How strong is it ??? ( Archived) (11)

The desire for a man to have a son??? My best friend, a man, has 2 daughters...beautiful children. He is in the middle of a long divorce, but he searches and searches for a woman of child bearing age because he is the last male in his family, and therefore wants a biological son to carry on his name. I am constantly confused by his way of thinking. He has a woman/girlfriend for the past 3 yrs. or more, that adores him...would do anything for him it appears, and yet he still feels the need to search and the overwhelming need to try to have more children, hoping for a son. I cannot understand why he cannot be happy with the 2 beautiful children he has...and why even though he says he loves the girlfriend, who is no longer able to bear children...it is not enough. She and I have talked about this and I sometimes wonder if it is just his way of having an "out" so that he does not have to make a commitment. She said he told her in the beginning of their relationship that the desire to have a child was stronger than love. I just cannot understand this... Nor do I understand exactly why she stays with him, to be honest...I do not think I would, or could. What are your thoughts???

I know for me, my boys carry my last name at the moment. Where I am, they would not allow me to give my sons their fathers last name, because he was not there to sign the birth certificates. When I choose to remarry one day, my sons last names will be changed to their fathers last name, because well... right now, I havent done it, because its convenient. We have the same last name... but if I remarry one day, my last name will change anyway, so why not allow them to carry on their fathers name?

My childrens father was in the same thinking of your friend. He wanted so badly to have his sons carry on his last name, but my first, I couldnt find him and my second he had been dead for 2mo so neither time, he was there for the paternity paperwork. To honor his last wishes, my sons, unless they tell me otherwise, will eventually carry on his last name.

It's always nice to one of each nomatter what the reasons are.

However since it's the family name--a man does feel it's very important to have a child carry the name on and boys keep their surname.

It;s not such a big deal anymore women are getting pregnant and given their children their surname alot more today.

not always. I dont want girls. They scare me and they're expensive! LOL four yrs ago, prior to getting pregnant with my first, all I wanted was girls... my mind has changed drastically since then!

In some cases, there's not much of a choice than to give your child your own name, rather than their fathers. My case was one of them.

Man i remeber when i was having my kid. I bet you i prayed a thousand times that i was a boy but god has ways of getting you what you need not what you want. lol. I think why guys want boys is back to old times when a man's son took up right after him ran the farm and the home when he was gone. And in some ways there is still that need to have boy to take after you and ontop of that i dont even want to think what it is going to be like when my little girl is 16. Im going to be hunting little boys. lol

exactly why I dont want girls!!!

Uh huh...it starts before they are 16!!! My daughter is 14 and I am already trying to scare the boys away.....

Thats your choice---I personally did want a daughter to do different things with than I did with my son but that's my choice.

To me if I had to think how expensive my child is than I should not have had one to begin with!!

Nothing personal that's just me I am expressing!

Children will be adults take the time to teach them morals and values and they will be just fine even if they have to physically learn the morals and values taught.