I love my child hood,even though being rared in the midst of the bad troubles in derry,back then.My parents learnt me lots in life,and most i took abode.Don,t think i wud want to be a child again though,as love my own kids now,,and being a mum,i try to raise them with the mortal standards that my parents raise me,,though i think its harder now,as when back then,as society has changed a lot, but deep down,i have my value and mortals,and standards as a parent,,from my own parents.
No don't miss it, but yes I have a lot of good memories, and bad. I loved it when in the summers I went back packing in the mountains, or where ever we went, walking miles for days, setting up camps and just enjoying life and nature. Then there was this one place we used tomplay, until I was about 9 when we moved to texas, and that was an old lot that had this hugfe oak standing in it. That tree became so much to us kids, we played Star trekk in that tree, Captain Nemo, thatr tree became a pirate ship, and just what ever our imagination could create. Years later, I wrote a poem, published in my book of poems, about that tree.
I would love to recreate the feeling of running through the fields and feeling the wind against my face and the wheat running through my hands, as I loose myself with the simple pleasure of it...Spent many a summers day, running through the fields, watching family taking in the hay and riding the hay wagon at the end of the day ducking incase we got knock off by the tree branches as we passed by The feeling of having my extended family around is a wonderful pleasure that I will always treasure , especially now that they are scattered across the globe today I would love for my child to experience some of the wonderful moments that I did..but the Haymaking days are gone
gillyloves69OPlondon, Greater London, England UK7,359 posts
how was you raised then ? i was raised by victorian values semi christian type of parents that thought " children should be seen but not heard " it compeletely f**ked up my childhood it did'nt for my other brothers and sisters ( but there again they never had so much ..and still don't have so much to day for theirselves !
gillyloves69OPlondon, Greater London, England UK7,359 posts
oh what a shame turkish delight ! that's one thing i never did as a child was 'run through the meadows ' that must have been great ! can you imagine what is like being raised on a farm ? is there anything anybody ever wish they did but did;nt do as a child ? i never went on any of the school holiday trips for a week to places like sayers cfoft in surrey because my parents could'nt afford it .. i was well gutted !
I still do it today, even if its just me and my little one...Just because we are adults it doesnt mean we cant try to recapture these little moments in life... I recreate these memories for my child and tell him the stories and the memories live on Each person needs to make special ones for themselves. I was lucky I had the best of both worlds, living in the city and having grandparents who lived on a farm..Iwas fortunate enough to learn both ways of life
gillyloves69OPlondon, Greater London, England UK7,359 posts
when i was working as a lighting electricaian for the bbc we went to leigh hall in lancashire ( i think )! to do a story about a rich aristocratic geezer ( who's front garden was 500 aces ) that created a bird sanctuary on his estate ...anyway he married a non aristocratic wife who was middle claas but was really nice and not stuck up !they lived in this really nice country mansion house with towers at the side with bow and arrow windows in the tower castle like stairs anyway the director reporte cameraman and sound recordist were all a bit lardi da and being ever so bbc and formal with her whilst her husband was'nt there waiting for him to come home to interveiw him , and i interupted all the posh talk and said " ere lady i've forgotten what your name is love but do you know what i've always dreamt of doing as a child watching all those zorro films is run up and down the towers of a castle " she breathed a sigh of releive and said "gilbert would you like me to show you around my castle so that you can run up and down those stairs " i quickly said " yes please " she gragged my hand and "said come with me " and walked off leaving the rest off the film crew so full of crap she just left them standing in the hallway and took me through this massive dining room that seats 16 people with priceless cutterly things and said "this is where we eat , this is where we sleep, now lets run up these stairs together" the film crew came running after us like children saying " can we come as well please " and left out all the crap .. it was great and fullfill ed one of my childhood fantasies ! i had a great time even playing hide and seek at one stage , she was one of nicest rich people i ever met that help fullfill my fantasiy !.. and after that everybody was down to earth for the rest of the day !
I was a Tomboy, has climb always in the trees, to hang at the rear of the cars when I was in rollers, to make some races by bicycle, to play soccer with my brothers, the martial arts, the French boxing...
And this eternal question "Why am I not a boy? " (For those whom don't know I have seven brothers and I am the youngest) I am just wondering myself how is a real girl childhood?
French boxe... I am not sure that French don't like English, really, I think it was the case for the old generations, but now...what would be the reasons?
I lived over there for two years (Lichfield Stafford Shire), worked among English people was terrific, I keep so much cool memories of this time! Lot of my friends in France love England and go there often (you know that since we can reach our Countries in 3 hours by Eurostar London is one of the favourite French destination!)
I liked so much this part of England...I went also to Manchester, Liverpool and Derby...
gillyloves69OPlondon, Greater London, England UK7,359 posts
that's a nice photo ! what was it like living in litchfield then ? i use to hae a freind that lived in tamworth staffordshire ! did you enjoy anything about your childhood then >i was always afraid of ny father and developed an inferioty complex ( i was one f**k*d up child with all sorts of problems )! it took meubtil age 32 to really sort myself out ) and you know what the funny thing is the was a book by a famous english hypnotist who i once saw called romark called ' sins of the fathers' which explain how parents screw up their children without realising it ! when ever i challenged my father about it he would say ' shut up and give me back that £100 you owe me
gillyloves69OPlondon, Greater London, England UK7,359 posts
i bet you developed and interesting charactor because of your parents redheadtaurus ! would love tohear the story ( i just love long stories )! even though i got on very well with my mother it was her older sister that lived a mile away away that took me under her wing and emotionaly raised me and gave me confidence in myself by getting me to help her selling as a market trader because i develpoed a stutter as a child in those days and she got me talking to customers and shouting " SALE DAY TODAY I SAID SALE DAY TODAY EVERYTHING MUST GO SALE DAY TODAY ..COMMON MISTER BUY SOMETHING " i'm glad i had somewhere else to escape to the weekends where i was allowed to have proper one to one conversions with an aunty and general members of the family to be able to freely express my myself away from home i feel sorry for children who's personalities are held back by their parents and the parents don't even realise it ! mind never even listen to me ! at one stage age 40 i had enough of it and left the family for 3 years i wrote my mother a letter which started with the words " dear mother after nine moths of deep thought and carefull consideration i regret to inform you that i'm leaving the family , dont take it personal as i've always enjoyed your company ( when you're the one doing the talking ) ! but i've now decided to spend the rest of my life amongst people who's company i enjoy whilst i'm also talking " her response was " did you give your father back that £100 that you owe him "
gillyloves69OPlondon, Greater London, England UK7,359 posts
hi dakwa ! one thing that i never did as a child was go camping , or even go back packing , part of me know still wants to go trekking for a week someone nice ..say in canada or switzerland austria or someone nice and stay in a chalet , never ever skied or anything like that and never really got into sports as a kid either ( well the odd game of table tennis ) ..hey how bigs texas by the way ? and is everybody cowboys ?.. did you meet john wayne ? .. ( well thats the images i got as a kid ) that tree sounds fantastic, tell us the poem about the tree ... it must be every kids dream to be able to do that ! don't these people have any more emoticians on this site apart from where it says more emoticons ? the games you played sounds great ! ! ! ! i would have loved to play pirates .. the most exciting thing we did was built go karts out of old prams we found and then got into bikes , you know its funny because we had a 60 garden with a back gate leading unto an alleyway and an a nice public council estate with a sloping car park going underground and thats where we use to push the go carts , but we were very naughty we were brought up in islington / hackney in north london,when got the bikes we would always we lie and say "mum ( because you were never really allowed to really speak to your father as such ..because you was'nt anybody besides he was very introvertd with his children but extrovertd with his wife )!anyway we say "mum we're just going around that back gate for half an hour on the bikes " she would say "ok don't be late for dinner " and then we'd go miles away the furthers i ever went without telling her was to a place called wandsworth in sw london which took me 2 hours to get there and nearly 2 hours to get back to secretly meet my cousins , but looking back on all it was all naughty
I can relate to that... three years after my parents divorced, I was kicked out, had my first apartment when I was 15. If it had not been the Scoutring program I would have had a lot worse childhood. To keep things a lot easier I just try and remember the good things from then. I don't focus on the fists from my dad, not the belt buckel whippings by my mum, although I remember them, I just try and remember more of the good things. I guess that is what keeps me to some level sane, also what caused a lot of my depression. I was lucky though. When I had my apartment, a family I knew had a large ranch in Yexas, and they let me stay in the bunk house and work on the ranch. Hard work, but I loved it, and they took good care of me, even though I lived my own life, they were always around if I needed help, advice, direction, and such. I learned that after you becomne an adult, you cannot use your past any more, it is up to you to make your own life and step beyond what you learned and experienced as a child, eiter use the good and discard the bad, or let it run your life for either the good or bad, depending on what you experienced as a child. I think that even with my failures in life, and my successes, they would be proud, because I have never blamed anyone but myself for what has happened and learned from the mistakes.
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