Why is it ( Archived) (6)

You read someones comments and they ask for advise and you offer some then offer friendship and to help when you can. All you ask is they talk to you, They ignore you or run away. I know many here say looking for love but when looking for love they put to many rules on it. Age scares some away, maybe that ones to fat or to skinny. He has a mustace or long hair he's not right. She don't look the way i want so move on to the next. come on you came here looking for someone to hold on long lonely nights then you attach so many restictions to them you want someone you will never find. I am far from perfect or prince charming but i have alot to offer. I;m not young but i still have alot of life inside me. I am not pretty on the outside but if you take the time to look inside you would see light.

So I ask does anyone else see these things going on or should i just shut up and give up?

I learned a while back that people will only change their perspective when they are good and ready ....... so while I still think that its valuable sometimes to give advice if someone is seeking it, ask them questions etc. ......... the answers still need to come from inside of them.

So while we may see a different perspective and view because of our owm experiences ........ others need to find their own way.

As for you shutting up and giving up? Why would you say that? Share the wisdom and experiences that you have in the forums and others will be blessed from it - we all have something to learn from everyone.

As for giving up - never. Be yourself, and you'll shine. I would say believe in yourself and be confident (if your appearance needs "sprucing up" then do it in reference to your "not pretty on the outside" comment.

Oh and having just read your profile ................ REVAMP IT.

OMG - you sound so sad, heavy hearted and lonely that its probably scaring people away.

Oh and I forgot to mention ............. get some new pictures. Put on some nice clothes, take off your hat and actually have a shot where people can see your face. The most important thing as well SMILE.

Good luck and I wish you success.

.....other than what Langley said........you're good to go!