.
BB_snickers: Easy peasy. We don't own anyone here. That's just ego trying to blame others for how we feel and we all know that the feeling of codependency and jealousy is ughhhh. I think when people are upfront and honest things are good. Unfortunately, most ego minds are hellbent on disbelief so they can point their ugly feelings at someone else. Mind you, if you contracted for that type of 'special' relationship then minding it's terms is expected.
No always about codependency or jealousy....Some people are so sensitive to energy and vibration that when their partner spends time with someone else they feel the change in vibration and it's very disconcerting ... it's like having intimate moments with someone else 'by proxy' ... those same sensitive people might prefer to chose who they get intimate with including 'experiences by proxy' ...
BB_snickers: Easy peasy. We don't own anyone here. That's just ego trying to blame others for how we feel and we all know that the feeling of codependency and jealousy is ughhhh. I think when people are upfront and honest things are good. Unfortunately, most ego minds are hellbent on disbelief so they can point their ugly feelings at someone else. Mind you, if you contracted for that type of 'special' relationship then minding it's terms is expected.
Hi Al.....
The demand for exclusivity has it's roots in the infants total dependence on the stability of 'the other' (parent.) This dependency we take into our adult romantic relationships where the demand for exclusivity becomes the accepted norm fueled by the original projections we believed to be love. But it's the same fear we have of being abandoned or betrayed as an infant by our parental other.
So, the action of an unfaithful SO is charged with deep complexes rooted in our childhood relationship to those we were dependent on for our very existance.
The powerful deep seated charge that goes with an unfaithful partner overides any kind of objective rationale, the ego is violated, the child abandoned.
The need for exclusivity in a relationship is really a form of attachment, the mutual expectation of exclusivity however rather than need can be the bedrock of any healthy relationship.
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