don't know if I'm ready? ( Archived) (9)

just got a question..I've been dating this woman I meet for about a week or so now and we get along fine as friends but as a couple...i don't know if it's because I see alot of my ex girlfriend's personality in her or if it's because deep down I'm not really ready to date anyone at the moment. And there has even been a few times i have made up a excuss why i couldn't go out with her that night. Or when we do go out we have fun together but at the same time we're both keeping a mental distance from each other. Bascally I'm sayin in my mind im wanting to date and I'm tired of being alone...but in my heart i feel like I'm not ready. So I don't know if i should keep dating her even though i'm not really feeling it..or should i just be friends with her and take a chance of losing her to another guy.

I think you should be friends because it does sound like your not ready for anything more than that.

I agree with Lion

Honestly to me you definatly sound like you are not ready to be fully commited to just one person.

And please do NOT keep leading her on just to spare her feelings or your own if your not completly sure. Us women do not like to be dragged arround and mislead kwim?

I would just remain friends and explain to her that your just not ready for something romantic at the moment. Just be open with your feelings and make sure your clear to her.

In no time you will be ready again!

Good Luck
Tracy :o)

solowolf,
Follow your heart and do what you feel is best for you. from reading your post you do sound like your not ready to get your feet wet yet. Like your testing the waters. Which is okay but don't lead her on thinking that you want to be with her. I would have a sit down with her and tell her exactly how your feeling that way there wont be any hard feelings later on down the road. Take it slow and we all know that being friends is the best way to start a relationship with anyone. Good luck to you and good to see another okie in the group thats 2 so far I have seen and/or talked to hehe. ;-)

I am not sure if its his feet that will get wet....But anyways, be honest to yourself most importantly. A friendship at this point is the best option, but keep an open mind in case you change your heart.

yeah you guys are right..i don't want to lead her on (had that crap happen to myself) so I guess I'll let her know I'm not ready yet..kinda dread it tho never know how that part is gonna go.

Hey!! a fellow Okie good to see ya...your my first i've seen guess we are kinda rare on this forum huh ;)