WHY COME ON HERE LOOKING IF YOU ARE NOT READY FOR A RELATIONSHIP ( Archived) (71)

Why do men and women come on cs and put up a profile and let others think they are looking for the real thing and then run once they find someone great? They start with this crap of.. oh I am so confuses... oh I do not know what I want.. oh this is happening to fast and heaven forbid you use the dreaded "LOVE" word.

Why be confused? Why play games? Why so much thought? YOu feel attracted, you want to be loved, you think the other person is nice, cute, wonderful...whatever.. so why not just go with it. One day at a time and see what happens. If you are not sure you are ready for a relationship make sure the person you are flirting with, talking to, perhaps kissing, making love too...knows that up front. Then there is no confusion..its out there plain and simple.. I AM NOT SURE WHAT I WANT... I AM CONFUSED>... do not pretend you know what you want.

It depends on what that lil part that asks "What are you looking for?" thingie says..

When confronted with the question within an email... its more or less... I am not sure... only because they're not... they may have thought that the person they were with was "it".. but was lacking something else...

Most come just to conversate... make friends... have a lil fun...

You have to admit... some of the questions they ask on this and other singles sites are vague...

Why jump into something with someone you talk to on the computer so fast?? Isn't there a flow to go with??

Some acutally feel more quickly than others... and yes.. they may be "scared" because they don't know how the other will react...

I would say.. learn to read between the lines... ask questions... trust your instinct..

All of that is like so true.

Thank ya kindly sir... :)

This should be a great topic but probably wont..I have the same question because have sent many un-answered messages. Especially on another site which is local to me. Cs has been pretty good however and I find myself coming back here more than the others . There are some pretty cool people here. I think computer dating is basically a failure but at least some friendships can be made., Are men as bad for not responding as some of the ladies?
Sweetcheeks, you are so right to ask this question. It should be a simple thing to just lay it all on the table even if you are separated by distance, If there is any attraction between two people it should be spoken and then a great dialouge should follow. When your talking about love, nothing should interfere. Not distance or money or personal problems. With all our modern convieniances, and such a spoiled society we are, I think we expect way more than we deserve. I have backed off a great deal on the pursuit of a computer date because of the seeming disinterest I have encountered. But its ok to just have a few laughs and meet some nice people on here too. I wish you; and anyone else who is feeling like you are all the best and, here's a big hug just for you sweet.

Hmmmm, very interesting

I agree with MissMel. Why rush into anything on the computer or in person.

"Not distance or money or personal problems"...

Well... if you have children who see the other parent on a regular basis.. its a HUGE problem... I don't know about other states, but here in good 'ole Alabama... you can't move out of state unless you have the other parents permission...

Money... sorry.. but if you are not supporting yourself.. Don't expect a lot of people to just up and move to take care of ya...

Personal problems.. everybody has them... but some may conflict with relocating.. *see above*..

That's why I said ask questions... if it's more trouble thans it worth.. and I mean no disrespect... move on...

I do emphasize with you with your situation MissMe, and I know about raising 4 kids. All grown and gone. But I think also that people will find a thousand reasons to live a degraded level of happiness. Did that for many years too. My point is that there are so many possibilities we let go because of preconcieved idealism and procrastination. People get into a "rut" and then won't reach out for the rope that saves them . I believe that love can exceed all of that, it "takes" a big step or it "wouldn't" be worth it. any way ,,just the ramblings of a zoodle.