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I am glad you do. Kids have a way of remembering that stuff.

It might not sound right but I am sad for his loss. Of course, you can see that. I have gotten to talk to mine on ims. My mom said my daughter tried to call me when my phone was turned off. My daughter was buming from her mom while I was bumming from my mom but then got two jobs and told her mom and her momma's momma that she would just do it on her own. My daughter has her daddy's attitude. I know what a terrible thing to give to a child, lol.

Much to my surprise, my ex put all my child support payments into her college fund. My daughter is 19 and in college. (She also has a part time job) So I'm cool with that.

Good for you bud. There's alot of dead-beat dad's out there that don't act responsible!

Wow. That is awesome, Paws. My daughter is taking classes to be a counselor. What is your daughter studying to be?

Yeah and I hope a lot of dads that are paying or are trying to raise the child answer this thread so show that all dads are not deadbeats. Let's see some good role models respond.

Congrats!! I had an article in todays paper that I wrote concerning child support! Let me see if I can find it and I'll share it!

Adults can fend for themselves, kids can't
This is in response to Ethel Mae's letter about child support issues ("Child support laws need revamping," March 2). Ms. Mae, it is both parents' responsibility to support their children. You said, "There is no incentive for these men to do the right thing." What incentive do they need? They made a child and someone should reward them for taking care of their kid? I don't think so!!

You also state that "back child support is now a felony and called child neglect." This is true when their back support has reached a very large amount. This does not happen if someone misses a few payments! Yes, child neglect, that is exactly what it is called when you don't feed and provide for your child and I think it's one of the best things this state can do to help collect support for children!! Custodial parents cannot miss several weeks of caring for their children; what gives the other parent the right? If the noncustodial parent chooses not to pay child support, then jail is a great place for them to sit.

Now I present the incentive to keep up on child support payments: You won't go to jail, won't lose your job, won't lose your license and you won't be charged with neglect! Seems like a logical "incentive" to me! Oh, and the best incentive: The child benefits from this extra income to pay for needed things. One income can only go so far these days!

The best way for young men to not find themselves in this position is to do the right thing and take care of their child. This is true for women, too, who do not support their children. Maybe you should turn your concern to the children who are the victims in this case. Adults can fend for themselves, kids can't!

Thanks. My mom told me and the rest of my brothers and sisters that is was time that we grow up.

Good story. Yeah, I know I never got a brownie button for paying mine but have gotten some kudos from women who received no support. I have noticed how expensive it is for me to make it in this world on my paycheck and it is just logical that a single parent trying to raise kids and support herself would be harder than what I have it.