First Date ( Archived) (211)

Well… it’s the first date, you never met the person before, you can’t know her preferences and behavior, yet you are surprised and discontent. Why didn’t you tell her in advance how much you are prepared to spend on her? That everything above a certain amount she will have to pay herself? Instead of being straight forward about what exactly you mean with “financially secure”, you chose to make a scene.

Another theme: gold digger. I understand that literally, as in “gold”. It’s bullion, property, fine art, gems of investment quality, shares… something that generates income or have a market value. What market value has a non-appetizing meal? What income does it generate? What is “gold” in all this?

Looks like you call a gold digger every woman who doesn't fancy you.

Really? "Tell her in advance how much you are prepared to spend on her". If a guy said that to me I would say I have to wash my hair that night.

I don't think the posters are being fair to him. Believe him when he says he is financially secure. He is probably used to spending money on his dates but this time it was a meeting not a first date and that's where he went off track. I think he's not used to being cheap, that he likes to be good to women he meets. He's not stupid and knows that women use men and men use women. I think maybe he put too much hope into this meeting.

I've been to high end restaurants and I have been wondering what she could have ordered that would cost $200. Even if she ordered surf and turf at $80, maybe a shrimp cocktail for $20, a salad with truffles $25, a couple glasses of wine at $40 that brings it close to $200. Maybe he added in the tip based on what she ordered.

I would like to ask the OP a question and I hope he doesn't take offense to it. Did she see a picture of you before you guys met? If she didn't see what you look like perhaps she didn't like your beard and decided in a quick moment that you aren't her type but she's going to get everything she can out of you. On the other hand if she did see what you look like there's a chance she knew before she met you that she wanted to destroy you. Either way, the user had a plan and because you liked everything she said in your talks you decided to give her a chance. Like I said in my previous post you can put money on your favorite stock that she is doing it again today.

And what would be her gain in all that?

Are you talking to me?

Yes. Forgot to mark "quote".

She won't gain anything financially. She didn't even have the decency to ask for a doggie bag.

I think she has been hurt by a man probably in her bank account. I have been there and know what it feels like. However, I didn't use any of the men I dated after that.

I think she is livid that she might have been used by other men she dated. Even though she is attractive she hasn't met the man who lights up her life and wants to see again.

She has no interest in sleeping with men, she just wants to destroy them. That is her comfort.

I think that since she is pretty she assumes she can get away with anything, that men flock to her feet because of her beauty.

I think she has gained satisfaction that she embarrassed the OP, that she spoke her mind and called him cheap, that she has rejected him instead of the other way around which has probably happened many times due to her volatile temper and lack of frugality.

She is an angry woman with fire in her life. She hates. All she thinks about is vengeance.

Well.. quite a story!

I have another one: perhaps, she expected from a man below her league, that he would appreciate her beauty and youth more, that a man closer to her age and matching looks. She wanted more admiration and she didn't get it. Disappointment, squabble, bitter split.