Red Flags (41)

What red flags have you had that you knew were there but, decided to ignore them and continue with a relationship?
This could be on here or, in real life.

On here my first one is not to be able to talk on the phone after a couple of months of building a text rapport which, is a disaster in the making.

Not in my case I mean, if you were to say a three minute conversation was a talk then yes!! But more than three in my case personally, no.

Sorry bub forgot to quote you when replying, still getting the hang of this er, trying to.
Not in my case I mean, if you were to say a three minute conversation was a talk then yes!! But more than three in my case personally, no.

Ok so this is interesting, I would never have thought to look for these sort of red flags! It just never would have occured to me, thanks for the heads up.

BTW, was the mafia really involved in that situation? Just curious

Hindsight is very underrated!
Some of us try to learn from the experience but some just throw caution to the wind and choose to ignore those same flags in another possible relationship.

I have never been told I am the best person to my recollection lol but, I have had exaggerated adoration like really soon in the courting phase which I find to be uncomfortable because they don't know me?!
Normally my flags go up in front of my face when this happens but it is good to get reminders from others with their own experiences, thanks for the reminder.

Baby,
DON"T call me baby!!!
It is a general term and until you know me don't call me that!
To me it is an impersonal general/loose term, after we meet and you know my name, call me by my name.

There is a funny song that Merle Haggard put out " She never even called me by my name ". Even though the song is really funny I do believe that it has underlying truth to it somewhere along the line of getting to be a hit.

Posing for pictures.
Really?
If I get to know a guy well enough I WILL give pictures but I will not give a gallery of different poses.
First thing out of this one guys mouth was " send pics " no please or can or will you.
He asked for different poses so I sent him a message in reply asking for a picture of his pinky toe on his right foot and to wrap it in tinfoil and, hold his leg high, the higher the better, I never heard from him again, it was meant as a joke as I was beginning to become uncomfortable, laughing is a good way to assuage my mood at times like that, some weird people on here but yeah, def a red flag there!

Thanks and hello.
I thought it was important for those of us that haven't been here for years and years to get a grasp on what red flags are about.

IF I could change a$$holes from being a$$holes I would have done it a long time ago, too bad we don't have spray like we do with bugs but, that would be too easy.
Some people just have to let their ugly out unfortunately, they take it out on other people, they can help it of course but, they don't feel they need to.
They are so full of themselves that they feel like they own this CS server, I don't know why that is, it just is so, we have to deal with the a$$holes of CS, maybe there should be made a forum about that, maybe that guy who seems to have been here for years yet complains about how bad the forums are should make a forum about how bad people behave instead of how boring they are.
We can't control that but, what we can do is control how we feel and react to it unless of course they get real nasty then it is time to fire off and teach them manners not that they will learn it but still, it feels good trying.
Some people are so ugly, it spews out of them and over runs and therefore leaks into everything they say.
They think they are cute with their smarta$$ answers thinking they are wise and smart but they are not, the rest of us see them as smarta$$ jerks, that is what they are so don't let them mess with your head after all, you don't dine with them, you don't sleep with them, they don't pay or help to pay your bills, so therefore they are nothing to you, zero counts.
Here is my advice if you want it, if you don't you are free to ignore, take heart in the fact that they have been here for years and years, that should bring a smile :)

We are constantly categorising and putting everything in a box and compartmentalising every single detail, more often without realising it unless it is blatantly obvious.

So as regards to red flags, what do we actually learn from them? Do we choose to ignore and not listen, or are humans simply tantalised and driven by the excitment of a red flag?

I like this, however, there are so many grades of sandpaper, some of it diamond paper which is very fine. There are always scars which come in many forms, being part of an individuals history. No matter how polished or how raw they maybe.

Just have to have the right mechanisms in place and red rags can be interesting. One must now themselves before they go weak at the knees. Everyone in this life will know or know someone who would raise multiple red flags and sirens going off. Drama drama drama, that’s life. Hallelujah to ya