A Kiss? ( Archived) (11)

Ok, so maybe this is weird to me, I haven't been on the market since I was 16.. lol. I known this guy online for close to a year, well we met for the 1st time. Went to see a movie. He knew that my husband left me 3 weeks ago, that we were "friends" and that we were going out as friends. Anyways, half way during the movie he grabbed my hand and held it. Ok, whatever. Then we were talking and hanging out after, and we were doing a staring thing, and he kissed me. I in no way kissed him back, completely 1 sided. Then I told him how I don't kiss(I like to be in a relationship and comfortable before I kiss - not on a first date). Is it me, or was that weird that he kissed me? I mean, I even paid my own way at this movie and it seemed totally "friend" like. It did however, help my self esteem that he kissed me lol. He's single, seemed to never have a girlfriend but has a lot of female friends. I wonder if he kisses all of them, or what? On the other hand, I wouldn't mind going out with him again. I did enjoy myself which I haven't done in years.. but only as a friend again lol. Without the kiss.

Yeah, I've learned you have got to be preapared for that at the end of the night. Kind of figure out in advance if you want to spend some more time with the man.

But don't blame the man for leaning in. But if your going to sit there and stare at the man, he figures your waiting....

Oh, and I was also thinking about my hubby a lot when I was out. I know that in 3 weeks I am no way near ready to "move on". I still love him & would probably take him back(even though I know i'd be stupid if I did). But I still feel "married"(well I am.. but seperated) so it still felt wrong I was out. Even though he hasn't talked to me since he walked out the door.

is it wrong to kiss a person in friendship,or was it a full on one,
i kiss women friends on the cheek

It was a full on one. Not on the cheek. And it would of been actual "kissing" if I had of been into it.It ended up being like a peck, even though I didn't even peck my lips up lol.

You seem to be confused overall, and apparently he's in a hurry.

i take it he took it as no then?

My Advice: Establish well-defined boundaries, or don't date at all...

You're in a state of mind perfect for a rebound relationship, which is unfair to the other person...

You have no clue, due to your state of mind, what body language and other non-verbal cues you're projecting, and thus implying. They might be inferring you're ready...

You're confused, and in this situation, its bound to be contagious...

You enjoyed yourself...do you even care, at this point, whether he did or not? Or is he just a tool to help you through a hard time...? Again, unfair to the other person...

Without all the facts, this is as far as I'm going to go...I mean no offense, but its obvious from your post that, in this situation, its all about you...

Think about the other person a little bit...and try to be compassionate...otherwise, you're not really his friend at all...

TET