where am I ( Archived) (6)

Why is it that I go through life working hard to get things and the then I turn around and lose or give away those things I worked hard for? Why dont I keep anything?

Maybe because your a giver not a taker..a caring man
not a bad thing,being unselfish,,,chance

couldnt have said it better Sharon

Giving is NOT bad... I, too, am a giver.. BUT the one thing I have learned (albiet recently) through life is that a giving person has to realize his/her limits and make sure that they don't give beyond what they should... and that they don't give to the point of being taken advantage of because there are givers out there and there are takers and the takers will sit back and sap your soul from your body if you allow it.

Givers are also attracted to takers because givers think they can give and receive love in return, or friendshp.. or they give because that is how they outwardly show love and friendship... Takers are attractive to us because they accept that gift (whether it be cooking breakfast for someone or buying them something, etc) and relish it for a moment at least and that makes a giver feel good about themselves....sooooo we keep giving.

Here is a prime example from my pesonal life very recently (I am using this because I feel a LOT of people think they are "Givers" and are not)... A friend who is going through a divorce is having a very tough time leaving his little boy... So I gathered tons of pictures and created a scrapbook of his darling for him so that way when he felt down, he could look at the scrapbook. That "gift"-- was given for no reason at all-- no special occasion-- nothing-- and I spent over 70 hours on it and literally HUNDREDS of dollars (for film, paper, the book, accessories, etc). He was very emotional when I gave it to him and he bragged about it to everyone... it made me feel very good. BUT... at what cost? (And I am not just talking money or time here)... As we speak, he is on a cruise his this hotie he met three weeks ago... and hasn't really spoken to me since.. (I gave him the book around Christmas --plus Christmas gifts too)... That's what Givers do-- they give-- hoping to get love or friendship in return and then are crushed when they look around and see that they have neither and so much was sapped from them-- emotionally, financially, etc. with nothing to show for it.

I hope all this makes sense.. gotta love cold medicine.. I will probably be embarrased later that I wrote all this stuff -- I would be a cheap druggie-- cold medicine sends me in a whirl. ha ha...

why you ask...............and let me guess,the people on this site,are going to tell you????really?????and how in the hell do they know????...........buddy clearly ,just by asking this question..............TOTALLY explains why you give everything away

buddy you need a one way ticket to fairy land,there all your questions will go away

no need to thank me,its been my pleasure