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Mar 8, 2006 9:26 AM CST question
solowolf
solowolfsolowolfoklahoma city, Oklahoma USA32 Threads 969 Posts
I just started relationship about afew weeks now, and realized she is not really who I'm are looking for in a partner. Is it ok to just start leaning toward just a friend kinda relationship and let it fade out on it's own. But if she questions what is going on I'll of course be honest and up front with her.

Or should I go ahead and tell her it's not going to work out? I'm not for sure
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Mar 8, 2006 9:31 AM CST question
chance2485
chance2485chance2485cabin in the woods, Michigan USA123 Threads 1,365 Posts
solowolf,

Sweety,what does your heart say? If it
was the other way around,how would you want to
find out..Honesty..is always best..Good luck..
that's a tuff situation for both partys..but
You must do what your heart says..and it must
be a good heart or you wouldn't care...chance
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Mar 8, 2006 9:31 AM CST question
Tumpa
TumpaTumpaottawa, Ontario Canada88 Threads 7,091 Posts
honesty is the best policy they say....but unfortunately the next catch phrase is the truth hurts.
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Mar 8, 2006 9:34 AM CST question
Lillyofthevalley
LillyofthevalleyLillyofthevalleySt John's, Newfoundland Canada38 Threads 3,152 Posts
Suck it up and tell her, nothing worst than being dicked around, time is too precious
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Mar 8, 2006 9:37 AM CST question
Tumpa
TumpaTumpaottawa, Ontario Canada88 Threads 7,091 Posts
ever so true!
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Mar 8, 2006 10:24 AM CST question
Jackie1954
Jackie1954Jackie1954Athens, Ohio USA1 Threads 62 Posts
Be honest with her... instead of taking up more of her time and emotions when she doesn't know it's going nowhere.
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Mar 8, 2006 11:13 AM CST question
jjohnny
jjohnnyjjohnnyCincinnati, USA3 Posts
You already said"he is not for you" lies aren't going to change that fact what you will be losing is a person who "doesn't do it for you " the risk is easy to take I would think. . .jjohnny!!!
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Mar 8, 2006 6:36 PM CST question
Katine76
Katine76Katine76Moncton, Canada145 Threads 4,516 Posts
I agree with Chance.

Be honest. The longer you wait the longer it may seem to her you have mislead her.

I know personaly I rather someone tell me upfront how they really feel than to take pity and wait arround kwim?

And I know when it comes to me if I feel differently I don't waste any time telling the person.

And you do have a great heart. Because if you didn't you wouldn't care right now.

Good Luck
Tracy :o)
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Mar 8, 2006 6:45 PM CST question
Think of how you would want to be treated. Then show her the same respect!!!!!!
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Mar 8, 2006 7:24 PM CST question
PeachesandCream
PeachesandCreamPeachesandCreamConcord, North Carolina USA43 Threads 675 Posts
Lonewolf, Jonathan's on the money with this one...treat her heart and feelings with respect....she may hurt, but you may still be able to salvage a friendship out of this once she gets over "getting the wind knocked out of her" of sorts. She may be hurt or angry, but she will respect you more as a man, and not a mouse if you gently let her go. Good Luck, been there and done that, don't want to be walking in your shoes right about now...Take care.
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