This question is for the guys. Why do you think your next relationship, will last a life time? ( Archived) (25)

Hello Karla, let me give you my opinion, If you really, really love someone.....
"Sometimes if you give to much all the time the other person does not always appreciate it enough.."
Give it any way!!!

"the person doing the giving gets walked on and also it starts to become expected"

Give it any way!!!!!


"you give gifts everyday how will you make the really special days more special?"

With a lot imagination and creativity. I can cook a special meal, sometimes even though is the same menu, it will never taste the same!

I would stay close to GOD and let HIM make it happen!!! HE can do a better job than I can!!! I think such will last a life-time when 2 people who want to stay together, pray together!!! There's nothing more intimate than praying with your girl/guy and ever being close in intimacy with her and with GOD!!! HE just showers us both with HIS favor and our love-making goes to the "highest level" for HE created such!!! Making LOVE was not created by us...such was created by HIM and with HIM...Well, LOVE and Romance and CELEBRATION becomes EXPLOSIVE ALL THE TIME even during sad times!!!!
The "glue" to keep us ONE...keeps us close to HIM...is the "glue" that keeps us 4ever ONE...therfore; Yami...If we were to be, Us with HIM...we would be 4ever...!!! If such were to be!

Whoa! A lifetime? I just signed up for that and it lasted until someone else turned her head. How about......we try today and see if we still dig tomorrow.

Seriously, I am a 12 stepper and I am facing down a lot of the issues I have carried. I would have to say that I would certainly be a hell of a lot more prudent in my selection. And I would not live with them for sure. By continuing my sobriety I would hope that the drama would go away. But then again I am straight which means I will have to deal with females who from my understanding relish in drama. I am not even close to seeing anyone right now and I am still caught up in peoples drama.

I look back at my relationships and I see a lot that I did right. I see all that I did wrong. I hope next time I get the chance, I can skip the things I do wrong. But I have a lot of defects to strip from my character before I can be assured of anything close to success.

Such is life, the sour... the sweet... and the inedible.

Well I'm screwed then. 'Cause about as defective as they come. Hell..lol

Be willing to accept that it might not. That way it is always not a given. See that other one as a person and a friend. A friend is someone that you go to when you don't have all the answers. Like hey friend what do you think is our problem? Then listen. Discuss without taking over. Be a partner not a ruler. If she is better at some things then you are then accept it. It is not a bad thing but rather a good thing. Be willing to share. Show that you care by be willing to admit the possibility that you might be wrong. Share responsibilty and make a chore list if you have to. If it don't work then stop that and try something else.

You have to take time to listen and care.. don't butt heads.. your partner is saying things to you because they are feeling.. even if you don't agree with how they feel.. try and find out why they feel that way and meet half way.

i thought the last one would last a lifetime and i thought the marriage would last a lifetime so i can only hope the next one will last a lifetime

What I see and what I mean is; for example at my age and my experience I have learned and I know exactly what I want and don't want. I would not settle for less and if I have to wait I am willing to doit regardless the time it might take . Sometimes I may feel anxious and have the urge, just to have him close,just to hold me, hug me and it is normal, but I repeat I will not settle for whatever or because I want company. Being with someone doesn't mean you are not alone. He is not perfect but needs to have very strong qualities a base to built the relationship that I am looking for that in my opinion will last life time. I' consider myself a strong woman and willing to put all the effort need for it to happened and I know there are, good and extrodinary men that have been hurt too and willing to do the same, learned from his experiences. This search, hunting for the right person it is not something I enjoy, I want to ended ASAP and never come back again!
Also a good example, I experienced rigt now are, the hurricanes, with Katrina I learned to prepared, 3 days without power wasn't something my kids or I enjoyed. So before Wilma I prepared myself ahead of time and bought a Generator, all the supplies needed. Water, food, filled up my car with gas, for me Wilma haven't be so bad and also have the availabilty to help my neighbors. Now with Wilma I learned to buy more containers to storage gas and parked my car in a safer place.
What I want to say with the example is that some people learned quickly and make the effort to make it better next time and for some other people take a while and carry on their mistakes to there next experience and even blame other people for their frustations and mistakes.

well lets see here i guess the only thing i would do is continue to be my self i have done quiet fine till my friends come along and bam behind myu back they go i just moved away from my home town cuz that has happened the last 4 to 5 times only 2 really bugged me tho so i donno u tell me

Hello Sergi, what can I tell you. Well I have the same since always, I do good or help who ever comes my way. I have an interesting story. When I got separated, I left the house with my two kids, not even a bed to sleep on, stayed few weeks with my aunt and then move out with someone(girl friend) to share and apartment. I signed the lease for a year, a month later my friend left me and couldn't pay the rent but sorter out and they let my out the lease with penalty, ok. My friend, left me alone with my kids without even thinking about the situation I was going to left on, I survived. Years passed and keept talking to her,(I am not going to change my way of being because others people behavior) she was left out on the street with one small child and pregnant, I said "as long as I have a place, you will have a place too, come, I will give you my room", she cried, she stayed in my house for three months, without even have to pay a penny. But tell you something there is nothing I can ask her she wouldn't do for me.
Be yourself, you will never go wrong! I see you are a very young man, enjoy life and learn, the right person will come alone when you less expect it (that is what I tell myself).

Take Care.

Yami.