Curious - Do people who gossip really think no harm done? (27)

Jul 20, 2007 9:47 AM CST Curious - Do people who gossip really think no harm done?
Dawn50
Dawn50Dawn50Ottawa Valley, Ontario Canada182 Threads 1,338 Posts
I am curious about this subject confused

Do people who gossip about another really think it is never found out? dunno
Then meet another day with the person they have gossip about with a hug & all smiles confused

As for myself, when I first meet someone new I always observe the person, especially in a group and if I notice gossip is the main subject in the conversation, I drift away and make sure no friendship is made with them.

Do people who gossip do not realize it is a weapon that cause emotional scars? confused

doh
Jul 20, 2007 10:56 AM CST Curious - Do people who gossip really think no harm done?
johnmarkus
johnmarkusjohnmarkustoronto, Canada34 Threads 1,384 Posts
Gossipers also focus on what others do and mimic those so they never really forms opinions and independence other than the physical realm of life.

Robots!!!!
Jul 20, 2007 12:30 PM CST Curious - Do people who gossip really think no harm done?
SocialGirl41
SocialGirl41SocialGirl41Brockville, Ontario Canada4 Threads 473 Posts
My theroy is that gossipers fit into a few catagories...1)..those that actually believe they are not doing antthing wrong...these are not the most intellegent ones...20 ..those that think think it makes them better people becausethey are "not like that"...the shallow ones...and 3)..those that don't care..those are my favs...

In a nutshell..no one you really want to be around
Jul 20, 2007 12:38 PM CST Curious - Do people who gossip really think no harm done?
johnmarkus
johnmarkusjohnmarkustoronto, Canada34 Threads 1,384 Posts
Don't care they care very much when they get a shot in the head for something dumb they said---rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing

My ex was horrible for that and I was always standing in between her and some woman and getting into fights to protect her with guys but she pop a pill and had the most uncanny ability to let go that I have ever seen anyone with---nay she was stoned.canada
Jul 20, 2007 1:00 PM CST Curious - Do people who gossip really think no harm done?
Dawn50
Dawn50Dawn50Ottawa Valley, Ontario Canada182 Threads 1,338 Posts
Gossipers seek the negatives like the media does since thats what draws the attention they are seeking.

Johnmarkus well said applause

So much to talk about in a group, when I get together with friends we are never, never lost for words or what to talk about and Big surprise not a word about a "person" at all!

So just maybe gossipers just does not have the tools to have a interesting conversation confused

Sorry one of my pet peeves on top of my list is people who gossip and I have put many in their place over the years doh
Jul 20, 2007 2:46 PM CST Curious - Do people who gossip really think no harm done?
Tiffanie
TiffanieTiffanieNijkerk, Gelderland Netherlands40 Threads 1,324 Posts
I think deep down that everyone gossips about someone every now and then. There are two differences, a; making someone look ridiculous or b; making someone realise that they are being talked about. In my eyes a gossiper who likes to spread rumours about someone else are no different than school bullies
Jul 20, 2007 9:06 PM CST Curious - Do people who gossip really think no harm done?
johnmarkus
johnmarkusjohnmarkustoronto, Canada34 Threads 1,384 Posts
They don't consider saying to someone "Hey did you hear that charlie or Mary got a promotion at work it's looks good on them" thats considered given positive recognition not gossip--gossip carries a negative attribute to it.

It's like determination and stubborn similar but different!canada
Jul 21, 2007 2:35 PM CST Curious - Do people who gossip really think no harm done?
sexygurlswings
sexygurlswingssexygurlswingsWinnipeg, Manitoba Canada49 Threads 2,560 Posts
I was raised, if you have nothing nice to say about someone...hold your tongue.....professor
Jul 21, 2007 2:38 PM CST Curious - Do people who gossip really think no harm done?
Dawn50
Dawn50Dawn50Ottawa Valley, Ontario Canada182 Threads 1,338 Posts
hug hug peace
Jul 21, 2007 3:09 PM CST Curious - Do people who gossip really think no harm done?
ibitadustbunny
ibitadustbunnyibitadustbunnypickering, Ontario Canada14 Threads 283 Posts
Anyone who says they never gossip is someone i wouldn't ever trust.
Everyone gossips to some extent, hell the first day i was here i received two emails telling me who not to trust on here.

So for me red flags go up when people tell me they are completely honest and don't gossip.
If you're human, then you gossip.
It's how far you take things that makes gossip bad.

To error is human, to forgive is devine.
Jul 21, 2007 3:59 PM CST Curious - Do people who gossip really think no harm done?
johnmarkus
johnmarkusjohnmarkustoronto, Canada34 Threads 1,384 Posts
hell the first day i was here i received two emails telling me who not to trust on here.

That isn't right for people to do at all---two people could meet and really find that they like each other and it could change their whole world just bye meeting.

I have read and heard cases where a person fell inlove and gave up all the bad that was in his/her life simply because love came to his/her heart.

For people to be so horrid at heart as to fabricate stories about others just because of words they see on a screen they are the one's to be caution of because they are shown their true nature bye doing so trying to gain popularity.



canada
Jul 21, 2007 4:02 PM CST Curious - Do people who gossip really think no harm done?
ibitadustbunny
ibitadustbunnyibitadustbunnypickering, Ontario Canada14 Threads 283 Posts
I didn't bother to listen to them anyways. I like to judge people from what i see not what others see. There's always going to be gossip in places like this simply because no one actually has to meet anyone if they didn't want too. It's a breeding ground for gossipers.

If anyone is foolish enough to judge a person based on what others say then they are not old enough to be in this site to begin withrolling on the floor laughing
Jul 21, 2007 4:26 PM CST Curious - Do people who gossip really think no harm done?
johnmarkus
johnmarkusjohnmarkustoronto, Canada34 Threads 1,384 Posts
thumbs up handshake you are getting scaryrolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing canada
Jul 21, 2007 4:48 PM CST Curious - Do people who gossip really think no harm done?
tazmaninangel
tazmaninangeltazmaninangelEdmonton, Alberta Canada118 Threads 1 Polls 2,608 Posts
good wordsthumbs up
Jul 21, 2007 6:17 PM CST Curious - Do people who gossip really think no harm done?
Dawn50
Dawn50Dawn50Ottawa Valley, Ontario Canada182 Threads 1,338 Posts
thumbs up thumbs up applause

hug
Jul 21, 2007 6:24 PM CST Curious - Do people who gossip really think no harm done?
Dawn50
Dawn50Dawn50Ottawa Valley, Ontario Canada182 Threads 1,338 Posts
1)-Anyone who says they never gossip is someone i wouldn't ever trust.

Op's I guess u will not trust me for sure
sigh

2)-So for me red flags go up when people tell me they are completely honest and don't gossip..

Op's my red flag is up dunno

3)- If you're human, then you gossip.

Hang on a sec, Dawn pinched herself, YEP I am human " I think"

confused

wine
Jul 21, 2007 6:30 PM CST Curious - Do people who gossip really think no harm done?
johnmarkus
johnmarkusjohnmarkustoronto, Canada34 Threads 1,384 Posts
That ya girl!rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing canada
Jul 21, 2007 7:42 PM CST Curious - Do people who gossip really think no harm done?
curlywolf
curlywolfcurlywolfmontreal, Quebec Canada402 Threads 7,052 Posts
Gossip can hurt more than heal all depends on how it's intended.........usually it's not good lol

I'm not perfect and have listened to gossip but I don't spread it.If I have something to say to or about someone I can say it to their face just as well as their back,that's the way I am.I agree with Dawn that all gossip eventually comes out,tis the nature of the beast.
Gossip is on a 'buyer be ware' basis,listen to what is said,consider what u know and consider where it's comming from before making judgement.
hug
Jul 21, 2007 7:58 PM CST Curious - Do people who gossip really think no harm done?
tazmaninangel
tazmaninangeltazmaninangelEdmonton, Alberta Canada118 Threads 1 Polls 2,608 Posts
true that!
Jul 22, 2007 11:42 AM CST Curious - Do people who gossip really think no harm done?
ibitadustbunny
ibitadustbunnyibitadustbunnypickering, Ontario Canada14 Threads 283 Posts
You're right Dawn, i wouldn't.
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