How do you know who you are REALLY talking to? ( Archived) (31)

Feb 6, 2007 4:27 AM CST How do you know who you are REALLY talking to?
Southern_Belle35
Southern_Belle35Southern_Belle35Katrina Ville, Louisiana USA2 Threads 6 Posts
How do you know that the person that you are trying to build a relationship with is really who they say they are? You could end up with a psycho, a child molestor, a woman or man beater..... you just never know for real! That is very scarry!!

My sister was married to a man for over 27 years, then for no reason he left her for a woman that he met in a chat room like this.

The woman that he is with now really knows nothing about him, only what he tells her.

He drinks alot and can get violent when he is drinking. Not to mention we later found out that he had been molesting their teenage daughter. Before charges could be brought on him he fled the area and we do not know where he is at now. All we do know is what was found on his computer that he left behind.

I guess the reason that I am writing this is to tell all of you to be very careful and to do a background check on anyone you plan to meet from dating sites. These days it is easy to do a background check. Most of them cost very little. No matter what the cost it is worth it for the safety of you and your children if you have any.
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Feb 6, 2007 4:42 AM CST How do you know who you are REALLY talking to?
Westdeck
WestdeckWestdeckAmsterdam, North Holland Netherlands82 Threads 1,649 Posts
I totally agree!

I got a phone-call yesterday from a friend. She was crying. For the 4th time she thought she had found her man, and also this one turned out to be married. I can only hope she bounces back. Every-time it takes her months to get over it.
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Feb 6, 2007 4:44 AM CST How do you know who you are REALLY talking to?
cardsfan23
cardsfan23cardsfan23somewhere, USA23 Threads 4,228 Posts
Well said,thumbs up
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Feb 6, 2007 4:45 AM CST How do you know who you are REALLY talking to?
sometimes you don't
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Feb 6, 2007 4:48 AM CST How do you know who you are REALLY talking to?
shyone57
shyone57shyone57Kilkenny, Ireland14 Threads 2,037 Posts
It is a risk we all take
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Feb 6, 2007 5:35 AM CST How do you know who you are REALLY talking to?
Raynew
RaynewRaynewConcord, North Carolina USA99 Threads 2,400 Posts
It's a risk even if you meet someone at the grocery store or laundromat
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Feb 6, 2007 5:40 AM CST How do you know who you are REALLY talking to?
korangen
korangenkorangenSanta Monica, California USA9 Threads 1,714 Posts
but at a laundromat, at least you know their clothes are clean
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Feb 6, 2007 5:41 AM CST How do you know who you are REALLY talking to?
shyone57
shyone57shyone57Kilkenny, Ireland14 Threads 2,037 Posts
rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing
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Feb 6, 2007 5:41 AM CST How do you know who you are REALLY talking to?
VioladorDeLaLey
VioladorDeLaLeyVioladorDeLaLeyBajo Un Sol Feliz, USA11 Threads 4,548 Posts
laugh
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Feb 6, 2007 5:47 AM CST How do you know who you are REALLY talking to?
zach1097
zach1097zach1097SALISBURY, USA16 Posts
I WAS DATING A 53 YR OLD OB-GYN FOR A YEAR. HER PARTNER IN THE PRACTICE BECAME OBSESSED WITH ME. SHE STARTED STALKING ME. ITS WAS LIKE EVERYWHERE I WENT SHE WAS THERE. I BROKE OFF THE RELATIONSHIP, AND GOT OUT OF THERE
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Feb 6, 2007 5:50 AM CST How do you know who you are REALLY talking to?
mstyeyez
mstyeyezmstyeyez796 Posts
rolling on the floor laughing
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Feb 6, 2007 5:50 AM CST How do you know who you are REALLY talking to?
shyone57
shyone57shyone57Kilkenny, Ireland14 Threads 2,037 Posts
You should have posted that under the thread " Head Games "conversing
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Feb 6, 2007 6:29 AM CST How do you know who you are REALLY talking to?
mikkael
mikkaelmikkaelbray, Wicklow Ireland2 Threads 7 Posts
Hmm, interesting points.

Can't say I've been taken advantage of by any women on this site (!). Seriously though, your sister's lucky to have gotten rid of him, although unfortunately it seems the problem ( him ) has just moved elsewhere.

I think the points are perhaps a little seperate, really. I mean 27 years doesn't compare to a comparitively brief intro. on a site like this. In the former situation, it was extreme bad luck I guess.

Regarding Websites for dating etc., I don't think the risk is necessarily greater, I can say from a fella's point of view though that it does act as a scammer-magnet. Webcams are usually a good sussing - out device, and usually when "Kisses" appears as a sign off initially you just know a request for the price of a flight is coming.

As someone once said "If you want a guarantee, buy a toaster". I think that's pretty well where it's at!

Best regards.

Anthony.
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Feb 6, 2007 6:38 AM CST How do you know who you are REALLY talking to?
Konigsberg
KonigsbergKonigsbergJurassic Park (Site B), Nova Scotia Canada57 Threads 3 Polls 8,448 Posts
That's a sad story ... No one can guarantee the result eh

<---------Have never had any bad experiences ... i trust my guts and keep my head germ free of fantasis wine
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Feb 6, 2007 6:43 AM CST How do you know who you are REALLY talking to?
Jess642
Jess642Jess642Agnes Water, Australia25 Threads 4,545 Posts
I always sign off with a kiss with flowers and mail to both males and females...and last time I looked I was real...and I haven't asked anyone for money.... although, I've offered it to a few in need....


trust your gut...Real is as Real dies...
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Feb 6, 2007 6:44 AM CST How do you know who you are REALLY talking to?
Jess642
Jess642Jess642Agnes Water, Australia25 Threads 4,545 Posts
Whoops...great minds think alike!!!laugh wave
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Feb 6, 2007 6:45 AM CST How do you know who you are REALLY talking to?
sexysweeti
sexysweetisexysweetiClinton, USA22 Threads 1,788 Posts
This is what I say about pics of people on dating sites, "he is handsome as far as the pic goes." Sometimes those pics go back quite a few years and sometimes they are fake. Mine was taken this summer, thanks for all the compliments that I look younger.

I wouldn't want to feel too intense to quick either. I am very leary when people start talking too intense too soon now. Maybe it just happens because people get lonely and love craved. I think it is like driving a car...be careful, look and listen and don't drive too fast.
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Feb 6, 2007 6:45 AM CST How do you know who you are REALLY talking to?
Konigsberg
KonigsbergKonigsbergJurassic Park (Site B), Nova Scotia Canada57 Threads 3 Polls 8,448 Posts
lol ... yep honey. May i have some money? grin uh oh
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Feb 6, 2007 6:46 AM CST How do you know who you are REALLY talking to?
Jess642
Jess642Jess642Agnes Water, Australia25 Threads 4,545 Posts
Of course...but you forgot the kiss....laugh
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Feb 6, 2007 6:55 AM CST How do you know who you are REALLY talking to?
Konigsberg
KonigsbergKonigsbergJurassic Park (Site B), Nova Scotia Canada57 Threads 3 Polls 8,448 Posts
for you my Australian Mona Lisa cool All my the sweetest kisses, thought i have never met you in person ...YET grin kiss kiss kiss kiss kiss kiss
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