Much older man ( Archived) (36)

Thats life I guess.

So much for being 20 and all the "dreams" shot to hell.

All I have to show for 20 years of my life so far is My daughter.

But its all good though.

I learn life the hard way. I never imagen living in hell until I did. Now Im out and free. And I have a such of a wonder little blonde hair, blue eyed girl that is healthy and normally and is smarter than most Almost 2 year olds are.

I'm sorry u had to live and learn this way but at 17 this is what we do. I can see this is far from over for u but please try not to be bitter about future men in ur life or u'll teach ur beautiful daughter to think that there's only "that" kind of guy out there and that's not true. Fairy tale endings do happen. Depends on a persons idea of a fairy tale. It isn't all peaches and cream but happy endings are not unattainable. Just try to take something away from each experience and learn from it. Let it teach u who u are now, compared to then, and what ur looking for now in a good man. I wouldn't be who i am today when it comes to dating if i hadn't done that. Every relationship has helped me in some way. Good luck.

If there where no social pressures what would you do.

I find it is funny that someone will have so much trouble with this issue because of what other people will think.

In any choice in life weigh the benefits and cost. Then decide if it is worth it to you.

If only people where so bothered when taking drugs or other things that destroy their lives. But they will jump right in because of pressure by their so call FRIENDS!

It's your life. If both of you are of a sound mature mind. It is your chioce.

I'm interested in the answer to your question too. I find that much younger guys aren't into relationships as much as older men are.

Ms Kick it,
I am sorry that yo went through that. I am in my thirties now and often when I look back at the way I've felt for some guyes I think, what was I thinking. When we are young (teens and early twenties) we (women) get so caught up in the whimsicle feeling of being with a man. We are thinking about true love and they just want to get f...ed. It was not fair for that man to take such advantage of you but now you do have your daughter to think about. Don't let her be a constant reminder of your hurt, she is her own little being.
P.S. What do you mean no child support. Girl get some financial help from that a..hole. As long as your daughter is being properly cared for, talk to someone involved with social services in your state see if you can get soe free advise on how to collect money from a dead beat dad.

Everyone has been taken advantage of in one form or another. Pain doesn't discriminate and has nothing to do with age.

But you're left with a choice. You'll live life jaded with emotional inhibitions. Or you'll realize your self worth, conquer demons, and reep the benefits of future loving relationships.

Today's Quote

I have learned through bitter experience the one supreme lesson: to conserve my anger, and as heat conserved is transmitted into energy, even so our anger controlled can be transmitted into a power that can move the world.

-Mahatma Gandhi

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