open letter from a dead man ( Archived) (21)

today was the first time i went back in the forum and read what was said about the things i wrote,some commcomments was good and some of them was bad.it reminded me of the old saying you can please some of the people some of the time,but you cannot please everyone.no matter good or bad no one can deny that what i write is not true,for if it was not true i would not say,but since it is true i am seeing,there are things i do hold true in life God, my children,what i write,life,love and death for all of these things are real. it is like someone said about me once he said you do not have to like him,but you have to respect him and accept what he says is true,for if it was not true he will not say it.but ladies some of the comments you left did make me blush and made me smile.1 thing even made me laugh when someone said something about a posse.but think about this for now ya are only getting a glimpse into what is in my heart,after you read my words you know they are true and no matter how hard you try to deny them you cannot for you know they are true.long ago a special woman thought she could handle having my heart in her hands,she looked at me 1 day and said i was a falling star who fell into her life to find her when she was lost.what was in my heart overcame her for she knew what was in my heart was true and she never face it before,nor did she knew how to handle it,nor did she understand what have enter her life,all she knew was it was true.1 day i will write what happen when she woke up 1 day and knew there was no way she could handle having my heart in her hands and knew 1 day she will break it,but she knew in her heart i will never break her heart for all i will do is fill her heart with love and happiness,she knew that i will never leave her but she knew that she will leave me.you can be afraid of hurting someone so much that you will be afraid of being around them,but at the same time you know no matter what you do to them,they will still love you and they will never do anything to hurt you nor will they ever leave you but they will always be by your side.but long ago i went back to school so i could earn my high school diploma. 1 night my oldest daughter came up to me and ask me why should she finsih school when i didn't.which is right how can a parent ask a child to do something that they have not do.a parent is suppose set a good example for their children,than i could not tell my children to do something i have not done.when i was in the 11 grade my dad had a heart attack and was unable to work,my mom had a heart attack a couple of years before and she was going on the kindey machine twice a week so she was unable to work.i was 18 so i could get a job with no problem.1 day my mom came up to me and said they was about to lose everything cause they could not pay the bills,she ask me to quit school long enough for them to get caught up and til my dad could go back to work.as my mom was saying these words tears was coming out of her eyes for she knew how much i like school.as i wipe the tears out of her yes i told her you are my mom and i love you,you have been taken care of me for most of my life and now it is my turn to take care of you from that day on until she died a couple of years later. i would come home on payday and give her my check so she could do what she needed to do with it,i could not go back to school cause they had a age limit and the age limit was 18 and i was 19.so i stayed working and helping my mom out until her death.my children knew it but my daughter had a point why should they do something that i have not done.so the next day i called a friend up and they told me about a school that they had for adults to go back and get their high school diploma.so when my children came home from school the next day without saying a word to them i loaded them up in the car to get sign up for school

now no one at the school knew i was coming,nor did they knew what was about to hit them and turn their lives upside them from that day 1.in a divorce and in life most people are use to the woman getting the kids and the man having to pay child support.all of the single mothers should know by now that they do have all of my respect.for what they are doing is the hardest thing you can do.sometimes you wonder if you can do it,but at the end of the day when that child is getting ready to go to bed,when they come up to you and give you a hug and say i love you,you know right than and there no matter what you had to go through that day it was worth it.which your heart holds these 3 things and these 3 things are true and by doing what you are doing everyday proves these 3 things are true.your is a caring heart and a understanding heart and your heart holds unconditional the love that is greatest of all and you will always have my respect and admiration.now no one in this city have ever heard nor seen a man who have full custody of his children.most people i knew only had 2 children.no one was ready for what was about to hit them,at first no one would believe their eyes nor their ears,nor would them know how to handle what is about to enter their lives and for some it will change their lives forever.now put your self in these people shoes when i get to the school i knew which office to go to and no one else will be there but the people i needed to talk to.you are sitting at your desk minding your own business.than you hear your office door open and yet no one has come in nor could you see who open your door.than before you know it 2 little boys walks in.but still your door is open and still you cannot see who is behind it,here you are looking at the boys and they are looking at you.than before you know it in walks 2 little girls who stands behind the boys,they too like the boys just stands there looking at you not saying a word.you knew they was brothers and sisters cause they look alike.but your door is still open and yet you cannot see who is holding the door open.by this time you are wondering what in the hell is going on.than in walks a man and in his arms he is holding a baby,you know it is his baby cause she looks like him.you just sit there wondering what in the hell is going on.standing before you not saying a word just looking at you is 4 children, a man with a baby in his arms just standing there smiling at you.when you can speak cause what you are seeing have overwhelms you,you close your eyes cause you are thinking it is a dream cause what is happening could not happen.but you open your eyes and look and you know it is not a dream but it is real and it is standing there smiling at you.when you could find your voice you ask the man if you can help me.what he says next you have not ever heard and you cannot believe what you are hearing,for he tells you these are his 5 children and he has full custody of them and he is taking care of them by his self.all you could do is sit there and look at him cause you do not know what to say cause you still cannot believe what he just told you.

the man must have knew what you was thinking cause he handle you some papers,as you read them your mouth fell open cause sure enough the man did have full custody of his 5 children cause he gave you his custody papers to read.the next thing you hear is a noise and the woman who shares your office fell out of her chair cause she could not believe what she is seeing nor hearing all she could say is no way,no way,no way there is no way this is happening.but you look at her and hands her the papers to read,you say to her with a smile on your face it is true.than the man tells you he wants to come to school so he can get his high school diploma and he tells you why cause the night before his daughter ask him why should she finsih school when he did not.that he cannot ask his children to do something that he have not done.than he hands you some more papers after you read them you tell him he has to wait cause you have to get him special permission so he can go to school there,for the school is not set up for someone like him.but you tell him don't worry you will find a way for him to go to school.you ask him not to say a word to no one about him coming to school there cause you want to see the look on people's faces as he and his family walks by them,so on that day it was set up that when my family arrives on my first day of school you will meet my family and the woman in your office and you will show us around the school.so you call me a week later and tell me i can come to school now everything is set up.you tell me what time to meet you and you had a reason for this time cause no one will be out in the hallways in order to be warn about what is about to happen.with you in front my sons behind you,my daughters behind them and with me behind them and the woman behind me we go walking down the hall.1 by 1 people see us walking down the hallway as we pass them all you notice is people standing there staring as we walk by with their mouth wide open as saying what in the hell is going on.1 by 1 the people in the classrooms are coming out into the hallway to see what is going on.than it is becoming like moses spreading the red sea people is getting out of the way.there you are out in front with a big smile on your face cause people is seeing what you first saw and they are acting the same way you did,thinking it is a dream but they know it is not.before their eyes they are seeing something they never thought they will see.for nothing prepare them for what they are seeing.they never heard of it nor seen it but before their eyes it is being played out like a dream. but for some reason i only had to go to 2 classes and 1 was computer business class which when they first told me i raise with them about for i never use a computer before and never wanted to use 1.i didn't know nothing about them all i knew about them is people cussed at them,kicked and slaped them.that is all i knew about them,heck i didn't even know how to turn 1 on.nor did i ever have a typing class and i sure in the hell didn't know how to type.so the way i looked at it,it was not a class for me,but i agree with them to try it and if i didn't like it i could get a differt class.now my comuter teacher was a true christian and her husband was a preacher.nothing in her lifetime she once said prepare her for walked in her class 1 day with a smile on his face and a baby in his arms and 4 children behind him.she later found out why he was smiling for her worst nightmare just came true.now off and on for 3 years i worked at the shipyard where you was taught if something didn't worked right you either cuss at it,kicked it and slap it yes sometimes you did all 3 and more.now we had ladies working there too and they cussed more than we did

my first couple of days in class i watch people cuss,kick and slap their computers.so i said hey if they could do it i can too.so i am here cussing,kicking and slaping the hell out of it.my teacher walks in and a soft voice she said please do not cuss,nor kick,nor slap the computer cause you will damage it.she said when you need me put your hand up and i will come and help you.she gave me a notebook and she will write the things down so i would knew what to do,when i learn something new she wrote it down.sometimes she would take my hands into hers and try to teach me how to type.but a couple of weeks pass she got use to me by now and hardly paid me any attention when i would cuss,kick and slap her computers.while i would wait for her to come and help me i would write in the notebook.1 day she ask me if she could take it home and read what i wrote in it and i told her ok.what i didn't know was when she was home she had her husband to read what was writing and since he was a preacher she wanted to knwo what he thought about what was written in the notebook.than she got my other teacher to read it than they came up with a plan cause they was getting tire of hearing through the school dammit what did you do not.when i got in her class she came up to me and said i have been a teacher for 20 years before i stared teaching computers,i taught typing and i have never ever met anyone i could not teach how to type nor use a computer until i meet you.she said i have talk to your other teacher and we made up a agreement about you.we will let you write in your notebook and it will count as classwork.i will edit it and give you a copy and i will keep a copy.for these reasons 1 since i am the only 1 who can keep your out of trouble we are going to keep you in my class.we know what you write is true and it will help someone.what i didn't know is when i write something she would make a copy and get people to read it.they found out as she did that what i write is true and it can help someone.now during my lifetime i have learn this to be true.you can only control what you do and say,you cannot control what someone else does nor say

that it really does not matter what someone else thinks nor says about you.for no matter how hard you try you are not going to get everyone to like you.that there will always be someone who will try and put you down and say bad things about you and most of the time they will not be true.so people do it cause they think by putting someone down it makes them look bigger than they are.understand this and it is true it is your life to live the way you want to live it,no one has a right to tell you how to live your life or what choices and what to do with your life,do not worry about thwt aosmone else thinks of you cause your life does not depend on what someone else does or say.if someone says or does something that you do not like just give them the finger with a big FU on it.it is like my mom always said if you pay them no attention they will leave you alone.she also said it is best to be a fool and keep your mouth shut and no one will know you are a fool.than it is to open your mouth and let everyone know the fool your are.if you do not have something nice to say to someone than keep your mouth shut.yes it is true the first amendment gives everyone freedom of speech but it does not give you the right to dispect someone,nor does it give you the right to say something bad to someone cause you think it will make you a bigger person.here is what the first amendment says"" congress shall make no laws respecting an establishment of religion or prohibiting the free excercise thereof,or abridgeing the freedom of speech or the press or the right of the people peaceably to assemble and to petition the goverment for a redress of grievances

I have been picked on, made fun of, all my life...and after I got married it was a million times worse and I think that is why, when I see someone start being mean or cruel to someone here, it is hard for me to keep quiet.
I don't say anything to be "the bigger person", I say something because it breaks my heart to see people being ridiculed and laughed at.


Rose.

yes it does give you the freedom of speech but it does not give you the right to be disrespectful to someone,nor does it give you the right to say mean things to someone,but you should remember the price that was paid for that freedom,how many people gave up their lives so you can have that freedom,even today people are gving up their lives so we can have that freedom.even today in some parts of the world people are still fighting and dying for the right of freedom,maybe you should understand that how bless you was to be born in a country where you do have that freedom and that what you say is portected by a law that people gave their lives for and people are still gving their lives so we can have that freedom,why not try and help someone instead of kicking them while they are down.instead of putting somone down why don't you try to lift someone up.instead of running your mouth why don't you shut your mouth and put yourself in that person shoes and try to understand how they feel.you know that when you need help you want someone to help you,you do not want someone to kick you while you are down.to those who think they are better than everyone else let's see what the declaration of independence has to say "" we hold these truths to be self-evident,that all men ar created equal,, the declaration of independence was written by people who wanted freedom for all man kind and not just some of them,they knew all man kind was created equal,they did not say some was but they said all,so climb down off your high horse and stop thinking you are better than someone else cause you are not.look at what abraham lincoln said in his gettysburg address "" four score and seven years ago our fathers bought forth on this continent,a new nation,conceived in liberty and dedicated to the proposition that all men are created equal""so stop thinking you are better than someone else cause you are not,you are equal to everyone else.trest everyone with respect and they will treat you with respect,treat people with hate and they will treat you with hate.treat people the way you want to be treated and they will treat you the way they want to be treated.

Good Morning Z Man, your writings seem so driven by such conviction of the heart. You touch us all..I don't know what the other 5 parts are of this letter, but I'm sure the words must be ever bit as powerful and full of meaning. Thanks for making us all look deeper into who we are and what we believe to be the truth in life.

Morning Z Man...finding the other parts of this letter just as interesting and thought provoking...the statement about keeping your mouth shut and only thought a fool, than to open your mouth and remove all doubt is one of my sayings I keep on my desk at work..That saying has been a good one to live by in my work life and personal life...looking for the other parts yet...