Can a new relationship work if 1 partner is still living with their ex but leading seperate lives (38)
xxLilyxxHampshire, England UK36 Threads 3,678 PostsNooooooo Deb, even if there were no hard feelings between them. I'm just a simple soul and don't like complicated situations 
yes im the same lily, it would hurt me to much being in that situation 
Deb, I actually ended contact on christmas day with a guy I had become very close to, He told me he had finally told his wife that he was moving on and was no longer available to be at her beck and call anymore. I was so gutted, He told me they were seperated, but I had no idea she still relied on him. It didn't feel right at all and I also felt he hadn't been fully truthful with me so I ended it.
i would have done the same lily. 
If I couldn't cope in a sepearted situation, then them still living together would be a definite no no lol.
Oh well, they say the knocks are meant to be good character building
Yeah right 
Oh well, they say the knocks are meant to be good character building
Yeah right it would be a no for me to i couldnt handle that.
Definately not.
God you lot really are on my wavelength today. I had to put up with sharing my flat with my ex for a year, plus the bills etc. OK so i was soft & it held me back, but what was i to do kick her out on the street. Some may say Yes. But hey you have to show compassion especially when there's health elements involved, as well as drink problems. Luckily she's gone now, (9 mnths & just starting to to look again!) we're still friends & she's doing very well at AA & with her shrink. And i hope if ever i'm in the same position someone will help me but i can honestly say i'm so glad she's moved. But i'd say get apart ASAP its a horrible situation to be in as well as awkward. And there's lots more other issues to consider as well.
if i had to share a house with my wife and she brought a boy friend back im sorry but i'd probally end up in jail, i think that if you have no option but to share the same house, she should have the respect not to bring people back,,,but not all people are the same, im only going off my life, i was with my wife for a long time and we have children to gether, thats what probally makes it diffrent for me,,if you and the ex was only together for a short time and have no kids then i can see how living together would work.
Hi ya Chris, you all right, mate? And Belle?
I have to agree with ya on that. Sometimes circumstances mean you can't be apart as you should but tact in bringing new b/fs or g/fs should be considered.
I have to agree with ya on that. Sometimes circumstances mean you can't be apart as you should but tact in bringing new b/fs or g/fs should be considered.
hello dandelion sweetie,, me and belle are fine thanx for asking, couldnt be better,, shes at work at the moment, another long shift for her, but at least a get to see her in her nurses uniform
.........yes me and my wife are separated and im with belle,,love her to bits,, but if me and my wife had to share a house, we would have the respect for each other not to put the other person through that.but we was together for 10 years
.........yes me and my wife are separated and im with belle,,love her to bits,, but if me and my wife had to share a house, we would have the respect for each other not to put the other person through that.but we was together for 10 yearshows you hun?
Yeah, I'm good Chris! Just can't believe how short the weekends seem to be - I swear they are getting shorter and shorter!! Boo hoo! Can't bear the thought of back to work tomorrow, I am so, so knackered. All the exhaustion and stress of the job makes me ill at times. I love my job but I think I will have to find something else. Ya know what its like, though, eh? In order to get the salary you need, you have to put up with such demands of the job. I will be okay when I organise my holiday. Probably back to Italy again - I am so at peace there, love it!!!!
Have you got any plans for a holiday this year?? Hope you can get away and chill, yeah?
Have you got any plans for a holiday this year?? Hope you can get away and chill, yeah?
i cant work at the moment as ive got my 3 lads living with me and no job would allow me the time off in the hollidays, but i am a qualfied fittness instructor and i have an S.I.A licence for secruity....//
in the easter holidays im spending time with belle again and that when we plan the skegg meet up.hope you can make it,
in the easter holidays im spending time with belle again and that when we plan the skegg meet up.hope you can make it,
Ahh, mate, sorry to hear that - with your profession, could you not go free-lance and you could then choose when you work or don't? I am sure you have thought of all those kinda things, I'm not telling you anything new, am I?
I certainly hope your Easter goes with a swing, for both of you. And, bless ya, you are a sweetie - I don't think I can make it to Skeggie but if its a success, and I'm sure it will be, I would definitely try and make the next one. A break is just what I need for sure but just can't do it at the mo - way too much workload!! Bear me in mind if you do organise something else, eh?
Take care of you and yours.
I certainly hope your Easter goes with a swing, for both of you. And, bless ya, you are a sweetie - I don't think I can make it to Skeggie but if its a success, and I'm sure it will be, I would definitely try and make the next one. A break is just what I need for sure but just can't do it at the mo - way too much workload!! Bear me in mind if you do organise something else, eh?
Take care of you and yours.
ive got an N.V.Q lvl 2 hun, to do private instruction you need a lvl 3, hehehe,,,,,,i hope that you get your beak sweetie and i hope that your able to make it to italy were your heart is :)
Hey Pompey,
Very dicey situation to be in personally, with each case being different I wouldn't want to be in that sort of situation to tell you the truth if besides if the person loves you enough and you have a flat or house maybe if they hang at yours or move in with you, but once you move on it's better for a clean break and a fresh start (ole baggage is no go area!) cos it could come to haunt you l8ter.
Very dicey situation to be in personally, with each case being different I wouldn't want to be in that sort of situation to tell you the truth if besides if the person loves you enough and you have a flat or house maybe if they hang at yours or move in with you, but once you move on it's better for a clean break and a fresh start (ole baggage is no go area!) cos it could come to haunt you l8ter.
Well, Pompey..... if your ex who is still living with you has a new boyfriend, and you are moving your new girlfriend in with you, it should make for a nice cosy foursome, yeah?? But, not one to judge - each to their own, eh??? 
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