In all fairness ... (16)
Who wants realism Assets? Rationality has little place in relationships all to often, and plays even less of a role in on-line dating I think.
Dreams...we all dream of meeting 'the one'...be it here, or in your local pub. The computer can be a bit of a vortex though...it can test our perceptions on what is actually real.
Gotta be sooooo careful! Good thread by the way.
Dreams...we all dream of meeting 'the one'...be it here, or in your local pub. The computer can be a bit of a vortex though...it can test our perceptions on what is actually real.
Gotta be sooooo careful! Good thread by the way.
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Not really, it may well be extremely personal and private. 
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Well, i suppose if they meet on here and it goes pear shape and they tells us about it. Someone bound to get hurt. And i guess if their criticising exs it could put people of 
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well, here is one story that is still going on and going strong:
Ken and I met here over 4-months ago... he has spent a total of almost 5-weeks at my house and even went on vacation to Florida with me, meeting my family and everything... and we are falling more in love with each other every day
... I cannot imagine my life without him and neither can he. 
How's that for you?
Ken and I met here over 4-months ago... he has spent a total of almost 5-weeks at my house and even went on vacation to Florida with me, meeting my family and everything... and we are falling more in love with each other every day
... I cannot imagine my life without him and neither can he. How's that for you?
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I think that's awesome. And I agree there are many success stories.
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Thank you, Assets! 
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I agree it would have to told tactfully not as to place blame on either party.
So many good members leave the site all together. I guess it's just to embarrassing to come back.
So many good members leave the site all together. I guess it's just to embarrassing to come back.
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i have three friends,,who have met on line,,not on singles site,,,but through yahoo,one is married now four yrs,,other is living with her partner,,2 yrs,,and other,her partner is just looking for job in derry to move in with her,,so i think there is a lot of success stories too.
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No kidding? And on Yahoo no less! I must be using the wrong Yahoo. 
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Thanks Lightening for update. Glad to see you are still popping in from time to time.
Pete has a bad experience I know u can't blame no one these things happen. Nuala is trying.
The stories are there. Successful and otherwise. Just the other day two were getting married.
Life and humans are never fair to each other, all the time. But it does work on occasions.
It is not (i Think) that we want to hear about the "so it didn't go happily ever after" as more the why. Was it poor communication. To hard to meet the distance thing or was it due to too many lies purpetuated. How honest are we actually being with each other.
Whilst i'm posting on the threads I take everything at face value, as there is no direct threat to me. But If I did seek to go further then yes I would be second guessing everything.
Pete has a bad experience I know u can't blame no one these things happen. Nuala is trying.
The stories are there. Successful and otherwise. Just the other day two were getting married.
Life and humans are never fair to each other, all the time. But it does work on occasions.
It is not (i Think) that we want to hear about the "so it didn't go happily ever after" as more the why. Was it poor communication. To hard to meet the distance thing or was it due to too many lies purpetuated. How honest are we actually being with each other.
Whilst i'm posting on the threads I take everything at face value, as there is no direct threat to me. But If I did seek to go further then yes I would be second guessing everything.
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me too
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It would be nice for a change, to hear part two of the story.
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Ok, here's an example - actually a couple of them from my own experience:
Part one:
Met on line, developed a mutual attraction and respect and decided to meet. When we met, it turned out that that she wasn't really who she had portrayed herself to be and seeing me in person and finding out that I look exactly like my pictures, she was not "physically attracted" to me. We went our separate ways and remained friends although we no longer keep in touch.
Part two:
Started corresponding thanks to a thread that was of mutual interest. After two weeks of writing, we started talking on the phone and were floored by the amount of things we had in common. After another two weeks, we had the opportunity to meet and spend several days together and the "synchronicities" continued to be nothing short of phenomenal - To the point where we felt like God was throwing bricks at us and trying to tell us that we belonged together and always had. Six weeks after that, I packed up bag and baggage and moved 1,100 miles. It was the smartest thing I ever did! We've been together for six months now and I can't imagine life without her. And we continue to be hit by bricks telling us that we are supposed to be together. And we continue to find more and more things in common, To the point where we sometimes think that we must be related - We ARE, of course - we're soulmates!
Part one:
Met on line, developed a mutual attraction and respect and decided to meet. When we met, it turned out that that she wasn't really who she had portrayed herself to be and seeing me in person and finding out that I look exactly like my pictures, she was not "physically attracted" to me. We went our separate ways and remained friends although we no longer keep in touch.
Part two:
Started corresponding thanks to a thread that was of mutual interest. After two weeks of writing, we started talking on the phone and were floored by the amount of things we had in common. After another two weeks, we had the opportunity to meet and spend several days together and the "synchronicities" continued to be nothing short of phenomenal - To the point where we felt like God was throwing bricks at us and trying to tell us that we belonged together and always had. Six weeks after that, I packed up bag and baggage and moved 1,100 miles. It was the smartest thing I ever did! We've been together for six months now and I can't imagine life without her. And we continue to be hit by bricks telling us that we are supposed to be together. And we continue to find more and more things in common, To the point where we sometimes think that we must be related - We ARE, of course - we're soulmates!
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I think you have touched on one of the key reasons on line romance doesn't survive the physical encounter. Fantasy seekers.
The phone calls and emails create a world that bears no relationship to reality and if you want a fantasy lover the average human being will not survive the big reveal. If you are looking for someone who shares your interests and beliefs and is just enough different to challenge you to grow AND both of you have told the truth along the way then luck doesn't enter into it. Oh, one more thing, in fantasy it is never any work to be deliriously right together, in real life you have to make room for each other and give up some closet space.
The phone calls and emails create a world that bears no relationship to reality and if you want a fantasy lover the average human being will not survive the big reveal. If you are looking for someone who shares your interests and beliefs and is just enough different to challenge you to grow AND both of you have told the truth along the way then luck doesn't enter into it. Oh, one more thing, in fantasy it is never any work to be deliriously right together, in real life you have to make room for each other and give up some closet space.
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Why is it we rarely hear about what goes wrong after they meet? Would it not be helpful for others to know what actually ended the "love affair"?