The EX (35)
Oh yeah, lots and it seems to improve for a while but then she'll drop some bomb. Just a couple of weeks ago, she was saying how nice it was to be communicating about summer holidays for the kids...just smoke and mirrors. She's been working something up with her lawyer. I'm sure I'll find out this week.
I treat her as I would anyone who's put the screws to me so hard...in a distant professional manner. I only say what I have to, nothing more, nothing less. I cannot afford a lawyer anymore, and the last one didn't do me a bit of good for $15,000. Not a bit.
I'll just have to wait and see and will let you all know what's happening.
I treat her as I would anyone who's put the screws to me so hard...in a distant professional manner. I only say what I have to, nothing more, nothing less. I cannot afford a lawyer anymore, and the last one didn't do me a bit of good for $15,000. Not a bit.
I'll just have to wait and see and will let you all know what's happening.
hang in there man.
way to fight for your rights as a dad. I wouldnt put up with her crap. You have ever right to see and care for your kids as she does. If you keep your social life (rocker/parties) on the days you dont have the kids then its non of her friggin business. I would do all i could to fight for custoday. Your kids need you too.
Good luck
way to fight for your rights as a dad. I wouldnt put up with her crap. You have ever right to see and care for your kids as she does. If you keep your social life (rocker/parties) on the days you dont have the kids then its non of her friggin business. I would do all i could to fight for custoday. Your kids need you too.
Good luck
My Ex
After 20 yrs of marriage I left it was my health or my marriage. No he never layed a hand on me 
But emotional stress leaves invisible scars, when the curse set in (menopause) I had to make a decision. Before anything that was said "went in one ear and out the other" but having the full package of menopause I could no longer ignore and got to a point I could not handle both, and knew I had to leave I had my girls to raise. He was bitter, angry etc...And in order to keep my girls safe and myself I gave up everything security, financial etc...It was a small price to pay to not look over my shoulder and keep us safe. So "No" he does not speak or ever seen the girls. Only kept me in courts every year with false statements to stop the child support, which ruin me financially. He never won, but he was pleased since it was costly for me. Still no regrets, I may not have the wealth, house, all the toys but I have 2 wonderful girls that he abandon, so I do not need to tell u who is the richest here 
He is getting on in age and he will have the comfort of all his toys that can hold his hands when he is ill maybe with his money he can built a robot that will say to him " I luv you Dad"
That is my Story
After 20 yrs of marriage I left it was my health or my marriage. No he never layed a hand on me But emotional stress leaves invisible scars, when the curse set in (menopause) I had to make a decision. Before anything that was said "went in one ear and out the other" but having the full package of menopause I could no longer ignore and got to a point I could not handle both, and knew I had to leave I had my girls to raise. He was bitter, angry etc...And in order to keep my girls safe and myself I gave up everything security, financial etc...It was a small price to pay to not look over my shoulder and keep us safe. So "No" he does not speak or ever seen the girls. Only kept me in courts every year with false statements to stop the child support, which ruin me financially. He never won, but he was pleased since it was costly for me. Still no regrets, I may not have the wealth, house, all the toys but I have 2 wonderful girls that he abandon, so I do not need to tell u who is the richest here He is getting on in age and he will have the comfort of all his toys that can hold his hands when he is ill maybe with his money he can built a robot that will say to him " I luv you Dad"
That is my Story
oh Dawn, HUGS and courage to you for making the right decision
Continued luck with everything Dawn.
hey I think yor ex and mine were brothers Dawn.
I had to fight for custody, he tried to slander me and my older children. Even so far as to call my son's highschool pretending to be a concerned parent. I believed that the truth would prevail and thankfully had honest people on my side. Even with the school I had the princial sign an affidavit explaing the situation and how my ex proclaimed to be the concerned parent to get information...proving he was lying.
When all was said and done - he was offered open visitation (by me) and he stuck with the court ordered two evenings a week and one day on the weekend. It wasn't about the kids it was about the need to win, the need to be right, the need to be in control.
I had to fight for custody, he tried to slander me and my older children. Even so far as to call my son's highschool pretending to be a concerned parent. I believed that the truth would prevail and thankfully had honest people on my side. Even with the school I had the princial sign an affidavit explaing the situation and how my ex proclaimed to be the concerned parent to get information...proving he was lying.
When all was said and done - he was offered open visitation (by me) and he stuck with the court ordered two evenings a week and one day on the weekend. It wasn't about the kids it was about the need to win, the need to be right, the need to be in control.
Situations like these make me glad that her dad lives 4 hrs away and has no interest in her,although it would be nice if he'd keep in touch with her now and then.
well my situation is similar but different he lives in another province and has initated contact less than 10 times in the last 4 years. I can guarantee they were times when he had to make himself look better for someone else.
I don't want him to contact and hope he stays away it really just confuses the kids when it so random.
I don't want him to contact and hope he stays away it really just confuses the kids when it so random.
OMG....U mean their is 2 of them 
Stressful for sure, I cannot imagine fighting custody, in my case he did not care for custody he just wanted to stop paying the court order for child support, and the lies do cost us dearly & the sad part we cannot do a dam thing about it except hire a lawyer to bring out the truth..
What really and has never made sense to me is why do we have to pay our lawyers to reveal the lies call me cracy but I think they should pay the cost of legal fees not only his but other party also for "false information & wasting the courts time" maybe this would make them think twice before playing the game again and again, which was my case
Just my opinion 
Stressful for sure, I cannot imagine fighting custody, in my case he did not care for custody he just wanted to stop paying the court order for child support, and the lies do cost us dearly & the sad part we cannot do a dam thing about it except hire a lawyer to bring out the truth..
What really and has never made sense to me is why do we have to pay our lawyers to reveal the lies call me cracy but I think they should pay the cost of legal fees not only his but other party also for "false information & wasting the courts time" maybe this would make them think twice before playing the game again and again, which was my case Just my opinion **the sad part we cannot do a dam thing about it except hire a lawyer to bring out the truth.. What really and has never made sense to me is why do we have to pay our lawyers to reveal the lies call me cracy but I think they should pay the cost of legal fees not only his but other party also for "false information & wasting the courts time" maybe this would make them think twice before playing the game again and again, which was my case **
I completly agree....I have had to rebuild my life, and my kids lives. Financially it sucks and now I have to pay a lawyer because he wants to lower child support - which will happen because it's income based.
So I am paying to have my support lowered a lose lose for me. I do not see the justice in this.
I completly agree....I have had to rebuild my life, and my kids lives. Financially it sucks and now I have to pay a lawyer because he wants to lower child support - which will happen because it's income based.
So I am paying to have my support lowered a lose lose for me. I do not see the justice in this.
These ex's/dads give the good ones a bad rap. WOW.
'That is why I beleive in "never" anytime in anger, spite, anytime say anything against the other in front of the kids., they will learn soon enough on their own and that is painful enough....! '
AMEN TO THAT
AMEN TO THAT
Well after the first incident my relationship with the ex reverted to total email correspondence...no phone calls, no face to face meetings at all. But we managed to share the time with the kids throught summer no problem and through to last week as well.
Now, just to keep you all posted, a similar thing has happened again. This time, it was Social Services knocking on the door the last time my kids were here to investigate a complaint that I was smoking marijuana in front of the kids! How outrageous is that! It has never happened and never will. I am not like that, and anyone who knows me and has seen me with my kids will back it 100%, feel free to ask around.
Similarly as well I have never ever had a drug charge or anything of the sort, and they will not of course disclose who the complaintant was....but I think I know...there are only a few people who would know my schedule with the kids as it is irregular.
The silver lining is that as she piles up these false accusations she is the one who looks the fool.
Again it is not harrassment as it is a single incident and for the safety of the children. I also understand that Social Services is obligated to investigate any and all reports with respect to childrens' safety and I support that.
I have a problem with the way Social Services handled the situation but that is a different story
They told me they would file a favourable report about their visit and if a pattern develops that they would consider to file charges against her. Ok here's your pattern!
Now, just to keep you all posted, a similar thing has happened again. This time, it was Social Services knocking on the door the last time my kids were here to investigate a complaint that I was smoking marijuana in front of the kids! How outrageous is that! It has never happened and never will. I am not like that, and anyone who knows me and has seen me with my kids will back it 100%, feel free to ask around.
Similarly as well I have never ever had a drug charge or anything of the sort, and they will not of course disclose who the complaintant was....but I think I know...there are only a few people who would know my schedule with the kids as it is irregular.
The silver lining is that as she piles up these false accusations she is the one who looks the fool.
Again it is not harrassment as it is a single incident and for the safety of the children. I also understand that Social Services is obligated to investigate any and all reports with respect to childrens' safety and I support that.
I have a problem with the way Social Services handled the situation but that is a different story
They told me they would file a favourable report about their visit and if a pattern develops that they would consider to file charges against her. Ok here's your pattern!
For the most part, I get along with my ex, we split 8 years ago, so we have had a lot of time to mellow and form something of a friendship-we have kids, so it's best we get along, makes things easier for them. We can't spend too much time together at once tho, or we get snappy...I mean, we DID split up for a reason!
If you have kids with your ex, I think it's best to be at least respectful to each other around them.
If you have kids with your ex, I think it's best to be at least respectful to each other around them.
More Threads
Trump Elementary
Keep It Going!
Say Anything Again
Iran- Israel war
Who will be The Last Person To Post... VERSION FOUR
One week of the most outrageous GOP leadership!
who shaped your life?
Thoughts on Daylight Savings
Manifesting
One more reason to vote Democrat....Arizona Supreme Court
More Threads
Report threads that break rules, are offensive, or contain fighting. Staff may not be aware of the forum abuse, and cannot do anything about it unless you tell us about it. click to report forum abuse »
If one of the comments is offensive, please report the comment instead (there is a link in each comment to report it).
If one of the comments is offensive, please report the comment instead (there is a link in each comment to report it).
have you tried the 'kill'em with kindness technique''