First Date ( Archived) (211)

Apr 15, 2023 12:07 PM CST First Date
DoxieDad2
DoxieDad2DoxieDad2Northport, Alabama USA1 Threads 68 Posts
Friendship4ever: The men on CS are not dateable.
Some are married.
Some are misogynist.
Most are emotionally disturb.
Some are here because they have nothing else to do.
Let's not forget mental illness.

And you pretending you are financially secure, but you start a thread because the date ordered a meal you think was too expensive.
NOW BE GONE.
Wow, how could you miss the point to such an extreme? I am very financially secure and I got that way by not throwing away money, working hard and being responsible. Blowing $200 on food she did not even eat is ridicules. I do not care how much money one has it is an idiot thing to do. But the point is her reaction after blowing $200 on food she was not paying for. Then I politely pay the bill, pay a cab to take her home and end the date. She looses her mind and puts me on blast. That was the actual point you are apparently incapable of getting.

SO NOW YOU BE GONEbarf
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Apr 15, 2023 1:05 PM CST First Date
Friendship4ever:
NOW BE GONE.
Defouk you're talking about? Not your call who stay or go... or you recently been hired by cs?

This thread is about some damn golddiggers. I agree wholeheartedly with Doxie here, even if I think he should wise up and date proper adults from now on.
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Apr 15, 2023 1:57 PM CST First Date
gonelikethewimd
gonelikethewimdgonelikethewimdOsprey, Florida USA3,293 Posts
Just a hypothetical question...If the lady had asked for a doggie bag...and, gone home with you...not asked for a cab, would you have started this thread?
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Apr 15, 2023 2:18 PM CST First Date
rohaan
rohaanrohaanCoos Bay, Oregon USA229 Threads 10,460 Posts
DoxieDad2: So recently I went out with this young lady. She was 35 and very attractive. We have go for dinner and she orders a $35 glass of wine. I thought okay, strike one. And then she orders about $200 worth of food and barely eats any of it.
I go ahead to tell her this is not going to work out and call her a cab. I pay the bill and walk away only to be screamed at, called cheap and I wake up this morning being put on blast. So I ask all of you, whats the deal, did I do wrong here?

My position is simple, I say I should have hit the eject quicker and let her pay for her own $200 meal. But no, I opted to pay the bill and walk away.
I just read the entire thread--so, I agree with the members who pointed out the odd choice of taking someone you didn't know to an expensive restaurant on what appears to be a "first date". First dates are best made at coffee shops or beach-front food courts, where prices are manageable. Then, you have a fairer chance of getting to know one another, without cost being a factor. It's awkward to find oneself in an ordeal one has created--however, when she ordered the $200.00 meal it would have been completely fair to say, "sorry, I'm not paying that. And, sayonara......" and then LEAVE. The audacity to use another person like she did is well more than enough reason to abruptly end the date---no explanation, no anything. People need to do this, rather than pay a high bill and then the "date" wasn't any good, anyway...right?? At least save yourself some money. Anybody ordering a meal and drink at that price at someon else's expense is a USER. Dump them hard and fast.
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Apr 15, 2023 2:27 PM CST First Date
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden103 Threads 5 Polls 3,295 Posts
Google says: "Price class 31 to 50 USD". Given that the restaurant is a part of a chain, that's plausible. For 200 you can buy the whole maitre'd if they have one :)
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Apr 15, 2023 2:48 PM CST First Date
DoxieDad2
DoxieDad2DoxieDad2Northport, Alabama USA1 Threads 68 Posts
Tulefell: Google says: "Price class 31 to 50 USD". Given that the restaurant is a part of a chain, that's plausible. For 200 you can buy the whole maitre'd if they have one :)
I eat here often its very easy to spend $100 per person. I will say her spending $200 took me back a bit. I did not see that coming but it is certainly possible as she did just that.
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Apr 15, 2023 2:54 PM CST First Date
DoxieDad2
DoxieDad2DoxieDad2Northport, Alabama USA1 Threads 68 Posts
gonelikethewimd: Just a hypothetical question...If the lady had asked for a doggie bag...and, gone home with you...not asked for a cab, would you have started this thread?
First I would not have taken her home, I never even considered giving her that chance after her behavior. And yes, I would have started this thread and reacted exactly the same. It is not about that and if getting someone into my bed is all I was after well that's easy. As a general rule I do not jump into bed so quickly with someone I have yet to form a connection with. There is a lot that plays into that. I am old enough to know better.
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Apr 15, 2023 3:04 PM CST First Date
DoxieDad2
DoxieDad2DoxieDad2Northport, Alabama USA1 Threads 68 Posts
gonelikethewimd: Just a hypothetical question...If the lady had asked for a doggie bag...and, gone home with you...not asked for a cab, would you have started this thread?
Oh and just to be clear, she did not ask for a cab. I insisted that I would cover a cab to get her home. No way was I going to leave her standing there and I was not about to carry her home.
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Apr 15, 2023 3:05 PM CST First Date
rohaan
rohaanrohaanCoos Bay, Oregon USA229 Threads 10,460 Posts
DoxieDad2: First I would not have taken her home, I never even considered giving her that chance after her behavior. And yes, I would have started this thread and reacted exactly the same. It is not about that and if getting someone into my bed is all I was after well that's easy. As a general rule I do not jump into bed so quickly with someone I have yet to form a connection with. There is a lot that plays into that. I am old enough to know better.
Hey Buster--you asked "So, did I do wrong here?" You posted and told us your story and asked, so whatever responses you get are what you have asked for. (You seem to be defensive....and all we are doing is what you asked us to...)
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Apr 15, 2023 3:08 PM CST First Date
rohaan
rohaanrohaanCoos Bay, Oregon USA229 Threads 10,460 Posts
DoxieDad2: Oh and just to be clear, she did not ask for a cab. I insisted that I would cover a cab to get her home. No way was I going to leave her standing there and I was not about to carry her home.
Oh---after her behavior I would SO have left her standing there....teach her a lesson about not using others. I'm a bit confused, why did you write this to CS members? It seems you already feel how you handled it to be justified, so why do you need input? It's over, anyway.....dunno
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Apr 15, 2023 3:17 PM CST First Date
DoxieDad2
DoxieDad2DoxieDad2Northport, Alabama USA1 Threads 68 Posts
rohaan: Oh---after her behavior I would SO have left her standing there....teach her a lesson about not using others. I'm a bit confused, why did you write this to CS members? It seems you already feel how you handled it to be justified, so why do you need input? It's over, anyway.....
This is in Dating Experiences which is the appropriate place. I thought her reaction was out of line and thought why not share a little. And yes, I would do exactly the same thing if put in that situation again. I know I reacted appropriately for the behavior. cheers
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Apr 15, 2023 3:20 PM CST First Date
DoxieDad2
DoxieDad2DoxieDad2Northport, Alabama USA1 Threads 68 Posts
rohaan: Hey Buster--you asked "So, did I do wrong here?" You posted and told us your story and asked, so whatever responses you get are what you have asked for. (You seem to be defensive....and all we are doing is what you asked us to...)
The response you are responding to was not directed to you in any way. I actually gave your response a thumbs up so I do not know what your issue is here. And of coarse I put it out there so comment however you like. I am only defensive at those who have twisted what I said and came at me first.
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Apr 15, 2023 3:21 PM CST First Date
rohaan
rohaanrohaanCoos Bay, Oregon USA229 Threads 10,460 Posts
DoxieDad2: This is in Dating Experiences which is the appropriate place. I thought her reaction was out of line and thought why not share a little. And yes, I would do exactly the same thing if put in that situation again. I know I reacted appropriately for the behavior.
Really? Gosh, two hundred bucks for food and thirty five for a little cocktail? HMMMM......confused
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Apr 15, 2023 3:22 PM CST First Date
DoxieDad2: I eat here often its very easy to spend $100 per person. I will say her spending $200 took me back a bit. I did not see that coming but it is certainly possible as she did just that.
Mister, she was reckless and knew it. I'd be harder on her than you I think, more rohaan-ish
so compared to me you're more of a gentleman.
I think you may have learned a lesson here haven't you?
Don't threat them too good when they have not yet showed they deserve it.

beer

The nearest I got to this was when I was foolish enough to take a chick out for a second date after our first caffe latte date (that I paid as right was), that was just a couple of drinks. On the second date we went to a restaurant but nothing fancy, I paid yes- but on the way to the next place for a drink I decided to check her so I said "will you pay the first round when we get there then?"... to which she replied "I have no money" wow rolling on the floor laughing There was no third date.
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Apr 15, 2023 3:24 PM CST First Date
rohaan
rohaanrohaanCoos Bay, Oregon USA229 Threads 10,460 Posts
DoxieDad2: The response you are responding to was not directed to you in any way. I actually gave your response a so I do not know what your issue is here. And of coarse I put it out there so comment however you like. I am only defensive at those who have twisted what I said and came at me first.
I don't have an issue with you---only responding that you did ask us for input, but then it appeared you did not like or want it--that's what is confusing. Of course you were a gentleman, I give you kudos for that. Sometimes it is a noble thing. But I'm concerned for community--as long as people keep passively doing this for this lady and ladies like her, she will continue to scam men. I say put a stop to it, or at least put on her brakes a bit. thanx for the thumbs up btw. handshake
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Apr 15, 2023 3:25 PM CST First Date
rohaan
rohaanrohaanCoos Bay, Oregon USA229 Threads 10,460 Posts
Grandsiozzie: Mister, she was reckless and knew it. I'd be harder on her than you I think, more rohaan-ish
so compared to me you're more of a gentleman.
I think you may have learned a lesson here haven't you?
Don't threat them too good when they have not yet showed they deserve it.



The nearest I got to this was when I was foolish enough to take a chick out for a second date after our first caffe latte date (that I paid as right was), that was just a couple of drinks. On the second date we went to a restaurant but nothing fancy, I paid yes- but on the way to the next place for a drink I decided to check her so I said "will you pay the first round when we get there then?"... to which she replied "I have no money" There was no third date.
Thanks a million, Ozzie--you put it much more diplomatically than I did. teddybear your old friend, buddy....hug
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Apr 15, 2023 3:29 PM CST First Date
rohaan
rohaanrohaanCoos Bay, Oregon USA229 Threads 10,460 Posts
DoxieDad2: The response you are responding to was not directed to you in any way. I actually gave your response a so I do not know what your issue is here. And of coarse I put it out there so comment however you like. I am only defensive at those who have twisted what I said and came at me first.
Relax. When you put an idea or comment out to the crowd, they'll holler for Barabbas at first----it's human nature. Try to avoid women who use guys. It's a pox on America......I'm sure you are a very nice fellow..handshake
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Apr 15, 2023 3:43 PM CST First Date
Liebe2
Liebe2Liebe2Salmiya, Hawalli Kuwait12 Threads 3,449 Posts
DoxieDad2: I date younger all the time without issue. I bring a lot to the table including resources, stability and so on. Younger ladies often prefer older men, not all but often. Your first question is nonsensical so I am not answering.
Yeah... if you date younger so the tone, why complain about one? You sound bitter to me. dunno
If you bring resources, and put it out there, then what's the big deal? confused
You haven't told me why you think you're better than a 35-45 y.o. man. dunno
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Apr 15, 2023 3:49 PM CST First Date
DoxieDad2
DoxieDad2DoxieDad2Northport, Alabama USA1 Threads 68 Posts
Liebe2: Yeah... if you date younger so the tone, why complain about one? You sound bitter to me.
If you bring resources, and put it out there, then what's the big deal?
You haven't told me why you think you're better than a 35-45 y.o. man.
I am no better than anyone so no, not going to tell you how I am better. Just that I bring a lot to the table, am in the best shape of my life and luckily can date younger, do often and so on. But you have utterly missed the point here. To answer the question, wasting $200 on food your not going to eat and that someone else is paying for. There you have it, that's the big deal. Sorry if this does not clear it up for you.
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Apr 15, 2023 4:15 PM CST First Date
I haven't been drinking, that is just my spelling laugh
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