does being single for far too long turn you into a self sufficent selfish person that nobody wants ? (24)
Why would being single turn me into a selfish person? Being single doesn't mean I have no life? I might be more self sufficent in solving my every day "dilemma's" or fixing things in my house but it doesn't make me a self sufficent selfish person...
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Not me. If you want to know more, send money.
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thats a great answer !
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when showering? I guess so
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Hi Gilly. I am not sure that to be single for a long time would make me become selfish. I no longer think being in love is the polar opposite of being alone, however. I say that because I use to want to be in love again as I assume this is the opposite of loneliness. I think being in love is an opposite of loneliness, but not the opposite. There are other things I now crave when I am lonely, like community, like friendship, like family.
When you live on your own for a long time, however, your personality changes because you go so much into yourself you lose the ability to be social, to understand what is and isn't normal behavior. There is an entire world inside yourself, and if you let yourself, you can get so deep inside it you will forget the way to the surface. Other people keep our souls alive, just like food and water does with our body.
Some people know about that loneliness, that feeling of walking out into the darkness. They live alone and it could be very hard for them to be around people. They would leave parties/meeting early so they don't have to stand around and talk. The presence of people would agitate them. They are so used to being able to daydream and keep themselves company that other people are an intrusion.
It is like setting your soul down on the couch and not exercising it. We need to interact with other people to be heathly.
It doesn't mean any selfishness, but a terribly state to feel lonely too long...
When you live on your own for a long time, however, your personality changes because you go so much into yourself you lose the ability to be social, to understand what is and isn't normal behavior. There is an entire world inside yourself, and if you let yourself, you can get so deep inside it you will forget the way to the surface. Other people keep our souls alive, just like food and water does with our body.
Some people know about that loneliness, that feeling of walking out into the darkness. They live alone and it could be very hard for them to be around people. They would leave parties/meeting early so they don't have to stand around and talk. The presence of people would agitate them. They are so used to being able to daydream and keep themselves company that other people are an intrusion.
It is like setting your soul down on the couch and not exercising it. We need to interact with other people to be heathly.
It doesn't mean any selfishness, but a terribly state to feel lonely too long...
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yes, i am very selfish
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Not at all
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self sufficent ,maybe.Selfish no.As a parent ,you can't be .
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That's an interesting observation, especially the second part of what you wrote. I've never been a big people's person and I've always lived by myself so far. I wonder if the two things compound each other. However, I do think I know what's socially appropriate. I like the company of a small group, preferrably just one other person. Then you can focus on that individual and have a decent conversation. I'm no fac of big groups. I don't freak out or anything but if I don't have to, I will avoid crowds. I think to live with someone else would be a big adjustment although not necessarily too hard with the right person. It's more a matter of being used to your routine and habits than being actually selfish. Nobody likes to break habits.
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no not selfish am alone doesnt mean am selfish give to indigent people n charity but people always misconstrue things and lok askance sarte was right>>HELL IS OTHER PEOPLE>>REDUCTIVE MALICIOUS PROPAGANDA AND SMALL MEALY MOUTHED SANCTIMONIUS ATTITUDE<<<<<<<<<<<U IN UR HEART kNOW AND GOD >>>SO REALITY IS SUBJECTIVE SO MANY TAKES ON A GIVEN SITUATION>>>> am kind n helpfull but impatient with sharp temper...good with kids depends which facet of personality is showing>??
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And a selfish person will be selfish whether in a relationship or not
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Honestly!!! Iam not selfish,but i do wish someone would come along and make me smile,just like those who do have someone.I would never wish ill thoughts on anyone,if Love came their way,and they were waiting along time for somedody to make their life complete.I guess i just have to put it in Gods Hands,and hope i will find that special someone.Everybody needs love!!!
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All human beings are selfish thats a fact but it's if one takes it to self centered behaviors that isn't healthy.
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lots to talk about there later
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Yep sure am......
I am telling the truth......
If you want to know me come and live with me.......
I am telling the truth......
If you want to know me come and live with me.......
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I think as long as I can remember I have been in a relationship. Even when I was 4, I would threaten Richard the boy who used to squish my play dough in school that if he ever left me I would make him eat scabs and boogers.
Being in a relationship or being single has nothing to do with selfishness, u either are or you arent!
I have been lucky and have been more or less spoilt all my life, not in my homelife but by my respective honeys (there has only been 3!). Even Richard used to play My Little Pony with me, maybe he liked it more than I did, who knows!!
I do have selfish tendencies in a relationship, its awful to admit but I do. I come from a largeish busy family, so i expect full attention from my partner at all times and if I'm busy, well I guess I have double standards.
I have other good qualities that make up for it though.
Back to the point, once again I think single if anything teaches you to know yourself much more, makes you much more reflective and I also reckon selfishness is a quality that resides in any person regardless of relationship status!
Being in a relationship or being single has nothing to do with selfishness, u either are or you arent!
I have been lucky and have been more or less spoilt all my life, not in my homelife but by my respective honeys (there has only been 3!). Even Richard used to play My Little Pony with me, maybe he liked it more than I did, who knows!!
I do have selfish tendencies in a relationship, its awful to admit but I do. I come from a largeish busy family, so i expect full attention from my partner at all times and if I'm busy, well I guess I have double standards.
I have other good qualities that make up for it though.
Back to the point, once again I think single if anything teaches you to know yourself much more, makes you much more reflective and I also reckon selfishness is a quality that resides in any person regardless of relationship status!
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That's me!!!! Yep, now I know why no one wants me...
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being alone not nessasarily single can change your ..social/interacting abilities. being selfish is a trait anyone canhave regardless of your living status.
how am I toget along with.... trying to set my ego aside I'm easy to get along with.... OK so I did not get my ego to the side
how am I toget along with.... trying to set my ego aside I'm easy to get along with.... OK so I did not get my ego to the side
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carry on talking .. ilove it when people like you start talking !
its great to keep in touch with the pulse of the grass roots
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