were the parents wrong (15)

May 12, 2007 6:00 PM CST were the parents wrong
hippychic
hippychichippychicworthing, West Sussex, England UK28 Threads 177 Posts
a bit heavy i know sorry for sat night
but the parents are getting blamed for leaving the kids by themselves
But when my daughter was 3 at my sister wedding in germany(we had booked the whole hotel) I put her to sleep in a bedroom and left her to sleep so im guilty as well
but I dont know if I would of left 3 so far away....
what do people thinkpeace
May 12, 2007 6:02 PM CST were the parents wrong
sunflora
sunflorasunfloraHuddersfield, West Yorkshire, England UK5 Threads 154 Posts
I would never have left my son so far away. Tis ok to be in a hotel and go have food/drink whilst kids asleep but across the road etc no way... This isn't to say I don't feel for them cos what they must be going through must be sheer hell...
May 12, 2007 6:05 PM CST were the parents wrong
Englandzn01
Englandzn01Englandzn01Doncaster, UK11 Threads 1,572 Posts
I would NEVER leave my child so far away from me,jesus,it'd take an idiot to leave their child/children away from themselves like that scold scold scold
May 12, 2007 6:05 PM CST were the parents wrong
deborah12
deborah12deborah12wolverhampton, UK89 Threads 11,243 Posts
i agree wiht pilipalathumbs up
May 12, 2007 6:08 PM CST were the parents wrong
hippychic
hippychichippychicworthing, West Sussex, England UK28 Threads 177 Posts
its your worse nightmare if your a parent
my daughter said it was not cool to pick her up from school anymore shes 12 but we live 20 mins from the school
ive let her but on the mob every 2 mins
but if your on holiday i think u feel safer and to see that poor mum my heart goes out to herpeace
May 12, 2007 6:23 PM CST were the parents wrong
PILIPALA
PILIPALAPILIPALACardiff, South Glamorgan, Wales UK200 Threads 4,804 Posts
God i was so bad i ise to make my son stay with his Nan when i went out for the night when he was 15 because god knows what time he be in other wise lol
May 12, 2007 6:28 PM CST were the parents wrong
belle26
belle26belle26Lincoln, Lincolnshire, England UK15 Threads 1,661 Posts
My heart goes out to the parents, it really does.

But i would never ever leave my children, not even for a second without them having a adult with them.
May 12, 2007 6:46 PM CST were the parents wrong
hippychic
hippychichippychicworthing, West Sussex, England UK28 Threads 177 Posts
its difficult to understand i know
and the parents are thinking that too
and regretting it all and a lot of it is guilt and what if we had .....
peace
May 12, 2007 7:24 PM CST were the parents wrong
chriss
chrisschrissst.helens, Merseyside, England UK79 Threads 15 Polls 4,472 Posts
the thing is, wether they did or they didnt still remanes the fact that there little girls been taken, i cant imagin what they must be going through,what realy winds me up is the fact that u get some sick twisted evil people out therevery mad very mad sigh
May 12, 2007 7:27 PM CST were the parents wrong
hippychic
hippychichippychicworthing, West Sussex, England UK28 Threads 177 Posts
its true
ive worked with people with mental health problems for a long time and the system is all wrong...wont have a rant lol its too latepeace
May 12, 2007 7:29 PM CST were the parents wrong
chriss
chrisschrissst.helens, Merseyside, England UK79 Threads 15 Polls 4,472 Posts
yer i know hunnybunny hehehe it is to later for that lol
May 13, 2007 4:03 AM CST were the parents wrong
bubblywan
bubblywanbubblywanChester, Cheshire, England UK12 Threads 435 Posts
Good morning everyone - hope all is well in your world.
This is such a sad thing to talk about and we all have different views. We were talking in the office the other day and it seems to be that younger parents now are more aware that the world isnt safe to lose sight of your kids for even one minute and now I am older I would of course do things totally differently,but when my kids were small and lots of people my age in the office agreed - we did give our kids more freedom and I stayed on a holiday site once where the kids were put to bed and they had chalet patrols to listen out for them - I shudder now to think that any one of those patrollers could have been a weirdo!!
I suppose we could ask why with all their money - he is a heart surgeon and she has her own GP practice - did they not have a nanny or at least a member of their family with them to give them some freedom - but whatever their reasons they will have to live with this guilt for the rest of their lives and there but for the grace of God go any one of us - there really is no need for us to judge them, they will judge themselves!
Please say a prayer for poor little Maddy because God only knows who has got her or for why and it really doesnt bear thinking about.
May 13, 2007 5:55 AM CST were the parents wrong
littlewriter
littlewriterlittlewriterclose-ish to belfast, UK17 Threads 1,007 Posts
to a certain degree, if we didn't judge others, we wouldn't have standards ourselves.

i think the parents were incredibly foolish and (dare i say it) negligent in leaving their 3 toddlers alone while they were across the road. especially while on holiday. no one sleeps normally on holiday, never mind the worse case scenario (which actually happened), what about if one of the kids just woke up after having a nightmare and their parents were no where to be seen? unfortunately the worse thing that could possibly happen, did happen and that little girl is paying the price, as is her family. if the parents could really keep an eye on them, how come they never seen anyone go in and abduct their little girl? although saying that, i couldnt even begin to imagin what they must be going through, and my heart really does go out to them, it must be hell.
but i tend to side with the child more, and i shudder to think what kind of hell she is going through.

its really every parents worst nightmare, but i would never ever take a risk with my child like that. these are educated people, but even the most uneducated person would know that if you leave your kids on their own, there is a posibility that they could be harmed, abducted, killed etc. you just wouldnt in this day and age!

what annoys me about this, is that if the parents were young, or it was just a single parent who left their kids alone in their council house on their council estate to go to the local pub across the road, there would be an outcry, and they would probably have been arrested etc.

whatever my views on the parents, i really really hope that they find madeline and bring her home safe and sound.
May 13, 2007 6:33 AM CST were the parents wrong
Zellarrone1
Zellarrone1Zellarrone1Hull, East Riding of Yorkshire, England UK33 Threads 4 Polls 7,644 Posts
I didn't realise she was left far away. I don't really read newspapers much but did hear about this and assumed she was in the hotel bedroom with wardens or something like that. I've a 20 year old son and would never have dreamed of leaving him alone when he was younger. However, I'm not here to judge the parents, I just think they've made an horrendous nitemare in hell mistake and what they're going through now will haunt and torment them forever. I really do hope she comes back safe, sound and unharmed....But, I don't really have a good feeling about this in my heart, it's going on too long, she needs to be found now. Still, no news is good news and I just hope what I'm feeling about it all is wrong. We must all remain positive unless we hear different.
Jul 21, 2007 3:55 PM CST were the parents wrong
elegantlady
elegantladyelegantladyLondon, Greater London, England UK9 Threads 104 Posts
Not here to judge, but the responsibility of parents is the care, safety and well being of your children! Unfortunately this type of scenario is far too common than most realise. As a person who spent several years in law enforcement I have dealt with the trauma of having a child disappear, it is a parent's worst nightmare! Very often when I am out shopping or driving I see so many parents with their young children walking several feet behind them. I also see parents busy shopping while their children roam the stores, it only takes a moment to have someone remove them from the premises.scold Most of the time the children are 5 years of age and under, someone should be watching them and why is that parents don't even hold the hand of their child while crossing the street! In a hotel situation, what if a fire broke out, what if the child became ill, there is always a chance something could happen in the absence of a parent, so why take the chance? Last week a local child drowned at an amusement park in one of the water type activity rides. Nobody noticed the little boy age 4 slip under the water, the pool was crowded, it had a wave that gushed out water every few minutes and even though there were several lifeguards in attendance, it was difficult to monitor a pool this size in addition to being so crowded. The mother was seated outside the pool and sent her daughter who is I believe about 10 years of age to look for her brother. Why wasn't the mother watching her 4 year old? Why wasn't the child wearing a protective vest, questions I'm certain are now after the tragic loss being addressed? The bottom line is as a parent you need to be aware of where your young children are at all times for their safety and also to prevent the predators that are always ready to take advantage of circumstances when you are so obviously distracted. Let's keep our children safe, pay attention to where your children are and please don't leave them unattended!
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