What do ladies look out for? ( Archived) (20)

hello and welcome first of all
the wealth i look for in a man is that of his heart

Great points ladies. A question to crash...what does persistance consist of exactly? I ask this because if I send a flower/message to someone and they quite simply do not respond, then for me, their interest factor is nil.

Persistance...perhaps if I don't immediately get back to someone, I've had an extraordinarily busy day. Maybe I thought I wrote but didn't. Or, best of all, the wording or subject matter of the first correspondence might not have triggered an interest, but the second may do so. A second attempt also shows you just weren't going down the row sending bogus, generic emails.

Yeah and if two emails doesn't do it, pester the hell out of them. After awhile you'll wear down thier deffenses and they give up and write you. Although it may not be what you want to hear.lol It show determination.LOL If its flowers you are sending neveeer use the choices given to ya always write your own.

I tend to be like Tumpa, not just in emails, but in person too. If I ask a woman out and she basically says now (without indicating any interest in a possible rain check). I take that to pretty much mean that she isn't the slightest bit interested. Continuing to hit on her would feel like stalking to me.

Also, I think when I was fairly young I did tend to press on in spite of early disinterest. Unfortunately younger women have little patient and would eventually snap back with something like "Don't you get it? Get lost!"

I really don't care to push things to that point. I'd rather just drop it early and chalk it up to being her loss. Why force a woman to tell you to get lost? So if a woman expects me to be persistent she's going to need to at least give some kind of hints that she doesn't mind me hitting on her. She could do that by suggesting the possibility of a rain check, or giving some other explanation of why now was just not a good time, but to just flatly no respond, or to respond with a pretty definite no. Well, I take that to mean that she's just plain not interested period. I won't press it from that point no matter how perfect I think we might be for each other. She obviously doesn't feel the same way.

The other thing too. It seems strange to me that a woman would complain about not being able to find a great guy and then not bother to respond or engage in conversation with a potential partner who's showing an interest. Seems to me that if she's putting him off at that point she must have already decided that he's not what she's looking for.

There's a fine line between being persistent and being a pain. I don't want to be known as a man who crosses it, so I just don't even go near it to begin with.

Oops!

I mean "she basically says NO" not "she basically says NOW"

(ha ha) wouldn't that be a shocker!

The guy: "Excuse me, would you like to meet to get to know each other better?"

The woman: "Now! Hurry up! Let's go!"

Yep, that'd be something. (ha ha)

Yeah, the guy sends an email and she she expresses her interest by saying, "Come here now, right this minute".

And the guy lives 2500 miles away...AAARRRGGGHHHHH

By the time he gets there, she's forgotten who he is!!!!

Proves that NOW might not be the answer.


I like guys who persevere and I usually tell them right off if I consider them someone who I would want only as a friend.

Sometimes the guy is not pleased by the friendship suggestion, but at least it saves him time and effort he could use elsewhere.

Heck, I even write to women and tell them that I'm just writing as a friend because I identified with stuff they said in their profile. I clearly state that I'm hot hitting on them and that I'm just sharing conversation.

They STILL don't write back. (ha ha)

We are talking nicely about how good to persist, as if by so doing one will certainly get what he wants. sorry, that is never go na come if, with reference to the first thread that brought about the question of persistence, what is in you or about you is not at all what that lady is looking for. We each have our interests and targets as we walk along the road everyday and moment.
Persistence therefore would mean you not only wasting your precious time but ominously treading along the paths of blatant rejection, regret and shame. Personally I exude a lot of love when I find one, but I scarcely allow any angel to play God as if the former was my creator.
You may allow a woman time to think about your proposal. But in the process refrain from pushing her. Anyway, that's me. I can talk to a woman about love just once. Maybe am such a bad guy b'cos I don't persist; hahahahaha.

Could you imagine having sent a mail or flower to a lady and she refuses to open it just to see the kind of creature you represent, even though she has been online a number of times afterwards.
If you wanna rest on such women you will definitely rust there. You can only persist where the lady has given you cause to. Actions, they say, speak louder than words.