a person with a disability is dateable,don't you agree (23)
that is not why i posted this.
i posted this to get people to think and open their somewhat narrow views.
i posted this to get people to think and open their somewhat narrow views.
For me it would depend on what the disability was. If I were with a man with a disability, would be be able to work? Provide? I mean, that'd be something I would worry about even though I know I money isn't everything....because what you get paid for disability around here is hardly anything....and I want a future for myself too! Plus I have a child, so I also have to look out for his interest.
So you weren't looking for answers. It was a speech you made.
If you post something you have to be prepared for responses with which you may not agree.
If you post something you have to be prepared for responses with which you may not agree.
ok point taken.
women are more security minded.
but its more a intellectual spiritual mindful question
women are more security minded.
but its more a intellectual spiritual mindful question
I work in a field where I meet tons of people every day and I see people with people in wheel chairs.
I think if someone love's another their disability won't matter at all to them.
However it may be hard for a average person who has all their abilities to accept above a friendship at first.
It's like a married person who gets into a car accident and their partner cries at their partners loss---it's not easy to accept.
It's not about having a narrow mind---it's about being human and equal having someone with the same abilities to companionship with but not saying it isn't possible because falling in love has no conditions it just happens.
I think if someone love's another their disability won't matter at all to them.
However it may be hard for a average person who has all their abilities to accept above a friendship at first.
It's like a married person who gets into a car accident and their partner cries at their partners loss---it's not easy to accept.
It's not about having a narrow mind---it's about being human and equal having someone with the same abilities to companionship with but not saying it isn't possible because falling in love has no conditions it just happens.
I've fallen in lust, not love, with a disabled woman years ago.
Was visiting my dad in the hospital at the time, and there was this gorgeous young woman confined to a wheelchair.
I still remember her face. She was beautiful. I spent a lot of time with her, talking, getting to know each other.
It didn't go anywhere but her impediment was not a priority in my mind at the time.
Was visiting my dad in the hospital at the time, and there was this gorgeous young woman confined to a wheelchair.
I still remember her face. She was beautiful. I spent a lot of time with her, talking, getting to know each other.
It didn't go anywhere but her impediment was not a priority in my mind at the time.
hmmm
Exactly my point!
Some people who have disabilities get so negative they are miserable and seeking pity for it---that isn't attractive at all.
I can't remember his name but a young boy had severe cancer among other things with his bones ms I think---he wrote poems that were publist that made me see life differently--he was so positive so up in what he wrote I never even seen his disability after reading less than half way through his book than his second and even his thirth.
What I remember about him is how brave how beautiful how strong his heart is!
Some people who have disabilities get so negative they are miserable and seeking pity for it---that isn't attractive at all.
I can't remember his name but a young boy had severe cancer among other things with his bones ms I think---he wrote poems that were publist that made me see life differently--he was so positive so up in what he wrote I never even seen his disability after reading less than half way through his book than his second and even his thirth.
What I remember about him is how brave how beautiful how strong his heart is!
i must agree. the last guy i dated had a disability.
he at 1st came off sweet,but then he quickly became abussive and a contradiction.
but not all people with disabilities are like that.
i ,for myself, hope im positive prospective and content.
he at 1st came off sweet,but then he quickly became abussive and a contradiction.
but not all people with disabilities are like that.
i ,for myself, hope im positive prospective and content.
I do my best to but at times things do get to me especially here in the forums out in front of everyone---I think I have a problem with being centered out.
I am a loner for the most part---at work I am around thousands of people but it's all work related wheeling and dealing nothing personal.
Here I am trying to share myself as honestly as I can but I am not always getting the reaction I hope for and feel centered out.
I am working on it though and do feel this is a good place to learn how to cope with the centered out sensation I am receiving only due time till I discover a good way of dealing with and not caring isn't a healthy way in my opinion.
I am a loner for the most part---at work I am around thousands of people but it's all work related wheeling and dealing nothing personal.
Here I am trying to share myself as honestly as I can but I am not always getting the reaction I hope for and feel centered out.
I am working on it though and do feel this is a good place to learn how to cope with the centered out sensation I am receiving only due time till I discover a good way of dealing with and not caring isn't a healthy way in my opinion.
i really like your thinking
I work with a population of people that have various disabilites...I spend all day helping people see their disabilites not as who they are but as an aspect of them, as is there hair colour or weight. It is hard for me to get my head around why we have this worry because to me it is equal to a post that reads...A Fat Person is Dateable Don't you agree..Of course...there are people for everyone, some have it easier than others but that is life...
Kathy's 2 cents worth
Kathy's 2 cents worth
thank you
It's called a pecking order, for lack of a better term.
I think I may have a better term: immature. The idea that someone will come to a relationship with no thought of what they can contribute but only what they can get.
I have often thought that having a disability is like having a filter that automatically excludes shallow people; people who would make you rick quickly if you could buy them for what they are worth and sell them for what they think they are worth.
It is difficult to find quality anywhere with so much dross around. Learn to enjoy the voyage and you will not worry nearly as much about the destination.
Be well.
I think I may have a better term: immature. The idea that someone will come to a relationship with no thought of what they can contribute but only what they can get.
I have often thought that having a disability is like having a filter that automatically excludes shallow people; people who would make you rick quickly if you could buy them for what they are worth and sell them for what they think they are worth.
It is difficult to find quality anywhere with so much dross around. Learn to enjoy the voyage and you will not worry nearly as much about the destination.
Be well.
I think I may have a better term: immature. The idea that someone will come to a relationship with no thought of what they can contribute but only what they can get.
That is so common place these days but so sad!
I think here in Canada life is too easy and people don't mature as fast!
If it wasn't for the heart aches we receive along the way in relationships would we even advance mentally and emotionally or in spirit!?
I mean getting the physical materials like a home furniture and the like is so easy to do that we would just take it all for granted feeling happy and excited never understanding other feelings at all.
That is so common place these days but so sad!
I think here in Canada life is too easy and people don't mature as fast!
If it wasn't for the heart aches we receive along the way in relationships would we even advance mentally and emotionally or in spirit!?
I mean getting the physical materials like a home furniture and the like is so easy to do that we would just take it all for granted feeling happy and excited never understanding other feelings at all.
all disAbled means is a ability restricted or not present
The word disabled is so broad a term that it totally depends on the individual who is interpretting it.
For one person it maybe blindness or wheelchair bound where for another it may be emotionally disabled - not being able to open up as much as you want them to.
Personally - i think we all have a disability of some sort - whether its naked to the eye or not is the question.
And so it just depends on an individual case to case basis on whether you feel strongly enough to persue something.
For one person it maybe blindness or wheelchair bound where for another it may be emotionally disabled - not being able to open up as much as you want them to.
Personally - i think we all have a disability of some sort - whether its naked to the eye or not is the question.
And so it just depends on an individual case to case basis on whether you feel strongly enough to persue something.
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i don't think thats right.
i, as a person with disability am just as dateable as you.
i feel,i bleed,i love,i hurt,i cry,i get angry,i think and communicate. i even enjoy being physical with that special person.
so why is it difficult for me and others.