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GypsyRiSikeston, Missouri USA6 Threads 148 PostsHi guys. I am sorry if this is a downer for anyone but I need help Seriously, I have just found out I am sick. (No joke here!) I need to know how to tell family and friends and My kids. How do I say it. Do I gather them all together? Do I just write them a note? Any Advice here would be great. Thanks all!!
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sorry to hear of your illness...i would say to first talk with those that are most important in your life...then gather them all....best wishes to you and yours.
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first off.. i'm sorry that you are sick..
as far as telling your family.. if its possible try and tell them together.. that way .. they all hear it from you at one time..
if not.. tell them as soon as you can
when you tell your kids.. talk to them about it.. let them know what your sick with .. and talk to them about what will happen while ur sick and in the long run
do not write them a note or tell them on the phone unless its the only way to get the news to someone
you will be in my prayers
as far as telling your family.. if its possible try and tell them together.. that way .. they all hear it from you at one time..
if not.. tell them as soon as you can
when you tell your kids.. talk to them about it.. let them know what your sick with .. and talk to them about what will happen while ur sick and in the long run
do not write them a note or tell them on the phone unless its the only way to get the news to someone
you will be in my prayers
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First of...All Positive Thoughts your way!
I've heard that people first get a VERY clear idea of how THEY feel
about it, then are just very direct.
"Now Mommy IS a little scared about this but the Dr.s are very good and
Mommy is going to need your help, etc., etc.
I can only imagine, so "hearsay" at best. It made sense to me though.
I've heard that people first get a VERY clear idea of how THEY feel
about it, then are just very direct.
"Now Mommy IS a little scared about this but the Dr.s are very good and
Mommy is going to need your help, etc., etc.
I can only imagine, so "hearsay" at best. It made sense to me though.
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I am sorry to hear you are ill, but the best way to handle the situation is to be up front with everyone. I know it will be difficult, but in the long run it is better to be honest and up front.
ThePoet
ThePoet
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I agree with the other ones, tell them the truth instead of writing a note.Your family and friends will give you the power you need to fight against that disease.
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Sorry to hear your ill...May lite be with you always.
Not knowing how sick or what is is your sick with I can only assume....tell your family and friends the truth,as for your children,"mom" being sick is going to scare them regardless what the illness is,is it something that for now you can hold off from tellling them,if they don't have to worry,loss there school year and such,personally,I wouln'd say a word.
Not knowing how sick or what is is your sick with I can only assume....tell your family and friends the truth,as for your children,"mom" being sick is going to scare them regardless what the illness is,is it something that for now you can hold off from tellling them,if they don't have to worry,loss there school year and such,personally,I wouln'd say a word.
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Wow, this is hard, and I can only imagine if I were in your shoes! I think I would tell all, including your children, they are bound to find out anyway, and may want to know why you didn't tell them, depending on how old they all.
As much as this time needs to center on you, your family will also need a place to focus on and that should be you, if you will let them.
Best Wishes and I hope you feel better soon,
Trish
As much as this time needs to center on you, your family will also need a place to focus on and that should be you, if you will let them.
Best Wishes and I hope you feel better soon,
Trish
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I know this must be difficult time for you. Sending what comfort I can in good thoughts. Yes, they must be notified. Just tell them in your own words.
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You are in my prayers. I know there is no easy way to deal with any sickness but tell the ones closest to you first. My friend from England told me only this morning that he has lung cancer. He found out 3 weeks ago. You are not alone. Life is never easy but we have to face whatever comes our way.
Be strong!! 
Be strong!!
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Hi Gypsy,
I'm really sorry that you're sick, and even sorrier that you have children because that even increases your worries. I hope that you have close family and friends who could be there for you and help you during this difficult time.
Reading through the posts I find that I don't agree with what a lot of people would appear to do in such a situation. Actually I don't think there is ANY RIGHT WAY of breaking such news, it depends on what type of person you are.
Some people have given you advice to tell as many people at once during a social gathering of some sort. Personally, that option would definitely NOT be okay for me, shouting bad news about myself from the rooftops is just not MY style... but maybe some other people would feel comfortable with that. If I were to be sick, I would tell my closest friends and family, one by one, and have a good cry on their shoulder. I would stop at that, and wouldn't tell anyone else, but that is JUST ME. I think you would have to find which option you'd be comfortable with and break the news your way, I'm sure that if you thought about the available options you'd find that you feel comfortable with one of them.
I'll keep you in my prayers and sincerely hope that there is a chance of you getting well again.
My sincere regards
I'm really sorry that you're sick, and even sorrier that you have children because that even increases your worries. I hope that you have close family and friends who could be there for you and help you during this difficult time.
Reading through the posts I find that I don't agree with what a lot of people would appear to do in such a situation. Actually I don't think there is ANY RIGHT WAY of breaking such news, it depends on what type of person you are.
Some people have given you advice to tell as many people at once during a social gathering of some sort. Personally, that option would definitely NOT be okay for me, shouting bad news about myself from the rooftops is just not MY style... but maybe some other people would feel comfortable with that. If I were to be sick, I would tell my closest friends and family, one by one, and have a good cry on their shoulder. I would stop at that, and wouldn't tell anyone else, but that is JUST ME. I think you would have to find which option you'd be comfortable with and break the news your way, I'm sure that if you thought about the available options you'd find that you feel comfortable with one of them.
I'll keep you in my prayers and sincerely hope that there is a chance of you getting well again.
My sincere regards
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so very to hear you are sick if you need some one to talk to just drop me a note i will be glad to listen
you know your family do what you really feel is best
dont wait too long you should have all the love and support from your family it will help you walk this path and the powers of healing need to start now
you know your family do what you really feel is best
dont wait too long you should have all the love and support from your family it will help you walk this path and the powers of healing need to start now
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I am sorry I didnt add what the Illness is. Its Breast Cancer. I have not told anyone and its been a week. The doctors told me to come back after I have told my family and we would discuss what would be done after #1 I told my family and #2 I got a biopsy done to see how far along it is, there seems to be a measuring scale to this. So I thank you all for your support I just cant seem to get the words out of my mouth to anyone. Not anyone Closest to me not anyone farthest from me either, all my family except kids live in California and I am in Missouri. I guess I told you all first ha? Thanks for everything you guys..Its helps just to have ears listening..Blessings to all of you..
Your all angels in disguise I am sure of it now..
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Oh sweet lady...I guess you definitely do have to digest that kind of news first. In your own time, I am sure you will know exacty who you need to turn to whether it be a family member or friend. Try not to wait too long because you will need the support and guidance for what needs to be done to conquer your illness. So many things can be done now! Stay strong for it has so much to do with recovery! Personally, until I have confided in that or those people first, back to the doctor for treatment plan, it is then I would tell my children.
You will be in my heart...let us know how you are doing.
You will be in my heart...let us know how you are doing.
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