I have been several times through life into situations when If I tell a person something I know will definetely hurt them but if I don't it will break their heart big time...
Have always chose to tell the truth, sometimes they have believed me, sometimes they have stopped talking to me, only to come back later and tell me how right I was.
So, I rather tell the truth, what would you guys do??
RobbieMHertford, Hertfordshire, England UK4,553 posts
I tell the truth but soften the blow as much as possible...i'm all considerate like that.....though if they come back and ask for a loan, ask to move back in, or want to borrow the car i have to draw the line somewhere.
I have to say I would do the same.Because if something did happen and I kept shut as if I could,I rather go down in flames knowing I put it all out there to them.
I agree. I think, in my experience anyway in dating, the guys would rather not call you or just stop writing versus telling you its not working out.
I am getting ready to tell this guy I have been seeing to either stop writing, emailing, calling me for 1 week to back off or its over. Its going to fast and he is to into me. I dont want to hurt him but dont want to lead him on either. IF I was one of the guys I just dated, I would just stop calling, answering the phone, just disappear.. I think its chickens--t to do that.
he is a local guy. I am not into him cause he moves so fast, is not very worldly experienced. I am very attracted to him but think its just lust.. Just to soon to know.. Hell, I just got divorced and this new guy wants me to be with only him..
roseofsharonmanchester, Hampshire, England UK8,699 posts
In an ideal world, I think we'd all opt for truth over lies, of course. You talk about NOT telling someone something that may hurt them, but then you talk about opting for a lie or the truth? Different......
I would have to way up the pros and cons of telling them and them facing a temporary hurt against not telling them, and choose the lesser of two evils. Each situation would have to be judged on its own merits, I don't think you can have a rule of thumb here. Life is not black and white.... if only it were that simple...!!
I know life aint simple, but it was a simple question though...not to think too much, pretty simple...you know somebody is lying to another person, do u tell that person and save her/him the suffering when they're more into a relationship or not, SIMPLE... Everybody else understood...
I will, thanks. He is very nice and I do enjoy him. I just dont want to be smothered. There is a guy I am writing on line(not this site) that seems nice and want to see how that goes. I think if I am looking at different guys profiles I am not ready to be with only this local guy. Well off to his house, he is barbq steaks for me. Have a great day everyone.. cheers..
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Have always chose to tell the truth, sometimes they have believed me, sometimes they have stopped talking to me, only to come back later and tell me how right I was.
So, I rather tell the truth, what would you guys do??