Honestly... What do men think about gals who ask them out? ( Archived) (37)

This question is for the men. But ladies please feel free to also give your views. Let’s say you’re out and just see someone interesting. You don’t know them but would perhaps like to get to know them.

I know everyone’s different but generally speaking…. Will a guy think less of women who asks him out on a date? If a woman does ask a man out on a date. In a guys mind does that lessen the respect he feel he needs to give her? Will this give off the impression that she is desperate or perhaps free in some way? Or to put it more bluntly will a man expect a female to “put out” if she asks a man out? What exactly does go thru a guys mind when he's asked out?

Heck no! The only desperate person would be me! lol I'd prefer a woman to ask me out, since I'm really shy about asking girls anyway.

Allen

As a matter of fact it would be very refreshing if a woman would ask a man out. Why would that give off any other impression than just a desire to spend time with that man?

To be honest honeyamber, my last few girlfriends approached me first. Not that it worked out in any of the situations, or I wouldn't be here. But, they did last at least a year each. (i'm not much for flings) The age-old addage that guys have to be the initiator went out with the rest of the morales back in the early nineties. Just don't come on too strong, don't feel that because you offered the man is obligated. I have had girls who became extremely upset at me for not returning the interest. Not to be an egomaniac, but it's bot too uncommon for me. All I did was continue to m ingle and she thought I was making fun of her. (talk about insecurity issues) If it's face to face, look for body langauge. When you meet eyes, smile. He will probably look away, then look back. Keep smiling, try a wink or raise an eyebrow. At this p[opint he will either turn away or return a bigger smile. If he's not trying to avoid you, you probably have a good chance.

thats how it works with me at least. Good luck, don't drink excessively to get up the courage. A guy who can be woo'd while you are hammered is on the prowl for tonights flavor.

Yup, easier to be asked out that way you know you ain't being head gamed with. Lady don't put out, oh, well had a good time. Better than being alone. Less respect, hell no, means shes got balls. What the hell is wrong with being desperate, geez. Gee, cool, they really like me. Ego trip, I got asked out. Strutting my stuff, lol.

Personally I prefer a woman to approach me due to my shyness.
I have asked women out before but usually i'm too shy.

I don't have a problem with a woman asking me out on a date. It's happened a couple times. The only problem, I had to pay for myself and them...........to get to Riga Latvia. My pocket said "No way Jose" :)

Of course I wouldn't mind it!

I'd only expect her to "put out" if she came up to me naked after excusing herself to the bathroom. Otherwise it's up to the flow of the evening.

I'd love to be asked out sometime... ;-)

lol
right...gotta be close enough...Been through that one:(