How long should you talk to someone over the phone before meeting! ( Archived) (15)

I meet this really great woman, on here, and she gave me her phone number. I have talked to her now for 4 days. We have talked for hours at a time. Even called each other back minutes later. I know she was hurt by prior a relationship, as was I. I get a true feeling of gentleness, kindness, and politness. We have talked about alot, and nothing, and gone on for hours. I get lonely when I can't talk to her. I couldnt push her to meet if I would want to. She is an independant, strong willed and very proud woman. And all her qualities make for a extremely charming package. But she is now laid up from a surgery, that could leave her in recovery for a month or better. I would be crazy not to wait, and I will. But should she be embarrased to meet me given her unfortuante condition at this moment?

"But should she be embarrased to meet me given her unfortuante condition at this moment?"

I didn't read where you said she was emnarrased. Might be she just needs the recoup time...?

"I couldnt push her to meet if I would want to"

Why would you push her?

Give it time. Four days is really not much, even if it feels like longer...

Good luck.

HI Xenon. Please don't push her to meet while she's recovering from surgery. I happen to be going thru something similar right now. I had a hysterectomy 5 weeks ago. I met a man on here and we've been talking. I'm not thinking he's as wonderful as ur lady but he's been pushing for a meeting even tho he knows my situation. I can't talk for ur lady but not many women want their first date to happen when they're not at their best. I want to make a great impression and be fully mobile. I'm actually thinking my guy is being insensitive by pushing the date issue and the more he talks about it the more i don't want to even see him. If things are so wonderful after 4 days they'll be even better by the time she's recovered and u giving her time to do that show's how sensitive u are and that u have her best interests in mind. Best of luck to the both of u!!!

"But should she be embarrased to meet me given her unfortuante condition at this moment?"

I'm a bit confused about what you're asking. Do you want to know how long to exchange calls before meeting? Or do you want to know if you should meet her for the first time when she's laid up.

My advice on the first is to suggest a meeting when it feels completely comfortable to you to do so. If she's not ready, she'll say so, and you’ll still be fine, normally. If it scares her off, then the two of you aren't really in tune anyway, in spite of this 'first flush' of excitement.

On the second point, people usually feel their least social when they’re laid up (if for no other reason than because they’re unable to keep up their appearance the way they normally do). It would be a very rare women who would see meeting you for the first time under these conditions as a positive thing.

well said seraphim. ; )

Hey Amy:)

How's it goin' hon?

Hiiiiiii Tab. I'm doin great on this end. I'm hoping to start back to work on the 29th and i'm lookin for a second job. I'm just not stressed out enuf yet! LOL How's life on ur end? I'm tellin ya, i'm sooo ready to hear about something good happening to someone. Everyone seems to be struggling financially or emotionally, health problems, divorce, u name it. Saddens me.

Xenon, it would be good to meet her when she is better. Time is always a factor and when you are with someone here; you are still with them.

Roy

Drk, I am having the best days of my life in here. I wouldn't trade it for nothing.