My Dilemma (37)
If it were me, I would just flat out ask him what's up and what kind of game he is playing. If you feel you can go back to being just friends and that is something you feel you can handle, it might be a good idea. You need to protect your heart and find someone that will truly treat you as you deserve to be treated. 
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2 years are a long time. Did you ever met him in real? Because I think that's a must if u both say you're in love. Then you can proof some things he told you.
As long as you're only chatting he got his own life and you don't know nothing for real.
If he doesn't want to visit you or doesn't invite you , forget him.
And don't be sad if you can't get the friendship back, i think you can't turn back things and sometimes it's better that way.
But also it's a fact that men can change their feelings about women in a short time. Sometimes it get's difficult as soon as you told him about your feelings.
But set a limit for this relationship. Talk with him , ask him what he expects and tell him what you want.
If he's now behaving like that, i'm sure he will find some reasons why you both can't meet.
I met someone from chat , we've been goin on really well , became good friends and felt something for each other. He visited me twice, we had a good time , but it was too difficult for us too keep it up.... long story. I'm glad that we have still contact sometimes. We both made mistakes, but he was willing to try it that's important.
I wish you the best . If you can't be with him , you wílll sure find someone else who's likes to be with you for real .
As long as you're only chatting he got his own life and you don't know nothing for real.
If he doesn't want to visit you or doesn't invite you , forget him.
And don't be sad if you can't get the friendship back, i think you can't turn back things and sometimes it's better that way.
But also it's a fact that men can change their feelings about women in a short time. Sometimes it get's difficult as soon as you told him about your feelings.
But set a limit for this relationship. Talk with him , ask him what he expects and tell him what you want.
If he's now behaving like that, i'm sure he will find some reasons why you both can't meet.
I met someone from chat , we've been goin on really well , became good friends and felt something for each other. He visited me twice, we had a good time , but it was too difficult for us too keep it up.... long story. I'm glad that we have still contact sometimes. We both made mistakes, but he was willing to try it that's important.
I wish you the best . If you can't be with him , you wílll sure find someone else who's likes to be with you for real .
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I agree with the ladies, two years is along time. Judge people by there actions not there words.
If your the love of his life he must be keen to meet with you. I wouldn't be taking it too seriously until he shows up on your doorstep.
If your the love of his life he must be keen to meet with you. I wouldn't be taking it too seriously until he shows up on your doorstep.
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On again off again which is distressing enough and it does sound as though you are being played. If you were friends for two years before this can you have a straightforward talk with him and ask what is happening? When the emphasis of a relationship shifts it is unlikely that you can 'go back' to the way things were but with openness and honesty you can be friends again if that is where this is destined to end up. And if the negative possibilities turn out to be true you can choose to 'blank' him without regret or question. Good luck.
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I say a flat out question 'whats yr game hon' ????? and yeah, meet him sometime but dont let him anywhere near your door till you have got all this sorted - at the end of the day, you are taking the flack for him posting his undying love on the site you met - ok so he posted it but, does he know what he is talking about - love is about so much more than showing the world he is posessive with 'ego issues'. Take care with this one and listen to yr gut instincts 
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Well, last friday when he got in touch after me not hearing from him for a week I did say something along those lines to him and he's reassuring me he's not playing games and talking lovey dovey etc. Hear from him the next day, sat noon then have heard nothing since. i mean I'm not mad or upset or anything as I'm a real easygoing person. I'm just puzzled as to why someone I've been good friends with online and on phone can suddenly act like this. Hell, I wish I'd not bothered in saying I thought he was cute now in the first place then none of this would have happened. I do have gut feeling he's hiding something though, just can't put my finger on what! It's a good job we can laugh when things like this happen though 
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chele1964 that answer was in reply to you but the post reply thing didnt seem to work, bit confusing this new layout.
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No I never did meet him as were just friends, however the last few weeks he did say about us meeting. I said I'd go there or he come here. You're right in that men can change their feelings quickly, maybe thats what happened or maybe he got carried away saying things then realised he just liked me as a friend so is avoiding me a bit to put me off or is secretly married. No I won't lose any sleep if we dont stay friends, I'll probably be grateful I saw his true colours.
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Good to hear from a male point of view, I think you're right and i won't be taking it too seriously
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Yes, this is the worst bit the on off thing as in not knowing whats going on. I mean I have my gut feelings and suspicions about him being a player but werent sure if it was me being paranoid but don't think I am now after reading all your answers
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Give him the boot Poppet and put a few razor blades on the toe cap....
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Hmmm...hey Tracey....sounds like you got yaself a player.
If it is all true....just cool it with him, and let him do the chasing...let him contact you..and try not to let it bother ya hun....
If it is all true....just cool it with him, and let him do the chasing...let him contact you..and try not to let it bother ya hun....
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yes, you have a point there about me having to put up with all the threats and hate mail, in fact I also wonder if he did it to put some of the stalker types of his back and maybe he had some other woman on the go on that site. Something I didnt put in my original post was he also sent me naked pics that those women had sent him, which i thought wasnt a very nice thing to do but he thought it was funny, unless he was doing it to try and wind me up I don't know.
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Hey dave, Yes, deep down I think that too though I'm glad I posted this thread as it's always good to hear other peoples ideas and they see things from a different way. No. I won't let it bother me, you know me, happy go lucky plus I doubt my son would ever have forgiven me if I'd become involved with a scousebloke, he's man u mad and hates lpool
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ooo..you have put me in an awkward position now...!!!......i stand by my guns..
..so should you hun..man u fan or not....
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whoah - catch the first train out of there, dont look back and forget about friendship too - sounds like a helluva crankpot to me and having any more to do with him would only be more trouble 
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He does sound dodgy the more I think about it, I remember a while ago I didnt agree with something else he thought was funny and he became quite stroppy saying I've not got the same humour type of scouse humour that he had, well how could I have when I'm from Hull good job we can see funny side!
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Around two years ago. I became friends with a bloke online. I mean I have a lot of male friends online who I joke and have a laugh with, but I always thought more of this bloke deep down.
However, I just thought he saw me as a friend so didnt say anything about it to him. Then about a month ago I let it slip out to him that I thought he was cute and he said he'd thought I was cute and felt same as me all the two years.
So, that was that he puts my pic next to his on profile thing on the site I met him on and also put I was the love of his life etc in his profile.
So, for last month all I've had is hate messages from women who fancy him on that site, one even says he was on msn all night with her until 5.30am two nights in a row and I think it was true. But, anyway we ignored all of this and I'm getting all the phone calls and txts swearing he's madly in love and mesmerized by me and all this. He also goes out with his mates one sat nite 2 weeks ago and spends all the nite txting me and ringing me. Then for a week I don't hear anything from him at all until last friday and sat morning. Once again he's all lovey dovey etc, yet it's now Thursday and I've heard nothing again.
So I'm just about at the conclusion now that he's either doing it for a joke, or he's something to hide, either he's married or in some kind of relationship. It puzzled me how he could be on msn though with that other woman if hes married, or then again maybe his wife doesnt mind or maybe she works niteshift or something. Thing is, shall I just totally blank him now or just play it cool and try to go back as being good friends as we have been for the last two years?