WHY DO MEN GO FOR LOOKS AND NOT FOR WHO YOU ARE (39)
Most of the time I do go by the saying, "Never judge a book by it's cover", but I do have some limits.
If a woman is over a certain height or weight, I won't even bother. If they are downright coyote ugly, I won't even touch 'em with a ten foot pole.
If a woman is over a certain height or weight, I won't even bother. If they are downright coyote ugly, I won't even touch 'em with a ten foot pole.
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Natural selection. Look at any species in general; there's a natural order to things, and the strong survive. Evolution and natural selection will predict that someone of normal or better proportions has a better chance of survival, and therefore is more preferrable to breed with.
It's not that there is anything 'wrong' with someone with a few extra pounds - at one time not long ago it was considered a favorable trait - but it goes in stages. Sometimes the weak win and the species dies. Welcome to Life 101.
On a more personal level I, as well as Raynew, deal with the same thing. We're short (height-wise of course). Being short is not a preferrable trait in this day and age (as a male), therefore we're in the same position as those that are too overweight...although in some cases (and certainly not all since there are medical phenomenon which rule it out) the overweight person can change their condition.
If you're comfortable with being overweight and don't care how proportionate the other potential significant other is, don't worry about it; you'll find someone in time. If it's an issue, remember what I wrote; and if your condition is reversible do something about it.
On a very personal level, I would like the next Mrs. Anarqi to be shorter than I am, thin (even bony as a preference) and greatly smarter and wiser than I am since I think that's hotter than anything else in the universe...but 2 out of three ain't bad.
It's not that there is anything 'wrong' with someone with a few extra pounds - at one time not long ago it was considered a favorable trait - but it goes in stages. Sometimes the weak win and the species dies. Welcome to Life 101.
On a more personal level I, as well as Raynew, deal with the same thing. We're short (height-wise of course). Being short is not a preferrable trait in this day and age (as a male), therefore we're in the same position as those that are too overweight...although in some cases (and certainly not all since there are medical phenomenon which rule it out) the overweight person can change their condition.
If you're comfortable with being overweight and don't care how proportionate the other potential significant other is, don't worry about it; you'll find someone in time. If it's an issue, remember what I wrote; and if your condition is reversible do something about it.
On a very personal level, I would like the next Mrs. Anarqi to be shorter than I am, thin (even bony as a preference) and greatly smarter and wiser than I am since I think that's hotter than anything else in the universe...but 2 out of three ain't bad.
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BTW, "who you are" is of equal importance. I won't date someone I consider too overweight, just the same as I won't date someone (regardless of beauty) that is ignorant. I think the latter drives me crazier.
The way I see it is...I look to the time when I'm 80 years old (assuming I survive that long) - is the person I'm with someone that will interest me that long in life? Is she a moron that I married exclusively for her looks, or is this someone that I can carry on a conversation with and not feel as though I'm talking to a brick wall? - So it's two-fold - there has to be a strong attraction physically as well as a strong mental connection. If she's unatractive to me - which is totally relative - I'll move on, same with IQ.
The way I see it is...I look to the time when I'm 80 years old (assuming I survive that long) - is the person I'm with someone that will interest me that long in life? Is she a moron that I married exclusively for her looks, or is this someone that I can carry on a conversation with and not feel as though I'm talking to a brick wall? - So it's two-fold - there has to be a strong attraction physically as well as a strong mental connection. If she's unatractive to me - which is totally relative - I'll move on, same with IQ.
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I just read what I wrote, after posting it. Silly, silly Shelley. LOL
It looks like I said I was 57, I am 5 foot 7 inches.
Also, I have been referred to as..cute, pretty, and beautiful. However the next pounds turn men off.
It really is their loss.
Shelley
P.S. Men...look a little deeper.
It looks like I said I was 57, I am 5 foot 7 inches.
Also, I have been referred to as..cute, pretty, and beautiful. However the next pounds turn men off.
It really is their loss.
Shelley
P.S. Men...look a little deeper.
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I think look's only go so far,than time will tell.A woman that stand's by her man and a man that stand's by his woman truly have a lot to be thankful for.
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Mastic...YOU HIT THE NAIL RIGHT ON THE HEAD... FINALLY!!!
By Golly, I think we have a WINNER. lol. You are so right, all kidding aside.
Rose
By Golly, I think we have a WINNER. lol. You are so right, all kidding aside.
Rose
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Thank you Rose.
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You are welcome. Some folks just don't really get it.
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There's a reason they got there in the first place, Mastic.
If I'd have hooked up with half of the women I've chatted with online - and there's been a few - based solely on our text messages to and fro, I'd have wonderful conversations in bed, but nothing else -and I'm sure it's likewise.
I really really, really, really, (X infinity) wish ppl on this site would use it to their advantage and quit being so wishy-washy. I wish they would say what they wanted, as though they we're confiding in their best friend. I tire of "I don't care what someone looks like so long as their honest". Blah. Give the world a break. We all obviously long for an honest, committed, relationship (well, a lot of us do) with someone COMPATIBLE --- and compatible is RELATIVE as it has different meanings - and it is starting to bug me out that no one here seems to see that LOOKS and BRAINS do mean something. I hear "looking for someone honest, trustworthy, loving, snuggly, willing to commit" and it means nothing to me. I have been those things and in the end it's meaningless if you're not on the same level. Looks and brains count, relatively. I'm not looking for the next Einstein with a 10 body (necessarily, although I think I'd deal), but I am looking for something compatible - and I think a lot of that lacks in the forums here.
It seems there's a lot of misleading BS that goes on here, a TON of plagurized poems, etc. (Google, anyone? sheesh...) and that bothers me. Quit making meager attempts at being above human, and be yourselves, you'll find love means a lot more.
Over and out.
If I'd have hooked up with half of the women I've chatted with online - and there's been a few - based solely on our text messages to and fro, I'd have wonderful conversations in bed, but nothing else -and I'm sure it's likewise.
I really really, really, really, (X infinity) wish ppl on this site would use it to their advantage and quit being so wishy-washy. I wish they would say what they wanted, as though they we're confiding in their best friend. I tire of "I don't care what someone looks like so long as their honest". Blah. Give the world a break. We all obviously long for an honest, committed, relationship (well, a lot of us do) with someone COMPATIBLE --- and compatible is RELATIVE as it has different meanings - and it is starting to bug me out that no one here seems to see that LOOKS and BRAINS do mean something. I hear "looking for someone honest, trustworthy, loving, snuggly, willing to commit" and it means nothing to me. I have been those things and in the end it's meaningless if you're not on the same level. Looks and brains count, relatively. I'm not looking for the next Einstein with a 10 body (necessarily, although I think I'd deal), but I am looking for something compatible - and I think a lot of that lacks in the forums here.
It seems there's a lot of misleading BS that goes on here, a TON of plagurized poems, etc. (Google, anyone? sheesh...) and that bothers me. Quit making meager attempts at being above human, and be yourselves, you'll find love means a lot more.
Over and out.
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I"am not sure what your saying? But what I'am saying is I want a girl that is going to be there for me.Look's don"t mean nothing if she let's you down,I want a girl to take my back in good and bad time's.
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Hey mastic..it's a shame there isn't more men in the world with your views. I'm just curious to know what these people are going to do when their "GOOD LOOKS" run out on them, cause then they aren't going to have nothing to fall back on like us who are wishy washy and write poems and have a HEART !!!!! I'd rather have what I got and hope for a man that stands beside me ANYDAY, compared to some picture perfect studMUFFIN. Have a good night. nice to meet ya mastic and bettyg.
P.S. SOME people can't change their weight anymore than one can "grow UP a few inches". Sorry. We are who we are, right, bettyg?
P.S. SOME people can't change their weight anymore than one can "grow UP a few inches". Sorry. We are who we are, right, bettyg?
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I think a lot of guy's have my view, all that matter's is if that person make's you feel happy.
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I'm sure that there is, I just haven't found the right one yet. What I was trying to say earlier, was people, if they would only look deeper than the skin, would find so much more. It's all in the heart.
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Nah, Anarqi's not cranky. That's him true to life. lol And speaks a lot of truth.
My one concern with these type of threads, is why do they even exist? It always seems like a self esteem problem. Wouldn't you just chalk it up as not compatible?
Why waste time sweating someone that just isn't gonna work out for you?
I'm tickled pink and through the roof if I find out early that someone is no longer interested because of a physical trait. Be it weight, tatoos, died hair, kids, BIG DEAL! That's when you say NEEEEEEEEEEEXT!
And just a side note...if YOU make your weight an issue, how is someone else NOT going to make it an issue? Carry yourself well and accentuate the positive.
My one concern with these type of threads, is why do they even exist? It always seems like a self esteem problem. Wouldn't you just chalk it up as not compatible?
Why waste time sweating someone that just isn't gonna work out for you?
I'm tickled pink and through the roof if I find out early that someone is no longer interested because of a physical trait. Be it weight, tatoos, died hair, kids, BIG DEAL! That's when you say NEEEEEEEEEEEXT!
And just a side note...if YOU make your weight an issue, how is someone else NOT going to make it an issue? Carry yourself well and accentuate the positive.
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Oh and comments about the poems?
Referring to a select few that like to Copy/Paste/claim, to enhance their facade/alter ego.
Referring to a select few that like to Copy/Paste/claim, to enhance their facade/alter ego.
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HEY CRASH!!! How are ya chicka??!!
Ugghhh....man I hate this subject! In my opinion God made us all to be different for a REASON! Not ALL men want Paris Hilton...who by the way, has cellulite WHHHOOOHHHOOO a guilty pleasure I suppose!! LMAO!!! Some men actually like a woman with a little "junk in the trunk"......THANK GOD MY MAN DOES!!!!! Hehehe!!!
Ugghhh....man I hate this subject! In my opinion God made us all to be different for a REASON! Not ALL men want Paris Hilton...who by the way, has cellulite WHHHOOOHHHOOO a guilty pleasure I suppose!! LMAO!!! Some men actually like a woman with a little "junk in the trunk"......THANK GOD MY MAN DOES!!!!! Hehehe!!!
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Hey to YOU honey honey! Life is splendid, as I know it is for you too! Well, mine prolly isn't as good, being you got the weenee and all. lol
Yeah, crappy, touchy subject. Everybody's different. I'm a big ol' meanie girl and geeesh, some men just don't like that! lol Go figure! But doesn't mena I'm gonna change. Means you chuck em in File 13 and head back to the drawing board.
Yeah, crappy, touchy subject. Everybody's different. I'm a big ol' meanie girl and geeesh, some men just don't like that! lol Go figure! But doesn't mena I'm gonna change. Means you chuck em in File 13 and head back to the drawing board.
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