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I had a friend that was homeless and I felt very bad for her. I tried to do what I could to help and after a few months found myself having to jump evry time she called to go take her somewhere. I even invited her to stay at my apartment for a couple of weeks when she had nowhere else to go. However I live in subsudized housing and could've lost my apartment if I allowed her to stay any longer. She has a job and a few times has given me money to cover gas used in my car. Well about two weeks ago she started to get very demanding. Once she called me, while I was busy, and expected me to drop everything I was doing to take her to McDonalds. I told her that I couldn't and she started calling me every name in the book. Then phone calls started coming at 2,3 and 4am asking for rides and if she could come over to my apartment. I finally had enough a few days ago and told her to quit calling me and that I would get the few things she had back to her the following morning. She just kept calling a leaving messages on my phone. In the messages she said that she was calling child protective services on me because I was a fat, lazy loser and that my kids didn't need to see that. She said she was calling my apartment complex to tell them that I had sublet my apartment to her. After about two days of this I went to the police who adviced me to obtain a PPO against her. I took the steps in order to get one, but now the calls have stopped and I don't think the PPO has been issued yet. I am starting to feel bad about filing a complaint. Any advice on what I should do?

Continue with the ppo.....you don't know when she might just "show up" and then things could get really bad. You need this kind of stuff.....just in case she lives up to her promise to call dcps.....you can use that opp and your phone records to show that she harrassed you and made a false claim. This is just my opinion, but I think it is best to continue with the order of protection.

JMO

Follow through with it...Don't be all talk and no action...Why should you feel bad????????.,..If the order is stopped it will start again...Just do it!!!!!!!

first off its not you that has a problem... as you tell this it is apparent she has mistaken your kindness for a weakness. if you ever want your friend back now is the time to stand strong. You have a life, children, and she should be understanding of that and way more appreciative.

you did the right thing.
I hope her threats does not come back to haunt you.

Sounds like this person is a real psycho and has anger management issues. I would definatly not back down on getting that PPO because if you canceled it and then she started again they might not take you seriously next time.

So better to be safe than sorry especialy if you have children to worry about and protect.

No advice!!...I'll get booted by the MODS!!!!!

Thanks for the advice, I just wanted to get some extra input. A PPO is a Personal Protection Order. With it any contact via phone, mail, email or in person is illegal.

sorry to hear that but, to be frank, it sounds as tho u have been a very good friend indeed and have tried to do what you could with your given restrictions, of course.

Do you think drugs are involved, because of her volatile behaviour? If so, she needs to get some help.... if not, if you have any sense, she has lost a very valuable and treasured friend!

...no, i dont think you have anything to feel guilty about whatsoever! A lot of people would give their right arm for friendship like that....