gatoraidkittyOPCharleston, West Virginia USA467 posts
ok, so i had met this fella from CS, we dated for a couple weeks, seemed okay at first, he was funny and sweet, til I found out he is 40 and living with his mama, and has to lie to her to sneak out for dates cos she doesn't approve, okay that was freaky.....but now it's good for a laugh...so bring on some laughs...i could use some right now.....
Some years ago I had a boyfriend who EVERY time he was here, would call his mum to say he had arrived. (20miles)
Throughout the weekends he was here, she would call him about four times per day and stay talking for about 20mins at a time. (all of which he seemed to find perfectly normal .. he was 36yrs) I remember her calling at 7.30am.. and midnight too! for a *Goodnight chat*
Every Friday night he (i discovered) his mother and father would go to their local pub for a *Quiz night*.
On the Friday evenings that he was here.. she would call him after *Quiz night* and tell him all the questions.. so that HE could have a go at answering them..
He was GOBSMACKED when I said that I didn't think he should see each other any more.
Of course, the obvious questions I would hope you asked were:
1. Is he living there in order to care for her as many baby boomers are having to do for elder parents these days.
2. Is he really sneaking out or just showing his mother respect by asking her if he may go out? Sure, he's obviously an adult, but coping with an elder parent is sometimes easier to play the game and keep the peace by being subsurvient.
Not suggesting you are wrong, but if you jumped to a conclusion without getting all the facts, you might have just lost a man that loves and respects his mother; and isn't afraid to show that.
Of course, if he is living at home because he's afraid to get out on his own and be responsible, that's a different story .... but it pays to find out for sure. He might just have turned out to be a very kind and considerate man that is dealing with difficult times, helping his mother, and just trying to be a good son ................. you could do far worse in finding a man.....
no relly I tought you had a dte this week...? if you did how did it go? I thought I saw you bring it up in nother thread eirlier this week..... why this one just had to laugh? it is funny that the dude has to lie to his mom to have date and hes 40....wow at 40 now I wish I just had my mom still..
I'm all for having a close relationship with the maternal unit...but I'm sorry...you can only have your balls in one woman's purse at a time. And when the girl you're dating realizes it's not hers, you won't be dating her much longer.
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